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MissinNorCali

36 F Virginia Beach, VA

I’m looking for

  • Guys who like girls
  • Ages 24–37
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Online now!
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 4″ (1.63m)
Body Type
Athletic
Diet
Smokes
No
Drinks
Not at all
Drugs
Never
Religion
Agnosticism
Sign
Gemini, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Working on university
Job
Other
Income
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Has kids
Pets
Speaks
English

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My self-summary
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I'm here to help other people have online dating success. I am an image consultant, I go clothing shopping with people, do photography portraits and I help people write their profiles. If you are interested in finding out if I could help you with any of those things, send me a message and we'll talk about what services I offer. I'm fair, reasonable and totally worth it. www.YourSharperImage.com

I am primarily looking for friendship, networking and feedback from other people here about their online dating experiences because I also blog about internet dating. Thanks!

http://capriciousafflatus.blogspot.com/search?q=dating

How many times and ways can you articulate who you are, what you offer and what you're looking for before you start to feel like you are just a product you're aggressively trying to sell? At least this forum offers some discretion; unlike going door to door ready with visual aids of your strengths, weaknesses and requirements asking: "Have you tried this remarkable product? You really could use a little Jaclyn in your life!" lol. Okay. Here comes the pitch.

Affectionate, playful, adventurous; I enjoy trying new things and being very active, especially outdoors. I'm low maintenance, level headed. I think too much, have too many ideas for one lifetime of implementing them and while I crave simplicity and a streamlined life, I tend to over-think pretty much everything and am genuinely interested in almost everything. Since I'm a writer, that is both a curse and a blessing.

I'm a home owner and with that comes the joy and daunting task of landscaping and keeping up my yard and remodeling my home. Fortunately I grew up using tools, am a quick learner and would prefer to spend a $500 gift card at Home Depot rather than at the mall. As long as I'm not doing it solo, I enjoy re-shingling a roof or using a compound miter saw to install base boards and crown molding just as much as I enjoy a night on the town. Seriously. I really enjoy it. I have more tools than a lot of guys do.

I'm confident, but fully aware of my flaws. A lifetime of self improvement is not just a good idea, it should be a requirement for everyone. Like water, you're either moving forward, changing form or stagnating. And everyone knows stagnating water is gross.

I tend to be unconventional and consider myself an eclectic person. I’m thankful for a unique upbringing and various life experiences which have taught me to keep a positive roll-with-the-punches attitude and to maintain a determined and hopeful perspective of life. Life is 1% what happens and 99% how you deal with it.

I typically have a cheerful attitude and it takes a lot to get me angry. Although injustice, parents who smoke and people who are outright cruel, think they're superior to others or are "owed" what they haven't earned get me riled up.

I trust my gut instincts and am typically a very good judge of character. I am deeply loyal to my family and good friends. I believe in being kind to strangers and the definition of a person's character is how they treat someone who can do nothing for them.

Clever wordplay and playful banter are fun and a good debate about a serious topic is great now and then as long as it stays friendly. Intelligence, self-sufficiency, articulation and ambition turn me on just as much as a fit body. I only ask for in return what I offer.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
An extraordinary life is really the only kind worth living. So much of life is about finding and obtaining balance. I'm a realistic yet optimistic person who is sometimes sarcastic and I always try to make the most of every day. I value people and love spending time outside and learning new skills. I have various jobs that I'm involved in. I'm basically self-employed and have many goals I'm actively pursuing. The difference between a "Dream" and a "Goal" is ACTION.

I've had multiple jobs since I was 14 and enjoy being independent. Never one to be a passive bystander, I like to dig in and participate. This includes contributing on every front. Very much a team player, I only take charge if no one else better qualified steps forward.

