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35 Carmarthen, UK Genderfluid


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  • Ages 22-44
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  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Nov 19
Native American, White
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
5' 5" (1.65m)
Body Type
Other and laughing about it
Dropped out of University
Has kid(s) and doesn’t want more
Has cats
English (Fluently), French (Somewhat), Spanish (Somewhat)
My self-summary
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Professional pervert (fetish modelling and domination among other specialities). This is as much fun as it sounds. I'm @_MissMog_ on Twitter if you're curious about it.

Known associates: JNDM and Ms_Persephone

Apparently one of an ever diminishing number of people left in the UK who doesn't think more facial hair is better. Actually, when it gets to a certain length it feels like spider legs and I HATE IT. No beards too near me, please, unless they are very short and well groomed.

Other stuff: psychonaut, irreverent, expressive, epicurean, sensuous, brat, synaesthete, indolent, lover, genius, shameless, incorrigible, sapiosexual, challenging, wilful, sadomasochist, animal, insomniac, mystic, liberal, chimerical, fearless, autodidactic, curious, unfathomable, neko, indomitable, hard femme, quaintrelle, orgasm thief, ambivert, queer as eff and proud of it :)
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Making damn sure I don't get stuck in a loop. I would rather experience the pain and tears that come as part of the package of a life spent challenging and changing myself and others, than miss out on the soaring joy that is only available as part of that same package.

At the moment, I'm mostly about hot yoga, pole dancing, fire tricks, and road trips.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Directing my will, courage and intuition to my best advantage. And taking time out for myself in peace when I need to.

Driving - I want to learn rally driving, but for now I'm satisfied to get lost on meandering back roads, singing and admiring the view.

Words. I used to write poetry; maybe I will get into another phase of it.

Empathy, non-judgment and forgiveness. Hate the action, not the person.

Holistic, non-sugar-coated advice with no agenda but love.

Kinks of many kinds (duh!)

Interpreting dreams and tarot reading. I like accessing my intuition.

Altered states of consciousness
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
"You give off a sense of being interesting and thoughtful and safe" is the latest word, and it came from a lovely aspie lady so cannot be a flattery lie. I'm happy with that.

The last time I went to Edinburgh, I came to my friend's flat and she had someone there visiting her. He said when she introduced us that he had already seen me earlier in the day and thought how very happy I looked, when I walked past a place he was in. So apparently people notice that I'm happy.

And then there's the hair, which changes very often but is frequently rainbow coloured and usually highly noticeable.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Ah yes, the obligatory wall of text that gives you a representative sample but by no means all of my tastes. I can do that.

Comics: Sandman, Death, Judge Dredd, Halo Jones, Watchmen, The Invisibles and Tank Girl. And oh my god I just bought Alan Moore's Lost Girls and it is the best thing ever.

Fiction authors: Neil Gaiman, H. P. Lovecraft, Aldous Huxley, John Wyndham, Stephen Fry, Douglas Adams, Edgar Allen Poe, Oscar Wilde, P. G. Wodehouse, Philip K. Dick, Tanith Lee, Clark Ashton Smith

Poems: Temptation by Nina Cassian, Symptom Recital by Dorothy Parker, The Extasie by John Donne, Invictus by William Ernest Henley, Blake's Eternity, Wordsworth's Perfect Woman, Bitcherel by Eleanor Brown, all of Piet Hein's 'Grooks'

Non-fiction subjects: religion, politics, philosophy, psychology, sociology, astronomy

I have an only *slightly* infrequently updated profile on Goodreads if books are your thing.

