I’m an introspective but gregarious late bloomer, never did look or
act my age. I’m the oldest of 7 kids from a normal, dysfunctional,
happy family. I love spending time with my family and friends, but
I also need time to spend on my obsessions: music, dance, and
learning. I’m a foodie and love to cook – I’ve taken culinary
classes. My TV viewing is limited - the Daily Show, Doc Martin and
Real Time. I like TED podcasts. I exercise as often as I need to
feel good – I recently bought a bike. I love to travel; meeting and
spending time with new people in new places is a hoot. I am very
comfortable being around people who don’t look like or think like
me. I’m non-judgmental, people trust me quickly and tell me
everything! I am an eternal optimist, and except for dark, cold
winter days, I am usually a pretty happy person. My family lived in
Hawaii during my elementary school years. The smells, sights, feels
and sounds of paradise are forever etched in my mind and are still
a source of comfort for me. The grandiosity and beauty of nature
puts me totally in awe, and sometimes there’s just too much to
I like my home to be comfortable and filled with things I like to
look at and listen to. Art, dance and music capture my soul. Etta
James, Sarah Vaughan and Cannonball Adderley are like comfort food.
But all music is worth a listen.
And speaking of comfort food, Thai and Maryland eastern shore style
seafood are at the top of my list. But anything that tickles my
tongue is a turn-on. I lived in San Francisco for a year and was
surrounded by foodies, mixologists and sommeliers. I spent three
months in New Orleans with an expense account. I’m fascinated by
the ritual of it all and totally enjoy good food and drink.
I’m a lifelong learner – always gravitating towards things I’m
afraid of, don’t know or can’t do yet. I’m a dancer: ballroom,
Salsa and other nightclub Latin dances, and Disco. I taught part
time at Arthur Murray’s for a few years, and other venues after
that. I’ve been studying guitar, only 9,000 hours to go. I recently
joined Alexandria Singers and found a great voice coach. Wonder
where this will take me? I like to read; I’m a sponge for knowledge
- advances in health, neuropsychology, genetics and diet - amazing
What I’m looking for:
Aside from wanting to find someone who can put up with my silly
butt for the next 40 years (always optimistic), I’d like someone
who has the ability and desire to create a relationship that’s
going to be good for both of us; best friends, best lovers,
understanding and supporting the things that we both need to be
content with and excited about life. I like curious, positive,
friendly people; people who give other people the benefit of the
doubt. I like honest, assertive women who don’t mind taking charge
for the things that they are good at, I really don’t need or want
to dominate anyone. The honesty part is really important to me; no
secrets. For me, after a reasonable period of time of getting to
know and trust each other, secrets are a deal breaker. I can’t let
my problems or relationship problems go unresolved for very long. I
work hard at understanding and working through issues that cause me
pain in life. There aren’t many things that I’m too embarrassed to
talk about. I’m a very kind, patient, nonjudgmental person, and I
want a partner of the same ilk. I’m a yapper (like to talk), and
I’m very interested in people, I go deep quickly. And there are
times when I need to reflect and figure out how I feel about
things. Hope you’re OK with that.
What I’m doing with my life
My priorities have changed over the past few years. I've started a
process of cleaning out what doesn’t fit anymore, both physically
and mentally. The job is good; my artsy passions have run their
course for a while. I’ve been very happy with myself for a few
years now. The one thing that I think about everyday that isn’t
there yet is someone special to share the simple pleasures that
life has to offer – someone to smell the roses with. The day-to-day
routine just doesn’t seem so routine when you wake with your best
friend in your arms.
I’m really good at
Creating a good time in social situations, I like to play with
people and am very good at making people feel comfortable. I am
also a good teacher and mentor, at work and in my non-work areas of
expertise. I’m a very patient person, very intuitive and a good
The first things people usually notice about me
I like to play with people. I'm the oldest male of 7 kids, and
tease, joke and banter. Not malicious, but sometimes it appears
little rough for people who have led sheltered lives.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Most of my reading these days in Internet based, it's so easy to
research topics of interest without books! But I do Kindle.
My food tastes are eclectic; I lived in San Francisco for a year,
New Orleans for three months, I know how to eat and I like it
spicy! My dad was a native of Brooklyn NY and was an expert in
searching out little dives that offered the best in culinary
delights. I think it must be genetic.
I've been a musician in some way since high school. I was a Jazz
major in college. For me, dancing is all about the music. I love
The six things I could never do without
My tongue – how else could I taste?
My ears – how else could I hear?
My eyes – how else could I see?
My fingers – how else could I touch?
Margaritas, chips and salsa
That’s seven, never was good at math.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Everything! The conversation in my head is always analyzing the
world’s problems, or thinking about a new playlist for my iPod, or
remembering how the water tastes and smells at Waikiki. And then I
On a typical Friday night I am
For a while now Friday nights have been spent at home
decompressing. I think a lot in both my career and in my after work
passions. After 5 or 6 days I just don’t want to pay attention to
anything! I haven’t dated in a while, but I can imagine looking
forward to spending quality time on Friday nights with someone I
really want to be with.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
The Martians planted me here.
You should message me if
All of this writing doesn’t say a thing about how we’ll connect,
that requires a meeting!