Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Updated 2014: I'm polyamorous and have been for more than a decade.
That's not news here! But I'm pleased to say life is good. Very
good. Bloody fantastic really. I'm still happily married to a
wonderful life partner and now also in an open relationship with a
kick arse guy as well. So basicaly I'm just leaving this profile up
to chat to people about such things and because I've put hours into
answering stupid matching questions. It's quite a journey of
discovery actually and rather addictive.
Below is my original profile.
Happy to chat if we strike a chord with each other but my dance
card is currently full ;)
So let's cut to the chase to save us both some time. Warning - this
isn't a quick read profile if you make it to the end, many won't,
I'm well aware of that.
No I don't want a one night stand.
BE HONEST AND DON'T PLAY GAMES WITH ME - yes I'm shouting that,
believe me it seems my only hope to get the message across.
* I'm married, happily, nothing is "missing" from my marriage
* Yes my husband knows I have a profile, so does both he and his
* I am happily in a polyamorous marriage (look it up, it's
different to polygamy)
* I'm not looking to participate in group sex or a threesome, I may
share my toy(s) but when it's my turn, it's my turn!
* I won't be the secret other woman. If you aren't completely
honest with others it's called cheating! Deal breaker and fastest
way to never hear from me again. This doesn't mean I'm not discreet
* One off, meaningless encounters are not what I'm looking for,
quite the opposite. I need to be attracted to you mentally and
physically, I'd expect that to be a reciprocated desire of yours
too. However I'm not going to start planning our next 12 months if
we start bouncing messages. The commitment I ask of anyone is
Ohhh you're, still here. Ok let's see where to now...
If it isn't obvious yet, what I'm looking for is best classed as
friends with benefits.
Add in these definite deal breakers too:
* face fuzz - I can't stand it, sorry.
* smokers - even "occasional"
Ok enough about you, here's a bit about me.....
I've been described as cute, caring, and kind of busy.
I tend to say it as I see it ("gee really? Never would have
guessed" I hear you say) and wish that more people were as open
minded and respectful of others as I hope I am judged to be.
I have a fairly versatile sense of humour and am known to be quite
sarcastic in my jest.
Above all else, I am me
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Way too much I'm told! I've mastered time management but on
occasion I like to just forget the world and enjoy the moment that
is, what ever or where ever that happens to be.
Life keeps me busy in my many chosen roles, none of which can
singularly define me. I am dedicated to my career and my ongoing
professional growth, as well as to my family which includes more
members I have chosen to call family rather than those I have blood
I'm on a bit of a body image improve at the moment, it's something
that got turfed to the bottom of the priority list and now it's
time to feel better both in my self and about myself. I'm doing it
for me and it urks me when people say I look fine the way I am
because I know I could feel better.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Time management, attention to detail and remembering things -
especially if it's in relation to people I care about. I won't
apologize for saying it as I see it but Im told I do this in a
diplomatic way (well most of the time, just don't rile me with self
opinionated garbage that you cant back up)
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'm short, yes rather short at 5"1- funny that I don't feel short,
maybe that tells me something about me :)
I'm an introvert and fairly quiet until I'm comfortable and have
taken things in have something meaningful to contribute to a
conversation that has my attention. If you hit a certain nerve or
interest of mine I will let you know. If you are giving incorrect
information about something passionate to me, well I'm sorry, but
you will get my opinion!
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Having to read to keep up to date with my professional education
has kind of killed reading for pleasure for me so it hasn't been
since my childhood that I got lost in a good book. I am trying to
change that currently..... I'm finding that's not happening
For movies, comedy is my genre, satire is even better. I love a
good laugh and have quite a dark sense of humour which surprises
most people who don't know me.
I dont watch a lot of tv but viewing may include: Scrubs, Kath and
Kim, Little Britian, Iron Chef, Neighbours ( I know I know, I
record it so fear not), Simpsons, Travel docos, QI, Father Ted,
Food: I love food!!! Good food, good wine and good company and I'm
happy! I equally enjoy a fantastic degustation fine dinning
experience, a simple meal cooked at home not by me on occasion (yes
I love to cook but I also love to be cooked for) or a hamburger in
the park. I live by a Seefood diet (there's a pun there) - see food
and eat it, just not anything too hot (I'm more tolerant now).
Sadly I grew into a severe seafood allergy which gives me grief
that some people won't accept the degree of sensitivity too (no
don't order seafood if you even remotely think there might be a
kiss involved in the evening!) but apart from that, all cuisine is
on the cards. I'm not a sweet tooth though, very particular about
my chocolate and a self confessed cheeseaholic!
Music: fairly diverse from classical to GnRs, typically 80's and
current pop/soft rock. Anything with base is good. I'm not a
dancer, unless you count at home in front of vidoehits with my
gorgeous blonde little man or I'm very comfortable and had a few
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Excluding oxygen, water and some form of nutrition and shelter, 6
things I value highly and hope to always have are:
* Honest love, such as that afforded to me by the most perfect life
partner I could ask for, the man I am married to - anything else
has to compliment that. Yes I am in a fully consenting polyamorous
* The internet
* Cuddles, I'm a huge cuddler, a self confessed addict infact
* Mental stimulation and good mental health
* My glasses (I'm blind as a bat and will have a headache in
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
what I'm going to do next, was what I just did perfect in my eyes
and was it received as it was intended? (Yes I'm a bit OCD, self
analytical and a perfectionist but in a good way so people say)
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Usually at work and if not I'm at home curled up on the lounge with
a glass of wine and chatting either in real life or on the net or
snuggled in with a DVD - all with great company :)
*edit my work pattern has changed now and I am rarely at work on a
Friday night. Yay to regaining a night to unwind from the week that
** edit to the edit. There is a current vacancy for the part time
position of couch snuggler. See above proformer.
*** Final edit. Above vacancy has been recruited to. Move along
there is nothing to see here.
You should message me if
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You can construct a message without using text type. I h8 msgs from
u like this!
You are curious about, or like what you read above. However, those
who are not honest with themselves or those they have in their
personal life need not bother as I don't have time nor energy to
waste on you as it will be detracting from something else. I'm
looking for fun and friendship and am enjoying meeting new
personalities online, it's a bit of a self and others discovery
journey for me. It's opened my eyes to how people interact -
believe me, that's been very eye opening!. I value greatly the
people currently in my life. I have no hidden agenda and like to
have relationships with people that grow and compliment my world. I
choose carefully to protect myself and those close to me.
I'm happy to bounce messages, but if you have facial hair, hate
shaving or are a smoker probably best to save our time if you want
to actually meet as that's not going to happen.
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