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44 F Silver Spring, MD

My Details

Last Online
Jan 7, 2010
5′ 5″ (1.65m)
Body Type
Christianity, and somewhat serious about it
Taurus, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from university
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Seeing Someone
Relationship Type
Has a kid
Likes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently), French (Poorly)

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My self-summary
I'm busy; I make a bad pen pal; I have a ridiculous schedule; Sometimes I don't log on for two or four months. Daunted yet?

OK, then. I like balance in my life: between time out with friends on adventures, camping, exploring old buildings, at dinners or bars; and, time at home cooking, reading, and taking care of myself, my kid, my cat and my home. I like to laugh (do you have a low entertainment threshold, too?), have wide-ranging and meaningful conversations with people, learn about all sorts of new-to-me things, look for joy and lust in strange and unexpected places, and appreciate beautiful flaws. I'm on a journey through life to find peace despite wisdom.

I'm so damned busy (and not always in a useful way), but I find people fascinating and can't help but find something interesting to talk about with almost anybody. Let me reiterate: I'm busy; I make a bad pen pal; I have a ridiculous schedule. In the long run, conversation is most possible and fulfilling and sustainable if you are really smart, odd, funny, kinky, optimistic, and open-minded.

I am seeking, evolving, and open
What I’m doing with my life
I work, think, laugh, read, do yoga, cook things, make friends....

OK, not so much on the yoga anymore. Not that I don't love it, but logistics keep me from my favorite practitioner. This year, I sorta took up running (OK brisk trotting) and ran the Cherry Blossom 5k in April. Did OK, considering, and will have a go again next year.

I try to pay close attention to That Which is Greater than Ourselves ("God" for short), and trying to better understand my relationship to it and how to live a better life in that context. It's a sisyphian task and involves a lot of mystery -- so I needed a starting place: organized religion. I really belive that you can be Christian, and intellectual, and open-minded, and generous in spirit -- it's not an oxymoron -- try me... I have learned and incorporated much from other faiths, and I'm interested in learning more. I have no requirements for what your spiritual journey has been or is, just so long as you're not dismissive of mine.

The past three years reflect significant change for me, and not all of it has been pleasant or smooth, yet I'm satisfied with my progress. I found clarity, freedom and self-expression after a long search. I learned some important lessons about myself, my priorities, and how I want to live my life. Now I get to dream about what's next.
I’m really good at
I think I'm really good at entertaining, listening and empathizing, practical problem-solving and process control (but only when asked), and kissing. I make a very good blueberry bread pudding sans recipe. Aparently I'm also really good at seeming younger than I am (for better or for worse). And, I'm very good at acquiring and hoarding vintage lace, linens, and other trappings from other times.
The first things people usually notice about me
My laugh gets attention first some days. Other recent comments that are worthy of my own personal book jacket: amazing energy, the most kissable-looking lips EVar, and mesmerizing cleavage.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I like a huge range of books, movies and music -- and I go through phases of exploring new kinds.

Just a sampling of reads and re-reads from this month (April): The Secret of NIMH, In the Company of the Courtesan, Caddie Woodlawn, City of Fallen Angels, Thomas Merton, The Linnett's Tale, Middlesex, The Billionaire's Vinegar, and various books on sewing, textiles, costume, and clothing history. From my couch, you can't see over the piles of books to the television, and I'm good with that. I read copious non-whole-book-things every day, too: dictionary entries, encyclopedia articles, essays and journals, blogs.... Am I missing out on your favorite book?

The best movies, for me, are a combination of inspiration, education, provocation, and eye candy. Favorites include dramas like Room With a View, Dangerous Liaisons, Interview with a Vampire, and the like; stories from other worlds like Princess Bride, Serenity, Dune, Bladerunner; get-under-your-skin flicks like Requiem for a Dream, Being John Malkovich, Secretary, Gattaca; or moving pictures like Waking Life, Spirited Away, The Triplets of Bellville, or (big dose of nostalgia here) that old Walt Disney animated Robin Hood; and for the movie equivalent of comfort food, something b&w from the 30's or 40's like the Thin Man series, or Adam's Rib -- so sparky and stylish and focused on timeless themes of adventure and relationships. Every once in a while I need a good action flick like Big Trouble in Little China, or Escape from New York.

Favorite TV includes: Deadwood, Rome, Firefly, Buffy, Angel, Arrested Development, House, and about half the shows on the Food Network.

Oh, I'm all over the place with music. What I'm loving most right now is Springsteen's tribute to Pete Seegar and "Steal Away" with Charlie Haden and Hank Jones. Perennial favorites include Paul Simon, Leonard Cohen, and Bob Marley. On frequent rotation these days: Amy Winehouse, Concrete Blonde, Indigo Girls, Dead Can Dance, Van Morrison, The Fugees and the Smithsonian Collection of Classic Jazz. I always enjoy bluegrass like Nitty Gritty Dirt Band, Bill Monroe, and derivatives like Bela Fleck and Jerry Douglas; classic jazz like Ella Fitzgerald, Miles Davis, and derivatives like Squirrel Nut Zippers, and Pink Martini; classical like Bach Cello Suites and piano pieces by Chopin. New-to-me crushes: Morphine, Leela James, and Tricky. I'm a real sucker for an upright bass. That said, I think I like silence more than the average person.

As for food: adore garden-fresh herbs and vegetables, coffee, bourbon, dark chocolate, cheese, ice cream (in flavors like mango, or ginger!), a perfectly-ripe tomato or pear, berries picked right off the vine and warm from the sun. I was vegetarian for over ten years, and it was bacon that lured me back to meaty ways. I love to make soup. One of the best things I've ever eaten is shrimp and grits. I have two favorite work-day breakfasts to eat in the car: a cold baked sweet potato, or frosted miniwheats with sips of cafe au lait.
The six things I could never do without
family and friends; reading material; a sense of home; new seasons, experiences and people; sharing laughter; finding beauty and lust in unexpected places.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
faith, connections, words, humanity, parenting, philosophy, touch, perceptions, writing, creating, consuming, entertaining and being entertained, relationships, responsibility, why I am the way I am, laughing, switching, patterns and continuity, breath and skin, the gulf between having a philosophy and putting it in to practice, the distant past of other people and my own future.
On a typical Friday night I am
Scenario A: staying up too late with friends -- it's all about the conversation and the connections. Scenario B: staying up too late with my kid, talking, reading books, playing games, and making pancakes for supper.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I don't have private things (I threw it out the window with my modesty and some leftover shame). Like most people, there are things that I find difficult to admit about myself, but I don't think I'm very private about my struggles to come to terms with them.
I will say that it's hard for me to talk about money, especially when I don't have it.
I’m looking for
  • Guys who like girls
  • Ages 29–74
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends
You should message me if don't care that it might be months until I read it. camp, drink, read and think. can make me a 3D Venn diagram and grok my resulting joy.

...if you can't share (in all senses of the word).
...if you're squeamish or prudish.
...if you don't have a damn good grasp of language (bonus points if it's English).
...if you want to communicate via IM, because I DON'T IM.
...if you are emotionally constipated.
...if you don't or can't make me laugh within about five minutes of first contact.