I’m a divorced mom with half-time custody of my two teen sons (week on, week off). I love my career (I’m a legal writer) and I’m financially independent, though not wealthy.
I was married for nearly 20 years. If you’re one of those former rogues who has reached his forties finally ready to settle down, I’m the wrong woman for you. At this stage in my life, I’m happier with less goal-oriented relationships.
But that being said, I’ve discovered I don’t like casual dating. If, after a few dates, I feel like I could take it or leave it, I leave it. Life is too short for lukewarm relationships. I need a passionate sexual connection, and I like to be in love with my lover, and to be loved in return. It doesn’t have to be forever… it doesn’t have to be “progressing” toward any kind of commitment… it doesn’t have to be live-in… but it has to be real and powerful while it lasts.
If you’re familiar with polyamory, you should know that I’m open to ethically non-monogamous partners. If that’s how you live and we’re together, then I reserve the same right for myself… but my tendency is to be monogamous when I’m in love. That’s just how I’m wired.
I tend to like bisexual men. Which doesn’t mean I don’t like straight men.