Movies: My absolute favourite is Waking Life. If you've seen it, you'll understand what I'm like for better or worse for knowing that. If you haven't and you're a 90%+ match, please do come round for chai and shisha with me and I'll happily watch it again with you. Other honorable mentions go to So I Married an Axe Murderer, A Life Less Ordinary, Mean Girls, Cruel Intentions and Shooting Fish on the hetmonogamous paradigm, non-challenging, mainstream end of things; But I'm a Cheerleader, Stick It, And Then Came Lola, Y Tu Mama Tambien, A Home at the End of the World, Shortbus, The Rocky Horror Picture Show, Priscilla Queen Of The Desert, Better Than Chocolate, Room In Rome and Itty Bitty Titty Committee for inyerface queerness (which I quite often want as an antidote to the aforementioned hetmonogamous system so please if you have any related recommendations fire them my way!); and then some other assorted quirky and silly, or clever and thought-provoking, or refreshingly-good-to-raise-my-daughter-on things: For A Good Time, Call..., Night of the Living Dorks, La Haine, O Brother, Where Art Thou?, Weird Science, Spirited Away, The History Boys, Stardust, The Truman Show, The Butterfly Effect, The Big Lebowski, Dogma, Avril, Thank You for Smoking, Stranger than Fiction, City Of Lost Children, Heathers, Soylent Green, Logan's Run, The Science of Sleep, Time Bandits, Big Fish, Kiki's Delivery Service, My Neighbour Totoro, Howl's Moving Castle, Monty Python's Life of Brian, Ginger Snaps, Nausicaa, Labyrinth, Drop Dead Fred, Beetlejuice, Tideland, Pump Up The Volume, Stigmata, Mr Nobody, A Scanner Darkly, Life Force, Altered States, Tank Girl, Everything is Illuminated, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, Barbarella, Attack the Block, Paprika, Baise Moi, Withnail and I... and if you agree that Dredd 3D was AWESOME because you could resolve each scene into frames like a genuine 2000AD story in your mind's eye as it played out, and you grinned like a lunatic in the cinema, you get a high five ^.^

TV Shows: I have regularly revisited DVDs of the following: Brit comedy stuff Black Books, Spaced, Look Around You, Red Dwarf, Smack the Pony, Stressed Eric, Rex the Runt, Blackadder, Jeeves and Wooster, I'm Alan Partridge, Peep Show, The Armando Iannucci Shows, The Fast Show, The Day Today, Brass Eye , Monkey Dust, Nighty Night, The Thick of It, The Trip, Father Ted and others; a fair bit of the best stuff that happened on TV in my childhood so my daughter doesn't miss out on them - remember Round the Twist, Eerie Indiana and Are You Afraid of the Dark? And I do have a taste for anime - the silly reverse-harem series like Fruits Basket, Ouran High School Host Club are BEST, so are Black Butler, Cat Planet Cuties, Squidgirl, and Baka and Test. I tend to tire easily of violent plotlines, with one or two exceptions: I really REALLY like Rin: Daughters of Mnemosyne. My favourite TV show of all time is Lexx. As with my favourite movie, if you know it, that probably tells you a lot about me. However, I don't watch TV as it's broadcast at all any more, haven't done for years, and it kinda freaks me out if I walk into one of those houses where it's always on. Orwellian nightmare box of adverts, stop it.

I care for TED talks a great deal. Especially Susan Cain's one about introverts. Amanda Palmer's one is quite good too. Oh and that one about the Power of Vulnerability by Brené Brown. Everyone should watch that. Twice. What's your favourite?

Music: Lamb are my absolute favourite thing to listen to ever ever ever - Andy does the quirkiest prettiest things with noise, slightly different on every album but enough the same peace-and-quiet-power-inducing feels to keep me from shock; while Lou sings and writes lyrics that express so much intensity and love I feel remade by her... for similar chilled goosebumpiness I like Ladytron, Red Snapper, Laika, Portishead (though Dummy is the only album they made I really like), Massive Attack, Tricky, Phaeleh, Dub Tractor, DJ Shadow (including the UNKLE stuff), All India Radio, Future Sound of London, etc... I also enjoy the stuff of my youth on occasion, which comprises punky stuff like Rancid, Bad Religion, The Ramones, The Bloodhound Gang; a dash of metal and Britrock - think Pantera, Sepultura, The Wildhearts and Therapy?; and all the usual Mancunian acts you might expect from a girl who grew up in the grim North (oh yeah, might have forgotten to mention - I've ended up in South-West Wales for the last ten years but I am originally from Manchester), so The Stone Roses, The Smiths, The Verve, Mr Scruff and James - along with random others too numerous to mention - check them out at if music is your thing! Actually, one more deserves a mention, come to think of it - if you play Flux Pavilion at me, I will get hot and bothered. Masturbation with headphones on, it leads to odd Pavlovian reactions.

