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32 Heidelberg, Germany Genderqueer, Gender Nonconforming, Genderfluid, Woman, Non-binary

Genderqueer, Gender Nonconforming, Genderfluid, Woman, Non-binary

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  • Ages 25–40
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  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

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Bisexual, Queer, Sapiosexual, Pansexual
Hispanic / Latin, White
5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body Type
Full figured
Strictly vegetarian
When drinking
Atheism, and very serious about it
Graduated from masters program
Politics / Government
Relationship Status
Seeing Someone
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Dislikes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), German (Fluently), Spanish (Fluently)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Disclaimer: everything that is stated here is a momentary construction of my person and personality and has no claim of being whole. And it is work in progress even though I do not constantly work in it.
DISCLAIMER 2: I have a bussylife. I don't want to spend it mostly infront of the computer and I already do so much at work. Therefore I am not looking for chat partners or pen pals. As someone here already said: it's not the 90's anymore. So I will probably not answer if you live very far away and chances are slim we can manage to meet face to face without mayor complications. I wont answer to "Hi there, how are you" or similar messages. I mostly use the app.
I am often in Stuttgart and in Berlin. Everything else that can be reached in about 2 hours from Heidelberg by train would be in my radius.
Disclaimer 3: I do NOT like beards. Although I will admit, that some guys look good, even sexy with beards, I cannot stand the feeling of kissing a bearded face. At least no full beards or mustaches. I guess I am more attracted to Androginity and not really going for the hole super masculine thing.

I consider myself an outgoing and laidback person with a bit of a sarcastic sense of humor. Gelassenheit has become my Life-Motto (although I must admit I have kinda failed to live by it lately). The years have given me my quirks. There is a hippie somewhere underneath, a punk, a geek, a goth, a metalchik, dead sirious sometimes, playfull some others. Quite a feline.

I do enjoy being intellectually challenged, so the best way to score points is to engage in passionate discussions. I did study religionswissenschaft, philosophy and political science focusing on critical and postcolonial theory. This pretty much screwed me up in so many ways, that my world perception is probably only compatible with people that have commited to at least reading about post-structuralism. It is like taking the red pill.

I consider myself a person with lots of empathy, when past the point of critical analysis I can be very engaging.

I haven't lost all of my idealism, which is good, since I am into politics. A patina of cynisims paired with some sarcasm and selfirony has come to show though. This ususally keeps one sane.
One issue I am very passionate about since sometime now is secularism. The other political topics are civil rights for LGBTTIQ persons , the overcoming of gender-binarity and legalization and regulation of drugs. I am fighting for liberal, evidence based drug policies, that follow the principle of harm reduction.

I identify as bisexual, sapiosexual and genderqueer/fluid. I like to play with genderroles. A friend of mine once said, as I put on my corsett and High heels, "what a drag-show!". That doesn´t really describe it in total, but it puts a pin on it. I dislike the binarity of gender in the heteronormative discourse and have since pre-puberty challenged gender-conformity. Since I was brought up in a very conservative an patriarchal envirorment in Mexico, this was much to the distress of my family.

In respect to love: love is awesome. I like to love but I also love to play. I am looking for non- monogamous relationships. I want to encounter people with an open mind and without preconfigured ideas where something is heading. Borders between relationship types are fluid for me. I am getting comfortable with the concept of relationship anarchy.
If you are looking for someone to be yours or to marry: skip ahead.

This doesn't mean I cannot commit or give myself into something. Yes. I can.

I like complicated and challenging and weird.

I am more interested in expanding my experiences with persons with female sex or gender identity and genderqueer/fuid persons right now.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Full time green-party-activist. Partime payed the rest freiwillige Selbstausbeutung. My freetime I try to spend as hedonistic as possible. This can also mean just chilling out and relaxing. I used to be a barkeeper and a tourist guide... sometimes I do that still.
I am not much of a planner, I go with things as they come and try to enjoy the journey. But my calender keeps getting filled all the time, which forces planning on me...darn politics.

Edit: I find myself with a bunch of time right now, since I am taking some time off of politics. Tryingo to sort my self and dedicating more time to encounters and enjoyable things.

