Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
In no particular order, or relevance:
- Oldest child (one sister and one brother)
- INTP (bordering on INFP)
- O positive
Hmm, what are some other clichéd personality classifications I can
list here? I'll have to think on it and add more later...
Of more relevance:
I'm a pretty solidly liberal, intelligent, empathic, do-gooder. I'm
comfortable with my nerd side; fairly physically fit (working on
more fit); great with kids and animals; good with high level stuff
but don't shy away from getting my hands dirty; and I'm cool-headed
in a crisis.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
- Father with an awesome 8yo son- I have 50/50 custody alternating
- Divorced for just over 5 years (married for about 9 years)
- I straddle between working for the man and being my own boss. (I
have a nighttime work-from-home job managing a global IT Critical
Incident Management team for a large tech company and during the
day I run my own business in the construction industry).
- I volunteered on the board of a local non-profit preschool for
six years and am taking a break this year. I haven't settled on a
replacement volunteer activity yet. I used to be a phone counselor
and volunteer trainer/coordinator for a suicide prevention and
crisis counseling hotline. Maybe I'll do something like that
As busy as that may sound, it feels like I have more free time this
year than in a long, long time. So I'm trying to energize some
hobbies (mentioned in the next section), including dating.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I don't like "I'm really good at", so I'll make this section "I
I love bicycling, mountain and road... but mostly road. Waaay back
when, I used to race road for U.T. and worked at a bicycle shop for
many years. It feels like a fish getting back into water.
Archery is another activity that I used to do a lot that I'm trying
to get back into (my son loves it too). Our yard's not well suited
though so we have to go to a range which makes it a little more
I really enjoy building Lego with my son (or, honestly, even when
he's not around). I still had my collection from when I was a kid
and we've expanded it a bit. I enjoy the mixture of creativity and
engineering challenge. We've been to several Lego conventions and
have even had stuff we've made displayed in the Lego Store.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Not a huge share of mind overall, but relevant here:
I'm wondering whether this online dating thing is really all that
it's cracked up to be. It seems to be a decent way to meet people
that are outside of my usual social circles, but as much as I'd
like to find someone with common interests, similar sense of humor,
and mutual attraction; I'm a little skeptical that it can happen
online. Prove me wrong?
P.S. I think the written-in explanations in the Q&A section are
the best way to get a sense of a person. What do you think?
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'm not big on dating around. Having fun is great, but I'm looking
for someone I can have a real connection with.
-I want to connect as partners: values, goals, and compatible
communication/problem solving style.
-I want to connect as friends: interests, hobbies, and style of
-I want to connect as lovers: mutual attraction, level of desire,
-I want a connection between our inner children; they can go on
playdates. I want to feel safe being a kid around you and you can
feel safe being a kid around me. Too busy being a grownup to
acknowledge your inner child? I'll pass, thanks.
-I want a connection between our inner parents (the part that keeps
the inner child in check). They can share inner-parenting tricks.
And they can be clear that I don't need them to caretake me, and
I'm not looking to caretake you. I'm thrilled for us to help each
other out (I'm really good at it, actually), but it HAS to be
Is that a lot to ask? Damn right it is, but this is my life and I
don't plan on half-assing it.
Of course I'm not expecting everything from the get-go. But it does
need to feel like there's potential there.
Hopefully you're thinking "Wow, that's real." and not "Geez, what a
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