Food: good coffee destroyed by a ton of sugar, salted milk chocolate or liquorice dynamite, nachos with stuff melted on them, chai latte made like a potion in a big heavy pan, bonfire toasted marshmallows, pizzatoast (I'm the fucking queen of tasty grilled snacks after years of honing the art), warm kirsch soaked cherries with ice cream, cinnamon bagels dripping with hot butter, endless variations on the theme of banana bread, sweet potato fries dipped in houmous, great big green olives and crunchy pickled onions, jalapeno hot sauce and blue cheese on ginger biscuits.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Feline company. I have four cats; named Mrs Audrey Whisker, Miss Mary Gizmo, Mr Alfie Catface and Lord Autumn Jaffapants.

Control over my image; self-expression. Conformity makes me feel dead inside.

Incense and soft lighting. It's all about the trip hop and candlelight chez Mog, more often than not.

My car. Driving is not just a way of getting around for me, it's head medicine.

Time outdoors. The sea, the woods, the mountains... I want to see the sky and feel the breeze!

Coloured pencils (they give me ASMR and calm me right down when I feel overstimulated and out of place)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Politics of the liberal, feminist, queer variety. The obliteration of gender and sexuality norms.

How horrendously difficult it is to get rid of my deadname in all the places it still exists, and get people to stop calling me by it.

Work. Being self employed means work is something I do, not somewhere I go. I do work that I love doing, get paid for something I enjoy. That's pretty awesome. So I barely ever take "time off", because I'm at least communicating with someone about a shoot or a session most hours of the day.

Synergetics and Bucky Fuller flavoured world peace.

Psychosynthesis and dissociation.

Why it is my highest matches seem so often to be militant atheists. I'd describe myself more as a pantheist if anything (for the uninitiated: "pantheism can be understood as asserting that God is distinct from the world and its natural contents but nonetheless contained or immanent within them, perhaps in the way in which water is contained in a saturated sponge. God is everything and everywhere, on this version, by virtue of being within everything. This is immanentist pantheism; it involves that claim that nature contains within itself, in addition to its natural elements, an immanent supernatural and divine element.")

What a genius Jung was. When I'm not describing myself as a pantheist, I describe myself as 'Jungian' when people want my belief system laid out for them.

How enormous the galaxy is. And the universe. And how very sweet it is to be so infinitesimally small that really, those things that bother me might as well not exist.

When Betelgeuse is going to hurry up and explode.

On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Exploring beaches or woodlands, lighting bonfires and watching stars in the summer.. or curled up in my candlelit living room reading a book and listening to trip hop or watching a movie with a cat on my lap in the winter.
You should message me if
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You're over an 80% match only. Anyone below that, their messages get filtered and don't even reach my inbox so you may as well not bother. People who don't match at least 80% of my ethics and attitudes can pay me if they want to talk to me here.

You've seen Lucy or Molly around.

You understand the concept of relationship anarchy and you aren't going to be weird about me being really quite a solo/independent creature.

You need a lesson in taking this temporary situation we call life a little less seriously.

You're a girl like me. There aren't so many of us about.

CRUCIAL: You have something more interesting to say than "hi, how are you today?" - I rarely do smalltalk with friends and family, I'm certainly going to ignore it from strangers.

...and if you don't mind that sometimes I reply immediately whereas at other times it takes days or weeks. The same thing can be said of my movie watching, reading or even housework habits. Phases, cycles and inconsistencies in all activities.