Fearsomely independent, brightly coloured, kinky, non-monogamous fantasy creature finds herself in need of strokings and approval so arrives at OKCupid to hunt out providers of such things. Do you has strokings?
I think it's fair to say I stand out in a crowd. It works for me though - no point pretending to be someone I'm not. I tried having blonde hair and dressing normally as an experiment for a few months once, and I just wasted a whole lot of time having to filter through all of the bigoted and dull people who wanted to get to know me. I far prefer the attention of the queer and unusual ^.^
When JNDM is available, I like to get strokings and approval from him. You could call him my boyfriend, but then again the fact that we don't plan to "make a life together" because we both have very separate lives 250 miles apart makes that a misleading description. We adore each other, we're committed to looking out for each other and encouraging personal growth and best experiences for each other. It's really good. One of the beautiful things about it is how we provide a benchmark for each other that stops us dating anyone who is less considerate, open, supportive and constantly surprising than we find each other. I have other relationships which operate on a similar level. If you're looking for the one true love of your life and don't want to share, this is the wrong creature for you. I am like a cat, you can't own me. I'm free, happy, loving, and on the whole FAR more assured of how adorable I am than I would be if I chained a favourite human to me for life, with promises that limited both our experiences to keep. Every time a close friend contacts me I feel privileged to be thought of, whether it's a request for help, a link to something they think will amuse or delight me, or to arrange to chill together because it's been too long. I want to feel the same way about people I fuck. Why should that be considered complicated?
My MBTI is INFP; my enneagram is 7 of 9 and I'm a O90-C2-E53-A32-N3 Big Five. I think you will find those are all better ways of assessing the basic flavour of who and what I am than horoscope nonsense. Essentially, I live in a waking dream. The beauties of that include an eerie intensified empathy that verges on telepathy, and my prized ability to be calm in the face of pretty much anything. When you're not expecting or confined to considering everyday predictable things, you perceive so much more. When you're between worlds enough that the sky turning purple wouldn't faze you, there isn't an accident, an incident or an emergency you can't cope with. Straitened circumstances, commitments, deadlines and other such matters that require long-to-medium-term reining in of impulses though, they're a whole other matter. They are my kryptonite.
Here's a mixed bag of nouns and adjectives that may apply to me in addition to the above: intuitive, psychonaut, irreverent, expressive, epicurean, sensuous, brat, synaesthete, indolent, lover, genius, shameless, incorrigible, sapiosexual, challenging, wilful, sadomasochist, animal, insomniac, mystic, liberal, chimerical, fearless, autodidactic, curious, unfathomable, neko, indomitable, hard femme