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  • Ages 50-63
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5' 6" (1.68m)
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Post grad
Doesn’t have kids
My self-summary
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I’m easy-going and steady, warm, thoughtful, intellectually and emotionally vibrant. I’m interested in understanding people and events apart from the conventional perspectives. I’m open, emotionally and intellectually, to new experiences, persons, and places. My interests course in the direction of the cultural and the political. On the former, I’m all over the map. In politics, I’m wary of labels, but if pressed, clearly of the radically-minded left. While serious about many things, I have a very healthy sense of the ironic and the absurd in myself and others as well as a good sense of humor.
What I’m doing with my life
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Reworking the stories, awakening and reawakening dormant selves, exercising, extending and perhaps growing new limbs and senses, be it through long walks, yoga, or some tentative first steps in tango, tending to the moment with friends and trying to reengage with the hour, treading some new paths (recently reinfected with Wanderlust) and tilling new ground in a community garden, indulging as always my sometimes somewhat pugnacious curiosity, cultivating a prized 'negative capability' to take it in both playfully and seriously while looking toward a shared view of it all.
I’m really good at
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I am good at listening. I tend to be really good at -- on the one hand, analyzing things and on the other, drawing out connections, along a variety of dimensions.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I tend to be somewhat quiet at first but open up rather quickly
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Recent & some not so very recent books: Terry Tempest Williams, Finding beauty in a broken world; Elena Ferrante, The Neapolitan Novels; David Graeber, The Utopia of Rules; Robert Pogue Harrison, Juvenescence; Rebecca Solnit, The Encyclopedia of Trouble and Spaciousness; Andrew Solomon, Far from the Tree

Lives of the Poets (recent reading): Aleksandr Blok: a life, Nina Berberova; James Merrill: life and work, Langdon Hammer; Holding on upside down: the life and work of Marianne Moore, Linda Cleavell; Jonathan Swift, Leo Damrosch; WB Yeats, I: The apprentice magi, RF Foster

Movies (a sampling): Age of the Medici, Cabaret, the Lady Eve, Nashville, Ninotchka (with Garbo), Rules of the Game, Sullivan's Travels, Ways in the Night (Zanussi), Wings of Desire (Wenders)

Past TV shows: The Wire; Rocky and Bullwinkle

Music: these are a few of my favorite things: in jazz, Coltrane ("My favorite things"/"Naima"); Sonny Rollins (Road Show albums); Lester Young (always makes me smile); Clifford Brown; Miles Davis (esp. with Gil Evans); Booker Little; Red Rodney; Bill Evans (with LaFaro/Motian); John Hicks; Cecil Taylor ("This nearly was mine"); Betty Carter ("Something wonderful"), Ella Fitzgerald (esp. singing Cole Porter), Shirley Horn (most anything), Abbey Lincoln, (the divine) Sarah Vaughan, Cassandra Wilson (New Moon Daughter); Jim Hall, Concierto de Aranjuez; and the great composers - Ellington, Mingus, Monk
in opera: Fidelio; Mozart (Marriage of Figaro, Don Giovanni, Magic Flute); Alban Berg, Lulu; those Italian guys, such as Rossini, Bellini, Verdi, Puccini (in Turandot, my heart goes out to Liu, especially if she’s Leontyne Price); Golijov (and Dawn Upshaw) ; various singers
in classical, blues, rock, folk, roots, pop, .... [to be continued ... preferably live]

food: I'm open to most offerings
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
I am sustained by (at least) affection, the arts, curiosity, the earth, family/friendship, and humor
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Finding beauty in a broken world (there's more than a title in Williams' book, see above), transcending the tribal and partisan, how to tame power

Let's grasp the import of this and then talk politics --

The greatest beauty grows at the greatest distance from the ego - Heschel

The riches of gratitude:
Let your last thinks all be thanks (Auden)

And the blessings of uncertainty:
I see narrow orders, limited tightness, but will
not run to that easy victory:
still around the looser, wider forces work:
I will try
to fasten into order enlarging grasps of disorder, widening
scope, but enjoying the freedom that
Scope eludes my grasp, that there is no finality of vision,
that I have perceived nothing completely,
that tomorrow a new walk is a new walk.
(from AR Ammons, Corsons Inlet)

and the reach of the forces of the heart -- "the first criterion of success in any human activity, the necessary preliminary, whether to scientific discovery or to artistic vision, is intensity of attention or, less pompously, love" (Auden, again !)

So ... if "the heart crosses the abyss that the mind creates" (S. Levine) as I recently read and which seems true enough, can't the mind cross the fissures of a rended heart ? And where does imagination find its place in this binary scheme ? Imagination seems to wed the two in its search for elective affinities (which seems to be what many of us here are searching for)
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
you mean there's such a thing as a typical Friday night ?
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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will be said under the cone of silence
You should message me if
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You are genuinely open to a long-term relationship (partner or friend), are kind, intellectually curious, emotionally generous, have a strong sense of integrity, a sense of humility, and are able to appreciate humor in life and your self.