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32 F Santa Cruz, CA

My Details

Last Online
Jul 21
Asian, White
5′ 3″ (1.60m)
Body Type
Mostly vegan
Graduated from Ph.D program
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Mostly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids
Likes dogs and has cats

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My self-summary
I'm a gentle kind of person with a soft spot for animals. I've got a childlike sense of fun about a lot of things (even "adult" things). I tend to see most things in many shades of gray and feel puzzled when others don't. I'm more of a "both/and" kind of person than an "either/or" - blame it on being biracial and bisexual. I love people (but hate getting bumped around in crowds). I live life with passion for learning new things, experiencing as much as I can, and enjoying what's in front of me. When I see something that I like, I don't just want to admire - I want to try too.

A hike in the mountains is nice, but a day at the beach is nicer.

According to OKCupid, I'm "More Cool", "More Kinky", and "More Passion-driven" than your average 30-year-old bi girl. So, yeah!

I have had some really crazy and hilarious part-time jobs to help fund my graduate studies. (Or more accurately, to help make my life worthwhile while I was stuck in the financial black hole of graduate school.) Ask me about them sometime over a drink.
What I’m doing with my life
Making music, cooking brunch, happy hour, going to shows, rocking costumes, exploring, talking and listening to people, road tripping, reading, belly dancing, running, boundary-pushing (my own boundaries, that is - I respect other people's boundaries)... And yes, I have a real job too!
I’m really good at
Adapting. Balance. Living in grey areas. Playing. Getting down on the dance floor. Seeing other people's point of view, and still having my own. Jumping in courageously and/or recklessly, as the case may be. Living wholeheartedly.
The first things people usually notice about me
I have been told by several people that I have a great laugh, which I take as a fabulous compliment. I employ said laugh frequently.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: Everything is Illuminated, A Fine Balance, Brave New World, The Three Stigmata of Palmer Eldritch, Alice's Adventures in Wonderland, Dune. See also: Anais Nin, Haruki Murakami, Kurt Vonnegut

Movies: Requiem for a Dream, Moon, Fantastic Mr. Fox, The Life Aquatic with Steve Zissou, Benny & June, Wall-E, Battle Royale, Brick, Half Nelson, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, A Scanner Darkly, Children of Men

Shows: Doctor Who, Shameless (U.K.), Peep Show, Colbert, Twin Peaks, Lost, Star Trek: The Next Generation, The Daily Show, Battlestar Galactica, Fringe, Mad Men, Arrested Development

Music: Tune-Yards, The Beatles, Janelle Monae, Prince, Fiona Apple, Joss Stone, The Pixies, Gillian Welch, Girl Talk, Ellie Goulding, The Shins, Zero 7, TV on the Radio, Ghostland Observatory, Adele, Yeah Yeah Yeahs, Gorillaz, Portishead, Girl in a Coma, Michael Kiwanuka, Thievery Corporation, Os Mutantes, Xenia Rubinos

Food: Ethiopian, Indian, creative veggie cuisine, brunch! Oh God, yes, brunch.
The six things I could never do without
Free time, affection, conversation, music, sunshine, learning new things. Sure, not essential for survival, but essential for thriving.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
People, and what makes them tick. What to make for dinner. How to get the most joy and love out of my life. Possible tattoo designs. How Jack Black and Jack White should collaborate on a record.
On a typical Friday night I am
Open to suggestions. I'm particularly fond of checking out live music, including but not limited to music of the danceable kind. Also easily convinced to spend too much money on a truly delicious meal.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
In 5th grade, I joined the "cool kids club", where the popular kids (read: them) taught the less-than-popular kids (read: us) how to be cool by teaching us how to do things like cuff our jeans properly and not wear (gasp) leggings.

Obviously, it worked.
I’m looking for
  • Guys and girls who like bi girls
  • Ages 25–40
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
You want to connect. You've got something to share. There is something secretly (or not-so-secretly) badass about you. Mega-bonus points for passion, creativity, affection, intelligence, and kindness.