For me, the hardest part about being single is the conspicuous lack of a best friend in life. I have good friends of both genders, but there's something unique I haven't found outside of a partnership as a place to give my love and adoration -- I've got a lot to give, and I feel kind of like a fish out of water when single. For better or worse, I'm also rather picky, so I'm not going to jump into something just to avoid a sense of loneliness; but finding a really good match, well there's the trick, isn't it?
I'm an idealist, and very smart intellectually, but I've learned to place far greater value on being in touch with my heart. I'm a classic "sensitive New Age guy", strong in kindness and empathy, out to prove that in the dating game, nice guys can finish first! I think it takes a very particular kind of preference for a gentle teddy bear of a guy (although I'm not a pushover by any means) -- I'm not going to be everyone's cup of tea and that's ok. Perhaps I *am* yours? If so, keep on reading...
I'm ultimately looking for a spiritual partnership; an amazing relationship rooted in an awareness of a greater reality and one in which we grow individually and together, and one in which our service to the world is amplified by our being together! It's interesting how many atheist/agnostic people have profiles here. I would have called myself agnostic 25 years ago, now my spiritual path is deeply important to me; I'm looking for someone who is a seeker first and foremost and who isn't thrown by the word "spiritual".
I tend to be especially attracted to strong women; my ideal would be someone who isn't looking for traditional relationship roles, but rather is interested in inventing something unique and new as we go along. Someone with a spiritual focus in life (i.e. an understanding/knowing that physical reality is the mere tip of the iceberg). Someone inquisitive, open, very smart, deep, aware, and probably unique enough that you too have wondered "where is my match, surely there must be someone out there who really 'gets' me?".
** Update 1/6/14 - Wow, I just saw the movie "Her" (written/directed by Spike Jonze) and was completely blown away, quite possibly the greatest movie I have *ever* seen. It is an incredibly profound and deep exploration of love, relationships, and consciousness. I cannot recommend it highly enough! If you have already seen it, and would like to discuss the movie, and what it says about relationships and what's possible, please, send me a message!!