I want my counterpart to be a leader, but also receptive to input. In a relationship I want to be a full partner *not* a boss or a subservient. I pull my weight; you pull yours and we do thoughtful things for each other out of love and respect. I want to help support my significant other's ambitions and dreams and they return the favor.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Talking easily with strangers.
Managing my money.
Writing. http://capriciousafflatus.blogspot.com/
Photography.
Being a personal shopper. I can help you look *good*!
Gardening.
Shooting. (I own 6 handguns, a long rifle and a 12g shotgun)
Jam skating.
Archery (I have a Bowtech compound bow)
Indoor Rock climbing (I have all my own gear.)
Drawing.
Cooking/baking. (I'm writing a cookbook)
Sewing.
Home Improvements. (I'm in the process of slowly remodeling my house.)
Alliteration.
Articulating concepts.
Spelling words wrong and then using spell checker. ;)
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My energy. I'm an active, restless person. My mind and body like to be in motion but I also love taking a nap together or exchanging massages, and love consuming a good non-fiction book. Rather than sit for hours watching TV, I usually prefer to be *doing* something; frequently outside.

That I have distinctive "Eastern European" facial features. Since moving to the east coast I have been inundated by questions of what country I am from. (I was born in California.... it's big but not a separate country!) A few years ago when my hair was bobbed and I bleached it blonde I was constantly being mistaken for a Russian tourist. I don't speak Russian but I've decided to learn! I recently found out that my great-grandfather on my mom's dad side came to America from the Ukraine. I imagine that explains a lot.

Also I look younger than my age. I typically get guessed to be somewhere in the 24-26 age range. I blame it on good genetics and a healthy lifestyle. I never EVER smoke, drink, do drugs, sun tan, drink soda or eat fast food. Turns out the advice to eat right and exercise works! Who knew?!
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
I read mostly non-fiction: Politics, World Affairs, Finance, Entrepreneurship, etc. I used to love historical fiction and Sci-Fi books though.

I love good Comedy movies, Spy/ Action / Martial arts films and Intellectual Thrillers. I have never watched Sex & the City. I never plan to. I do like some Chick Flicks, and also watch Foreign Films, old B/W and Westerns, and educational/ explore the world style documentaries.

I never watch TV. But I do like "Game of Thrones", "Spartacus: Blood and Sand" and "How I Met Your Mother".

My Ipod would look like a music sampler. I prefer specific songs rather than artists, but love music that moves me. As long as I can dance to it, I'll enjoy myself.

I also enjoy theater, opera, classical music performances and other "high brow" events like art shows and benefit concerts. I have excellent manners, am well spoken and know how to dress appropriately and mingle with different crowds.

Good food includes ridiculously healthy stuff and lots of fruits (love fresh fruit smoothies) and fresh veggies. My favorite styles of food are American (ie. Steaks~) and Italian. I also love breads and bakeries. And I admit to having a sweet-tooth; particularly for chocolate. Mexican and Chinese food are great too. I don't do fast food, hot/spicy or sushi.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My kids

Reading/ Writing

Physically demanding activities/ adrenaline

Nature/ Being outdoors

Music/ Dance

Long, hot showers
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How to fit more activities into my life and make it work! I enjoy playing co-ed softball, like boxing and Muay Thai kick boxing, gardening, remodeling my house (I can do most plumbing, electrical etc. on my own).

How to start a new business that will make me "passive income" so I can spend time doing what I really want to do... like travel.

Getting published or getting a writing gig for a magazine.

The best way to prepare for a Zombie attack/ Apocalypse.

(NOTE: I recently saw that this site said under my personality that I may be more "wealthy" than other women in my age on this site. I laughed out loud at that. Maybe I *think* more like a wealthy person and *would enjoy* a wealthy lifestyle, but I am absolutely NOT more wealthy than most people on here or other women of my age range. I have absolutely NO idea how they drew those conclusions. So if you're looking for a sugar mama...keep right on moving. That won't be me!)
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Working on a home improvement project and making a run to Lowe's or Home Depot.

Taking a nice walk/run/hike/bike ride hopefully with someone who can carry an enjoyable, stimulating and coherent conversation.

