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44 M Lincoln, NE

I’m looking for

  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 30–55
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Today – 8:21am
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body Type
A little extra
Graduated from university
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Has a kid, but doesn’t want more
Has dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), French (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
That doesn't mean looking for casual.

Genuine and generous
Quietly competent...soft-spoken yet opinionated



Night owl

Guidelines I endeavor to keep close to mind:
Be kind, careful, honest, and yourself.
Think before you act. (be mindful of all you can)
Love your neighbor. (negativity is poisonous)
Pay attention.
If you are miserable, look in the mirror to find out why. You can find the answer there.
Everyone else is having a hard time too, so be kind.
Everyone else has been hurt too, so be kind.
Did I mention think? And pay attention?

**Various types of polyamory are well described in this FAQ. I thoroughly recommend it as a starting place if you're wondering what that even means. There is quite a spectrum of polyamory. To explain my take on ethical non-monogamy here would be more than I'm willing to write right now...
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Trying to create my own meaning out of it all.

Maintaining my center. Practicing my zen.

My degree is in fine arts, and I work in IT to pay the bills. My heart lies elsewhere. Where, I can't quite seem to figure out. So I find my work unfulfilling. Same as a lot of us. But hey, it pays the mortgage, so it's not all bad. But I feel a disconnect between the things I do for a living, the society I find myself living in, and the way I feel and think.

A few years ago I would have never dreamed about the life I lead now. So many positive changes... Among those meeting SoftSandalwood and JunebugGemeni
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Being creative and analytical. I'm a bit of a nerd. Or is that geek? OK, both.

The last few years, my most creative outlet is brewing beer and making mead. It's magical, taking several disparate ingredients, combining and transforming them into something mind-altering. Beer is fun, but mead is so much easier to make...
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Why, my dashing good looks and devastating wit, of course! =)

I kid, I kid! Probably my hair?
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
From food, to fine arts, to music, if it's talented and well-executed, I will appreciate it. If it's talented, well-executed *and* has something interesting/quirky that makes it stand out, I will like it.

I don't read as much as I would like to or should. There are not enough hours in the day for all the things I want. I want it all! Lately, my reading is mostly news and politics. I get to be a bit of a political junkie sometimes. A Song of Ice and Fire.

Movies - I like when they make me think. Or are somehow unique. Bizarre gets bonus points. I love Lost in Translation, but I only watch it once in a great while.

Music... I loathe modern pop country. Other than that, my music tastes are highly eclectic, and all over the board. For instance, I appreciate great musicianship, and extreme creativity and even novelty. I enjoy Koop, OK Go!, all sorts of music old and new. I love being exposed to new-to-me music, of which there is a lot. I love Joanna Newsom, but only really get to listen to her when I'm alone. lol. Oh, and must needs not forget Frank Zappa, soooper-geeenius.

Food - I like any and all cuisines I've ever tried. I have a weakness for sushi. I can be a little picky about veggies. OK, maybe more than a little. Love all fruits.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
The wonderful and amazing people I have in my life!
Creative outlets
An inquisitive mind - mine and yours!
Wool socks
Great beer and interesting cheese. Beer pairs with cheese better than wine ever could.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The future, and how we can avert going to hell in a handbasket. (Climate change)

Nuanced explanations to OKC questions.

The artist Alex Grey once said that, “True love is when two people’s pathologies complement one another’s.” Love is, by definition, crazy and irrational. And the best love works when our irrationalities complement one another and our flaws enamor one another. It may be our perfections that attract one another. But it’s our imperfections that decide whether we stay together or not.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
At Jake's (though I hate the cigar smoke when it's heavy) at 5pm or shortly thereafter beer-geeking out. I'm a semi-pro beer geek and certified beer judge. Yes really, and no, it's a lot more difficult than you might think.

Or just chilling at home. Maybe a fire outside and enjoying the night. Spring is springing, had a couple lovely fires outside already!
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I am entirely weary of everything "Husker", and I don't follow sports.

My favorite Muppet is Dr. Teeth. Why? Because he's mellow and full of zen-like wisdom. I try to be that way.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You're looking for passion and chemistry as well as an intimate friendship with an emotional and mental connection. Trust, comfort, security, meaning, significance, respect...

If you've found something that clicks or interests you, please consider it =)

Or if you just like wool socks.