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Neurons are Hot.

Forgive me Cupid, it has been three months since my last journal post.

And what an eventful three months it has been! Yowsa.

In late January I picked up a new marketing/PR client--a startup holistic matchmaking company headquartered in Southern California. To help me understand the services they offer (something akin to an "extreme relationship makeover"), I met with their PhD psychologist (the matchmaker), their life coach, a neurofeedback/brain health expert, and a hypnotherapist.

I love what I do for a living. And on some very special days, I feel like I should be paying the *client* because what I'm doing is so fun and rewarding. The past three months have definitely fallen into that category. It has certainly been exhausting, working 12+ hours a day (hence my absence from OKC) but very, very rewarding.

The cool thing is that I was essentially "auditing" the matchmaking process so I could write about it. But it has been wonderfully, unexpectedly life-changing nonetheless.

I'm still the same person (I think). But I've left behind a lot of the fears, doubts, insecurities, and baggage that really interfered with my ability to sustain the kind of relationship I want.

I've also become strangely...nicer. Until recently, I had a pretty acerbic, sarcastic sense of humor. A pretty self-deprecating wit. Then the hypnotherapist pointed out that "self-deprecating" was awfully close to "self-defacating" (eeeewwww) and that perhaps I could find a way to be funny that didn't involve metaphysically crapping on myself. (Again, eeewww.)

Another cool change...deep-seated contentedness and happiness. Which, ironically, has made me a lot less driven when it comes to finding a man! I would love to be in a relationship, but I've become a lot more choosy and a lot less desperate. My standards are higher; but I'm now a lot more flexible on certain things that used to be "must-haves." I'm still figuring out what those things are. And when I do, I'll update my profile to reflect it.

And now I'm definitely a personal growth junkie. I've spent the past few months dealing with people whose focus is helping people improve their lives, and it's...delicious. :) Being around self-aware and constantly improving people is so invigorating! Consciousness is sexy. Introspection rocks!!!

Who knows what could be around the corner?
Forgive me Cupid, it has been three months since my last journalpost.

And what an eventful three months it has been! Yowsa.

In late January I picked up a new marketing/PR client--a startupholistic matchmaking company headquartered in Southern California.To help me understand the services they offer (something akin to an"extreme relationship makeover"), I met with their PhD psychologist(the matchmaker), their life coach, a neurofeedback/brain healthexpert, and a hypnotherapist.

I love what I do for a living. And on some very special days, Ifeel like I should be paying the *client* because what I'm doing isso fun and rewarding. The past three months have definitely falleninto that category. It has certainly been exhausting, working 12+hours a day (hence my absence from OKC) but very, veryrewarding.

The cool thing is that I was essentially "auditing" the matchmakingprocess so I could write about it. But it has been wonderfully,unexpectedly life-changing nonetheless.

I'm still the same person (I think). But I've left behind a lot ofthe fears, doubts, insecurities, and baggage that really interferedwith my ability to sustain the kind of relationship I want.

I've also become strangely...nicer. Until recently, I had a prettyacerbic, sarcastic sense of humor. A pretty self-deprecating wit.Then the hypnotherapist pointed out that "self-deprecating" wasawfully close to "self-defacating" (eeeewwww) and that perhaps Icould find a way to be funny that didn't involve metaphysicallycrapping on myself. (Again, eeewww.)

Another cool change...deep-seated contentedness and happiness.Which, ironically, has made me a lot less driven when it comes tofinding a man! I would love to be in a relationship, but I'vebecome a lot more choosy and a lot less desperate. My standards arehigher; but I'm now a lot more flexible on certain things that usedto be "must-haves." I'm still figuring out what those things are.And when I do, I'll update my profile to reflect it.

And now I'm definitely a personal growth junkie. I've spent thepast few months dealing with people whose focus is helping peopleimprove their lives, and it's...delicious. :) Being aroundself-aware and constantly improving people is so invigorating!Consciousness is sexy. Introspection rocks!!!

Who knows what could be around the corner?
Neurons are Hot.
Default user image Aw you sound so bright, shiny and happy. That is wonderful!!!

A former user commented on

Default user image I am having cognitive dissonance with this post... you and I met some time back (has it been 15 years already?) and I would've pegged you as that sort of introspective/self-aware person then. I never detected the acerbic side of you, either, despite having a number of conversations with you.

mrmccool commented on

An image of MissMayflower @mrmccool, I'll take that as a compliment. :) I think I've always been introspective, but I had definitely developed an edge over the past 15 years. Lots of pretty negative character-building experiences since you and I met. (And I sure wish I could remember you...please send me a pic or more hints!)

MissMayflower commented on