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My self-summary
I’m easy-going and steady, warm, thoughtful, intellectually and emotionally vibrant. I’m interested in understanding people and events apart from the conventional perspectives. I’m open, emotionally and intellectually, to new experiences, persons, and places. My interests course in the direction of the cultural and the political. On the former, I’m all over the map. In politics, I’m wary of labels, but if pressed, clearly of the radically-minded left. While serious about many things, I have a very healthy sense of the ironic and the absurd in myself and others as well as a good sense of humor.
What I’m doing with my life
Reworking the stories, awakening and reawakening dormant selves, exercising, extending and perhaps growing new limbs and senses, be it through long walks, yoga, or some tentative first steps in tango, tending to the moment with friends and trying to reengage with the hour, treading some new paths (recently reinfected with Wanderlust) and tilling new ground in a community garden, indulging as always my sometimes somewhat pugnacious curiosity, cultivating a prized 'negative capability' to take it in both playfully and seriously while looking toward a shared view of it all -- perhaps with you.
I’m really good at
I am good at listening. I tend to be really good at -- on the one hand, analyzing things and on the other, drawing out connections, along a variety of dimensions.
The first things people usually notice about me
I tend to be somewhat quiet at first but open up rather quickly
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Recent & some not so very recent books: Terry Tempest Williams, Finding beauty in a broken world; Elena Ferrante, The Neapolitan Novels; David Graeber, The Utopia of Rules; Robert Pogue Harrison, Juvenescence; Rebecca Solnit, The Encyclopedia of Trouble and Spaciousness; Andrew Solomon, Far from the Tree

Lives of the Musicians (current/recent reading): Scott DeVeaux, The Birth of Bebop; John Szwed, Billie Holliday: the musician and the myth; Christoph Wolff, Mozart at the Gateway to his Fortune: serving the emperor, 1788-1791

Movies (a sampling): Age of the Medici, Cabaret, the Lady Eve, Nashville, Ninotchka (with Garbo), North by Northwest, Rules of the Game, Sullivan's Travels, Ways in the Night (Zanussi), Wings of Desire (Wenders)

Past TV shows: The Wire; Rocky and Bullwinkle

Music: these are a few of my favorite things: in jazz, Coltrane ("My favorite things"/"Naima"); Sonny Rollins (Road Show albums); Lester Young (always makes me smile); Clifford Brown; Miles Davis (esp. with Gil Evans); Booker Little; Red Rodney; Bill Evans (with LaFaro/Motian); John Hicks; Cecil Taylor ("This nearly was mine"); Betty Carter ("Something wonderful"), Ella Fitzgerald (esp. singing Cole Porter), Shirley Horn (most anything), Abbey Lincoln, (the divine) Sarah Vaughan, Cassandra Wilson (New Moon Daughter); Jim Hall, Concierto de Aranjuez; and the great composers - Ellington, Mingus, Monk
in opera: Fidelio; Mozart (Marriage of Figaro, Don Giovanni, Magic Flute); Alban Berg, Lulu; those Italian guys, such as Rossini, Bellini, Verdi, Puccini (in Turandot, my heart goes out to Liu, especially if she’s Leontyne Price); Golijov (and Dawn Upshaw) ; various singers
in classical, blues, rock, folk, roots, pop, .... [to be continued ... preferably live]

food: I'm open to most offerings
The six things I could never do without
I am sustained by (at least) affection, the arts, curiosity, the earth, family/friendship, and humor
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Finding beauty in a broken world (there's more than a title in Williams' book, see above), transcending the tribal and partisan, how to tame power

Let's grasp the import of this and then talk politics --

the peculiar half-life of political habits, memories, and traditions in persons, institutions, and societies,

and -- once again - "The crisis consists precisely in the fact that the old is dying and the new cannot be born; in this interregnum a great variety of morbid symptoms appear" Gramsci
(morbid symptoms are indeed flowering these days !)

The greatest beauty grows at the greatest distance from the ego - Heschel

The riches of gratitude:
Let your last thinks all be thanks (Auden)

And the blessings of uncertainty:
I see narrow orders, limited tightness, but will
not run to that easy victory:
still around the looser, wider forces work:
I will try
to fasten into order enlarging grasps of disorder, widening
scope, but enjoying the freedom that
Scope eludes my grasp, that there is no finality of vision,
that I have perceived nothing completely,
that tomorrow a new walk is a new walk.
(from AR Ammons, Corsons Inlet)

and the reach of the forces of the heart -- "the first criterion of success in any human activity, the necessary preliminary, whether to scientific discovery or to artistic vision, is intensity of attention or, less pompously, love" (Auden, again !)

So ... if "the heart crosses the abyss that the mind creates" (S. Levine) as I recently read and which seems true enough, can't the mind cross the fissures of a rended heart ? And where does imagination find its place in this binary scheme ? Imagination seems to wed the two in its search for elective affinities (which seems to be what many of us here are searching for)
On a typical Friday night I am
you mean there's such a thing as a typical Friday night ?
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
will be said under the cone of silence
You should message me if
You are genuinely open to a long-term relationship (partner or friend), are kind, intellectually curious, emotionally generous, have a strong sense of integrity, a sense of humility, and are able to appreciate humor in life and your self.