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24 Oxford, UK Woman


I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 30–49
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating

My details

Last online
Apr 20
5′ 5″ (1.65m)
Body type
Other, and somewhat serious about it
Gemini, and it’s fun to think about
Working on masters program
Art / Music / Writing
Less than $20,000
Open relationship
Strictly non-monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Likes dogs and has cats

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My self-summary
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Queer, polyamorous, feminist writer with purple hair. Recent sightings reported in and around the city of Oxford.

I am a contradiction. A feminist and an old fashioned romantic. Shy and outspoken. Extremely driven, and the world's worst procrastinator. A traveller who needs a place to call home. A meticulously organised free spirit.

I have been described as "too opinionated for [my] own good" and "less innocent than [I] look." I took both as compliments.

I promise you I am more than you bargained for.
What I’m doing with my life
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I don't have a life. My Masters degree ate it., yeah, studying for an MA in fiction writing by night. Working in a theatre (which is the best job ever) by day. Having a life by whenever-I-have-time.

What else?

Well, I'm in a happy, loving and polyamorous relationship with the most wonderful man in the world. <3 I also have two wonderful sweeties who I totally adore. All of these relationships are ~5.5 years old at time of writing.

I'm a homebody and a homemaker at heart. I bake bread, make jam, throw dinner parties, and take pride in making my living space pretty, cosy and welcoming.

Classic introvert. I love to socialise but find large groups of people or very loud and busy social situations difficult. Being around people for long periods depletes my energy and I need my alone time to restore it.

I'm Pagan, following an eclectic but mostly Wiccan-based path, and my spirituality has become increasingly important in my life over the last few years.

Cat owne...umm, owned by a cat. I know my place!

I love to travel. There's a little part of me that fantasises about packing a suitcase, hopping on a plane and spending a year or two going around the world. It's never going to happen unless I win the lottery or write a bestseller, but it's a nice dream. Instead I jet off for a week or two where I can.

I like to keep fit. I swim well, run badly, and have recently started doing some strength training and yoga.

Wherever I go, I can reliably be found drinking a caffeinated beverage and hugging someone.
I’m really good at
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.....getting myself into ridiculous and often surreal situations.

Well, they make for interesting stories.

Also getting lost. Ask me about the time I tried to be too clever for my own good and got lost in Warsaw. Funny now, not so at the time!

What else?

Well, primarily, I'm good at words. Whether it's writing a beautiful fictional passage, crafting the perfect love-letter, or eloquently arguing my point, words are my drug, my poison, my weapon of choice.

More? Okay, being a good friend. Being there for those I care about. Cheering them up and cheering them on when things get tough. Always being crazy-busy, but always finding time for the people I love.

Cooking and playing hostess. I'm a proud foodie and little will make me happier than a table full of people sitting down to a meal I've lovingly created. Also, my cakes are a-freaking-mazing. Trust me.

I'm very independant and take pride in supporting myself. Also pretty skilled at figuring things out when I've no idea how to do them

On the significantly less practical side, I'm a sucker for old-fashioned romance. If I love you, I'll write you soppy poetry, kiss you in the rain, and travel all night just to meet you when your flight gets in at dawn.
The first things people usually notice about me
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The fact that I have utterly fabulous bright purple hair.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books (Fiction):
'Nineteen Minutes' (Jodi Picoult); 'Sing You Home' (Jodi Picolt); 'Tipping the Velvet' (Sarah Waters); Pages For You (Sylvia Brownrigg); 'Thursday Next' series (Jasper Fforde); 'The Hunger Games' trilogy (Suzanne Collins); 'Love You Two' (Maria Pallotta-Chiarolli); 'The Kite Runner' (Khaled Hosseini); 'Room' (Emma Donoghue); 'Atonement' (Ian McEwan); 'Memoirs of a Geisha' (Arthur Golden); 'The Vampire Chronicles' (Anne Rice)

Books (Non-fiction):
90% of my non-fiction collection is about either sexuality or writing in their various forms. This actually sums me up pretty well.

Moulin Rouge, The Phantom of the Opera, Imagine Me and You, Loving Annabelle, Milk, A Very Long Engagement, Spirited Away, 10 Things I Hate About You, Atonement, Beautiful Thing, Edge of Seventeen, Boys Don't Cry, The Hunger Games series, Pride.

Nightwish, Within Temptation, Evanescence, Paramore, New Years Day, Hey Monday, Delain, Kimya Dawson, Corinna Fugate, My Chemical Romance, Emilie Autumn, Ingrid Michaelson, Angelzoom, The Moldy Peaches, Avril Lavigne, Lacuna Coil

Music (Musicals):
Les Miserables; Wicked; Into the Woods; Chess; Phantom of the Opera; Little Shop of Horrors; Fame; Avenue Q.

I am pretty sure I could happily eat sushi every day for the rest of my life.

I also love Thai, Chinese, Italian and Indian food.

And I could not live without chocolate.

TEA TEA TEA TEA TEA! (Drunk the proper British way - that is, unadulterated with milk, sugar or anything else.) Also coffee, with milk and lots of sugar this time. I'm contrary that way. Gin is my poison of choice when it comes to alcohol, though I'll never turn down a well-made fancy cocktail.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Partners, sweeties, friends and family (both bio- and -logical) mean the absolute world to me.

They're the blood in my veins and the air I breathe.

My kitty is my child. Yes, I'm one of those awful people who prefers the company of my cat to a large percentage of the human race. SorryNotSorry.

Hugs, cuddles, kisses, touching, stroking, massage, playing with hair, sex, or just sleeping in each others' arms.

I love trying new dishes, recipes and restaurants. Bit of a weakness for cocktails and good gin. I also have a caffeine habit the size of a small country.

From exploring a new country, to discovering something exciting right here in my own city... I crave adventure in all its forms.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
I'd love to say something deeply philosophical here, but actually some of the things I think about a lot are what I might have for dinner tonight, the ongoing scheduling dance that is my life, financial stuff, and when it's going to stop being so fucking cold.

My Love, of course, is never far from my thoughts.

Oh, and I occasionally think about whatever story I'm writing. Or thinking about writing. Or thinking that I really should be thinking about writing.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Sleeping. I'm old.

Or alternatively, probably travelling, packing or otherwise preparing for whatever I'm doing for the rest of the weekene.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I'm kinky as fuck. I literally do not remember how to have vanilla sex.
You should message me if
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***EDIT: not currently dating for a myriad of complicated reasons I won't bore you with, but still seeking new friends, tea-and-conversation partners and adventure-buddies. ***

That said, you should message me if... like the sound of me and want to be friends, see how we relate to each other, and let our connection fall to the level it is naturally supposed to take.'re not freaked out by queerness, polyamory, feminism or very smart women. want to enthuse about a shared interest. identify as a feminist and/or lean to the left of centre politically. do NOT think 'Fifty Shades of Grey' constitutes brilliant literature. can tell me what Amaranth means and where it comes from without the aid of Google.'re a hopeless romantic with a beautiful mind and an insatiable lust for adventure.'d rather get into my head than into my pants. have a way with words that can render me utterly unable to resist your charms. actually bothered to read this profile, not just looked at the photos. value long lasting commitment over random sex or a quick hook-up.

I am not interested in being your bicurious experiment, your first poly disaster, your unicorn, your sub, your Mistress , your bit-on-the-side, or in joining you for a threesome.

Oh, and I will not respond to men younger than 30. I'm just not interested. If you're in the upper end of your twenties and REALLY extraordinary I might make the odd exception, but don't count on it.