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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 50–62
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating

My details

Last online
May 16
5′ 6″ (1.68m)
Body type
Graduated from Ph.D program
Rather not say
Doesn’t have kids
My self-summary
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I’m easy-going and steady, warm, thoughtful, intellectually and emotionally vibrant. I’m interested in understanding people and events apart from the conventional perspectives. I’m open, emotionally and intellectually, to new experiences, persons, and places. My interests course in the direction of the cultural and the political. On the former, I’m all over the map. In politics, I’m wary of labels, but if pressed, clearly of the radically-minded left. While serious about many things, I have a very healthy sense of the ironic and the absurd in myself and others as well as a good sense of humor.
What I’m doing with my life
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Reworking the stories, awakening and reawakening dormant selves, exercising, extending and perhaps growing new limbs and senses, tending to the moment with friends and trying to reengage with the hour, treading some new paths and tilling new ground, indulging as always my sometimes somewhat pugnacious curiosity, cultivating a prized 'negative capability' to take it in both playfully and seriously while looking toward a shared view of it all.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I am good at listening. I tend to be really good at -- on the one hand, analyzing things and on the other, drawing out connections, along a variety of dimensions.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I tend to be somewhat quiet at first but open up rather quickly
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Recent & some not so very recent books: Terry Tempest Williams, Finding beauty in a broken world; Robert Pogue Harrison, Juvenescence; Atticus Lish, Preparation for the Next Life; Iris Murdoch, The Sovereignty of Good; Richard Sennett, Together; Andrew Solomon, Far from the Tree

Memoirs: (recent reads) Victor Brombert, Trains of Thought; Edmund de Waal, The Hare with Amber Eyes; Richard Rodriguez, Darling; (long-standing loves) Alexander Herzen, My Past and Thoughts; Nadezhda Mandelstam, Hope against Hope, Hope Abandoned; Vladimir Nabokov, Speak, Memory; Amos Oz, A Tale of Love and Darkness; Aleksandr Wat, My Century

Movies (a sampling): Age of the Medici, Cabaret, the Lady Eve, Nashville, Ninotchka (with Garbo), Rules of the Game, Sullivan's Travels, Ways in the Night (Zanussi), Wings of Desire (Wenders)

Past TV shows: The Wire; Rocky and Bullwinkle

Music: these are a few of my favorite things: in jazz, Coltrane ("My favorite things"/"Naima"); Sonny Rollins (Road Show albums); Lester Young (always makes me smile); Clifford Brown; Miles Davis (esp. with Gil Evans); Booker Little; Bill Evans (with LaFaro/Motian); John Hicks; Cecil Taylor ("This nearly was mine"); Betty Carter ("Something wonderful"), Ella Fitzgerald (esp. singing Cole Porter), Shirley Horn (most anything), Abbey Lincoln, (the divine) Sarah Vaughan, Cassandra Wilson (New Moon Daughter); Jim Hall, Concierto de Aranjuez; and the great composers - Ellington, Mingus, Monk
in opera: Fidelio; Mozart (Marriage of Figaro, Don Giovanni, Magic Flute); Alban Berg, Lulu; those Italian guys, such as Rossini, Bellini, Verdi, Puccini (in Turandot, my heart goes out to Liu, especially if she’s Leontyne Price); Golijov (and Dawn Upshaw) ; various singers
in classical, blues, rock, folk, roots, pop, .... [to be continued ... preferably live]

food: I'm open to most offerings
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
I am sustained by (at least) affection, the arts, curiosity, the earth, family/friendship, and humor
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Finding beauty in a broken world (there's more than a title in Williams' book, see above), transcending the tribal and partisan, how to tame power

The greatest beauty grows at the greatest distance from the ego - Heschel

Praising, that's it ! One appointed to praising,
he came like the ore forth from the stone's
silence. His heart, o ephemeral press
of a wine that for men is unending
from Sonnet VII, Sonnets to Orpheus, Rilke
(trans. M.D. Herter Norton)

The many ages we inhabit and that dwell in us (prompted by Robert Pogue Harrison's Juvenescence, a wonderful and oft profound meditation on the topic)

So ... if "the heart crosses the abyss that the mind creates" (S. Levine) as I recently read and which seems true enough, can't the mind cross the fissures of a rended heart ? And where does imagination find its place in this binary scheme ? Imagination seems to wed the two in its search for elective affinities (which seems to be what many of us here are searching for)
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
you mean there's such a thing as a typical Friday night ?
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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will be said under the cone of silence
You should message me if
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You are genuinely open to a long-term relationship (partner or friend), are kind, intellectually curious, emotionally generous, have a strong sense of integrity, a sense of humility, and are able to appreciate humor in life and your self.