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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 31–45
  • Near me
  • For new friends

My details

Last online
Today – 8:46am
5′ 7″ (1.71m)
Body Type
Graduated from university
Has a kid, and might want more
Has dogs and has cats
My self-summary
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So originally I came to this thing looking to see if there was anyone out there for me. My former opening line read exactly that. But I'm seeing now, that I'm "the one" for me. I want love and all that mooshy stuff, but I'm looking for friends first. And the bonus would be that it becomes something more. I'm already the "love of my life" and I don't have an "other half". I'm whole. I've learned that I need to be worthy of my love before anyone else is. No one completes me. That line from the movie is a lie from Hades. Whoever my soulmate is, he thinks himself the same.

I work in an industry where I have no problem meeting men. (I manage the bar at an established restaurant in the Tower District). But as they binge drink, these are not the men I want to be meeting. I'm proud of my job and I love what I do... but it's not who I am. Outside of work, I'm a Mom and I'm devoted to my girl. I practice yoga, meditate, hike, cook, read... anything that nurtures my soul. Currently, I'm also studying for the CSET as it's time to move forward and do what I went to school to do: teach. So how does this 30 something girl go about meeting a "good" guy? I guess the internets it is!

I like going outside to play. I'm not into conquering nature, but I'm always down for a hike or a drive into the country. In the past three weeks, I've been to the coast twice and and to the city twice. Half of those trips were solo! But I also enjoy my days where I need to hole myself up in my house watching TV or with a book I just can't put down. I would like to think that I'm a down to earth sort of a gal. You will never see me sporting anything "Coach" or "Louis Vuitton". I loathe shopping. Spending money to keep up with Kardashians is fruitless. I'm down with my hippie shoulder bag and my Earth Shoes. I love the simple things, especially hunting sunsets for the perfect picture. However that's not to say I don't enjoy being wined and dined every so often. Come on now, every girl likes to be woo'd. I just know what's important to me. I don't place too much of an emphasis on external "things". Yoga over contact sports, Veggies over burgers, books over TV, northern cal over southern cal, bourbon over beer. I'm an independent girl with a quirky streak that hasn't found her match yet... But we'll see.

Also, I've done my work over the last 5 years to lose my emotional baggage. At our age, we all have some. What matters is if we make peace with it, which I have. I want someone who has done the same. I'm in this forum to find someone healthy and ready to share life together. If you are currently separated, still in love with your ex, trying to move forward, or looking for a one nighter, I am so not that girl.
What I’m doing with my life
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First and foremost, I'm a Mom. I love it. While not the traditional family, we're still doing it. I volunteer in her classroom, go camping, extra-curricular activities, Girl Scouts, outings and the such.

For a living, I sling drinks. I have aspirations to teach one day, having graduated from CSU Fresno a while back. But as it is, I've been a bartender for 10 years now. I recently was promoted to the bar manager. It's been good to me and my kiddo. While not a mixologist (I find that term so pretentious) I love creating complex cocktails, and have established quite a following. I absolutely love my job and look forward to taking it to another level in the near future.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I'm really good at a lot of things:
-Cooking. I love spending time in the kitchen. I have a library of cookbooks. I collect them. Currently I'm cooking my way through My French Kitchen.
- Slinging drinks. Like I said before, I mix drinks. I've been at it for 10 years now. I've developed quite the following.
- Banter and Wit. Side results of my years behind the bar.
- Photography. Something that I have just recently discovered. I can't believe I've waited this long. I just recently took a trip to SF just me and my camera. It was a surprisingly good time.
The first things people usually notice about me
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Physically, it would be my freckles and my dark features. People say that I'm "exotic". Not in the dancer sense though. I'm half Vietnamese and half Heinz 57.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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My most favorite book ever is The God of Small Things by Arundhati Roy. I read a good balance between fiction and non-fiction. Usually books that make you think.

As far as movies go, if I'm dragged to some movie that was once a graphic novel, I wind up liking them. But you have to drag me to them. While I don't get to see a lot of movies up on the big screen, if it's an indie flick that has come to Fresno, I usually do try to make it.

Music. I work in an environment that showcases jazz. I love jazz and instrumentals. But my music tastes is vast: If I see Michael Franti, Ani DiFranco, Iron and Wine anywhere near Fresno. I go.

Food. Anything different and exotic. Just recently, I ate a cricket. Not bad. Not bad at all.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My camera.
A good book.
My big comfy couch.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Working! I told you I sling drinks for a living! That's part of the reason I haven't found a good match. I keep "weird" hours.