Edit: Reevaluating. Considering persuing a PhD.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
From the feedback I had: at giving massages
The first things people usually notice about me
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Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I am quite cinephil alltough not really too artsy and I have a wast DVD collection. I insist on watching movies and TV shows in original language. I have found myself favoring good TV shows over movies lately. I still cannot explain this.

Movies: Tarantino, Coppola (both), Tim Burton, Scorcesse and Lars von Trier are my favorite directors.

Some of my fav movies in random order:

Melancholia by Lars von Trier
Django unchained
Pulp Fiction
Death Proof
Kill Bill
Inglorious Basterds
Bram Stoker's Dracula (Coppola)
Interview with a Vampire
Edward Scissorhands
Four Rooms
Nightmare before Christmas and Corpse Bride
Dead Man
Walk the line
Lock Stock and Two Smoking Barrels
Vicky, Christina, Barcelona
The Aviator
Lola Rennt
The Crow
Fight Club
Going Postal (Discworld)
A Hitchhikers Guide to the Galaxy
Gegen die Wand
Die Fabelhafte Welt der Amelie
Scrouching Tiger and Hidden Dragon
Stranger than Fiction
Donnie Darko
Amores Perros
The Professional
Pirates of the Caribbean
The Lord of the Rings
Dead Poet Society
Stranger than fiction
thank you for smoking

And many others

Shows: Game of Thrones, True Blood, Dexter, Braking Bad, The Big Bang Theory, Fringe, Dollhouse. House of Cards, The Newsroom, HIMYM ....

I think TV shows are being produced and written very well and that they manage to give a critical reflection of our societies. Some at least. In they´re very provincial american way eitherway.

Books: Terry Pratchett, JRR Tolkien and JRR Martin, Saramago, Houellebecq and post-structuralist and postmodern philosophy and cultural sciences Books.

Music: my favourite is rock and Nu Metal, but I like a very wide range of genres including but not limited too: jazz, ska, punk, reggae, classical, drum n bass, psychedelic, soul, funk, dubstep, swing and excluding: hip hop, rap, techno, pop

A list of bands I like coppied from my Schwarzes Glück Profile:

Marilyn Manson
System of a Down
Rage Against the Machine
Nine Inch Nails
Dota und die Stadtpiraten
Pink Floyd
Pearl Jam
Infected Mushroom
Subway to Sally
Bob Marley
Panteón Rococó
Chemical Brothers
Die Ärzte
Die Toten Hosen
Ella Fitzgerald
Guns N Roses
Johnny Cash
Jimmy Hendrix
The Doors
Gotan Projekt
Kruder & Dorfmeister
Limp Bizkit
Linking Park
Mano Negra
Massiv Attak
Nancy Sinatra
Norah Jones
Papa Roach
Pearl Jam
Todos tus Muertos
The Smashing Pumpkins
Tito & Tarantula
Richard Cheese

Alles sehr von meiner Stimmung abhängig.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
After the basics like food and water:
Human touch and interaction
A comfy bed
I have gotten quite dependable of my smartphone too
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Lately mostly politics and all the crap happening in the world and how it is all connected and the responsability we have. Secularism and laicism. Campaining to end the war on Drugs. Gender and queer politics. With a bottle of wine usually more about philosophical topics.
Greatful for activities that keep me from thinking.

Edith: lately about hedonism, life-work-balance, ift it is worth sacrificing that much the good stuff in live to pursue a political carreer. If the world is going to shit and we might just enjoy the ride before it does, bacause at least in politics change is to painlfully slow. About relationship anarchy and how in concept it is great and quite difficult in praxis. About the fuidity of identies. About fluidity. About change. About emmigrating to the canary islands and opening a hostel or running a cannabis social club. About my next tattoo. About what color I want to dye my hair next.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
tattoos make me horny... Beards quite much the opposite
You should message me if
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You are or want to live and love poly.
You think there is potential.
You think it could be intellectually stimulating.
You think there might be a spark.
You want to see where the rabbithole goes.
You live nearby since I don´t fancy long distance anything.

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