DISCLAIMER 2: I have a bussylife. I don't want to spend it mostly infront of the computer and I already do so much at work. Therefore I am not looking for chat partners or pen pals. As someone here already said: it's not the 90's anymore. So I will probably not answer if you live very far away and chances are slim we can manage to meet face to face without mayor complications. I wont answer to "Hi there, how are you" or similar messages. I mostly use the app.
I am often in Stuttgart and in Berlin. Everything else that can be reached in about 2 hours from Heidelberg by train would be in my radius.
Disclaimer 3: I do NOT like beards. Although I will admit, that some guys look good, even sexy with beards, I cannot stand the feeling of kissing a bearded face. At least no full beards or mustaches. I guess I am more attracted to Androginity and not really going for the hole super masculine thing.
I consider myself an outgoing and laidback person with a bit of a sarcastic sense of humor. Gelassenheit has become my Life-Motto (although I must admit I have kinda failed to live by it lately). The years have given me my quirks. There is a hippie somewhere underneath, a punk, a geek, a goth, a metalchik, dead sirious sometimes, playfull some others. Quite a feline.
I do enjoy being intellectually challenged, so the best way to score points is to engage in passionate discussions. I did study religionswissenschaft, philosophy and political science focusing on critical and postcolonial theory. This pretty much screwed me up in so many ways, that my world perception is probably only compatible with people that have commited to at least reading about post-structuralism. It is like taking the red pill.
I consider myself a person with lots of empathy, when past the point of critical analysis I can be very engaging.
I haven't lost all of my idealism, which is good, since I am into politics. A patina of cynisims paired with some sarcasm and selfirony has come to show though. This ususally keeps one sane.
One issue I am very passionate about since sometime now is secularism. The other political topics are civil rights for LGBTTIQ persons , the overcoming of gender-binarity and legalization and regulation of drugs. I am fighting for liberal, evidence based drug policies, that follow the principle of harm reduction.
I identify as bisexual, sapiosexual and genderqueer/fluid. I like to play with genderroles. A friend of mine once said, as I put on my corsett and High heels, "what a drag-show!". That doesn´t really describe it in total, but it puts a pin on it. I dislike the binarity of gender in the heteronormative discourse and have since pre-puberty challenged gender-conformity. Since I was brought up in a very conservative an patriarchal envirorment in Mexico, this was much to the distress of my family.
In respect to love: love is awesome. I like to love but I also love to play. I am looking for non- monogamous relationships. I want to encounter people with an open mind and without preconfigured ideas where something is heading. Borders between relationship types are fluid for me. I am getting comfortable with the concept of relationship anarchy.
If you are looking for someone to be yours or to marry: skip ahead.
This doesn't mean I cannot commit or give myself into something. Yes. I can.
I like complicated and challenging and weird.
I am more interested in expanding my experiences with persons with female sex or gender identity and genderqueer/fuid persons right now.