At the shooting range, trying to talk myself out of buying yet another gun.

Getting dressed up to go out on the town, dancing, to a theatrical performance, a live music venue, a comedy club or any number of other things. I love wearing skirts and dresses.

Did I mention that I like to be outside in nature?
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I have the "appetite" of a 18 year old guy. And I'm not talking about food. It's really important that I find someone who is on the same page as I am on this. You know the whole "Lady in the streets and...(you know how the rest goes!)"...? Yeah. That's me.

I usually go for younger guys. I'm not a sugar mama or a cougar and I don't want to "wear the pants" in the relationship. I just prefer guys who are my peer in physical fitness, ambition and exuberance for life. I would seriously consider someone as much as 9 years younger than myself as long as he's my mental equal and is an emotionally mature man with his life together and ready for a real relationship. Anyone younger than that, really probably needs more life experience. My target age range is 26-37. But I'm open to meeting and dating people outside that age range as long as they defy the normal stereotypes of their age like I do. And there are no age boundaries on who I'll be friends with!
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You speak Russian fluently and will help me learn!

I try to surround myself with people who remind me (and everyone else) what is truly important in life. It’s very easy to float along life superficially and get caught up in semantics that derail us from ever searching for truths.

Fitness is a MUST. Sorry, but if you can't run a 5k (3.1 miles) and have energy to burn afterward, there's no point in hoping for a physical future for us. The existence of a God is debatable but I BELIEVE in marathon sex!

So if you're in good shape (and are not intimidated by a competent female) and your synapses ever need a little sparking, shoot an email my way and we can shoot guns, install dry wall, take a hike or pump iron and dissect human nature, muse over the conundrums preventing a truly just judicial system and medical advancement thanks to conformist religious and political mentality or debate the validity of any current trend in thinking that is endangering the mental, educational and fiscal homeostasis of our floundering society. Cheers!
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I get asked a lot why I'm still single. I guess it's partly because I'm pretty specific about what I'm looking for. I have certain requirements that seem to be fairly difficult to find a match for, even though when I spell out the criteria, it shouldn't SEEM that difficult to find. What I want...

1. Doesn't smoke, dip, use drugs, doesn't drink every day.
2. Smart/ educated/ well read enough to have intellectual conversations.
3. Fit...able to run a 5k (3.1 miles), strong enough to lift my 120 lb. body easily and able to keep up with me in physical activities.
4. Taller than me (I'm 5'4) when I'm wearing my tallest shoes (makes me about 5'9).
5. Likes and wants kids (his, mine, ours, either way!)
6. Is confident and independent and isn't put off by a woman who is as well.
7. Affectionate, good-hearted and playful.
8. Has a stable job/ legal source of income.
9. Has his life together, good credit, saves money and is responsible with his health and finances.
10. Is attractive to me.
11. Is attracted to me and treats me kindly, lovingly and as an equal.
12. Has goals, plans, interests and a future.
13. Owns a safe, reliable, CLEAN car/vehicle.
14. Doesn't have a criminal past or a criminal future!
15. Wants a committed relationship and knows how to be faithful.
16. Is social enough to do well in group settings but can also be on his own for a while so we can have individual time sometimes.
17. Has a high enough libido to keep up with me, but not so much that he's looking for experiences outside of our relationship.
18. Is basically clean and clean cut- good personal hygiene, showers daily, doesn't look like a circus freak or "talk like a sailor", keeps all his hair areas groomed and clean and takes care of his teeth.
19. Doesn't have emotional/ financial etc. baggage from past relationships.
20. Is open minded enough to try new things but won't want a nomadic lifestyle.
21. Isn't overly religious or into strange/ dangerous/ fanatic groups
22. Has respect for life and other humans from all walks of life and ethnic groups.

Basically someone who is like-minded and who's looking for the same things I am.

Who would have thought that would be so difficult??