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44 M Lincoln, NE

My Details

Last Online
Today – 12:59pm
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body Type
A little extra
Graduated from university
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Has a kid, but doesn’t want more
Has dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), French (Poorly)

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My self-summary

Genuine and generous
Quietly competent...soft-spoken yet opinionated
Loyal to a fault.


INFP. Hopelessly idealistic.

I'm searching, discovering and creating. Creating life's meaning is hard work!

I'm a night person. I like to stay up late. And I like to sleep in when possible.

Guidelines I endeavor to keep close to mind:
Be kind, careful, honest, and yourself.
Think before you act. (be mindful of all you can)
Love your neighbor. (negativity is poisonous)
Pay attention.
If you are miserable, look in the mirror to find out why. You can find the answer there.
Everyone else is having a hard time too, so be kind.
Everyone else has been hurt too, so be kind.
Did I mention think? And pay attention!?

**Various types of polyamory are well described in this FAQ. I thoroughly recommend it as a starting place if you're wondering what that even means. There is quite a spectrum of polyamory. To explain my take on ethical non-monogamy here would be more than I'm willing to write right now...
What I’m doing with my life
Trying to create my own meaning out of it all.

My degree is in fine arts, and I work in IT to pay the bills. My heart lies elsewhere. Where, I can't quite seem to figure out. So I find my work unfulfilling. Same as a lot of us. But hey, it pays the mortgage and stuff, so it's not all bad.

A few years ago I would have never dreamed about the life I lead now. So many positive changes...
I’m really good at
Being creative and analytical. I'm a bit of a nerd. Or is that geek? Maybe some of both.

Making and fixing things. I'm good with my hands and enjoy working on all kinds of projects, from drawings to game boards to motorcycle maintenance and home repair.

The last few years, my most creative outlet is brewing beer and making mead. It's magical, taking several disparate ingredients, combining and transforming them into something totally different and even mind-altering. Beer is fun, but mead is easy.

I like to think I'm fairly decent at cooking, although I do precious little of it. Brewing counts, yes?

I used to make stained glass windows for a living. I really miss the satisfying sensation of making a perfect score on a sheet of glass and running it out.
The first things people usually notice about me
Why, my dashingly good looks and devastating wit, of course! ;-)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
From food, to fine arts, to music, if it's talented and well-executed, I will appreciate it. If it's talented, well-executed *and* has something interesting/quirky that makes it stand out, I will like it.

I don't read as much as I would like to or should. There are not enough hours in the day for all the things I want. I want it all! Lately, my reading is mostly news and politics. I get to be a bit of a political junkie sometimes. A Song of Ice and Fire.

Movies - I like when they make me think. Or are somehow unique. Bizarre gets bonus points. I love Lost in Translation, but I only watch it once in a great while.

Music... I loathe modern pop country. Other than that, my music tastes are highly eclectic, and all over the board. For instance, I appreciate great musicianship, and extreme creativity and even novelty. I enjoy Koop, OK Go!, all sorts of music old and new. I love being exposed to new-to-me music, of which there is a lot. I love Joanna Newsom, but only really get to listen to her when I'm alone. lol. Oh, and must needs not forget Frank Zappa, soooper-geeenius.

Food - I like any and all cuisines I've ever tried. I have a weakness for sushi. I can be a little picky about veggies. OK, maybe more than a little. Love all fruits.

I don't follow sports.
The six things I could never do without
The wonderful and amazing people I have in my life
Creative outlets
An inquisitive mind
Wool socks
Great beer and interesting cheese.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
The future, and how we can avert going to hell in a handbasket.

Nuanced explanations to OKC questions. I have been challenged by people's explanations, and changed answers sometimes. I am pretty open-minded, and will re-evaluate anything if challenged. I usually don't take a hard stance unless I have given a subject some serious contemplation.
On a typical Friday night I am
At Jake's (though I hate the cigar smoke when it's heavy) at 5pm or shortly thereafter beer-geeking out. I'm a semi-pro beer geek and certified beer judge. Can't wait for Friday this week...

If Lincoln's roller derby team is playing, 50/50 chance I am watching at Pershing. It's a blast. My daughter loves to go, and I like her being able to see something less traditionally "girly".

Or just chilling at home. Maybe a fire outside and enjoying the night. Spring is springing, can't wait for a nice fire! Looks like this weekend will be awesome for that...
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I once fell in love with someone I only saw during a 3 hour boat ride. We never even spoke. I never knew her name. This was 15 years ago, and I dubbed her "Boat Girl" for lack of anything better. Yeah I know, it sounds weird or creepy? It wasn't.

I am entirely weary of everything "Husker".
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 28–55
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
You're looking for passion and chemistry as well as an intimate friendship with an emotional and mental connection....Trust, comfort, security, meaning, significance, respect...

If you've found something that clicks or interests you, please consider it =)

Or if you just like wool socks.