*** Friends First ***
I'm a happy, open-minded, relaxed, confident, self-sufficient, financially independent, accomplished, shy at first woman who has a whacky sense of humor, (if you think sarcasm is actually a good thing - move on), has lots of friends and family, is multi-cultural/ethnic/ east-west modern; single, never married, no kids, no baggage/big life issues, pot/drug & alcohol free and looking for the same to come home to, (single, intelligent, no major baggage issues, drug-addiction & relationship trauma-free, sober, 30-40's, (or looks it/young at heart), Caucasian/non-hispanic, educated, accomplished, has no young kids, has his own place, job, car; is mature, has the time, desire, space & balls for the Real Thing/ Forever, etc).
I'd say you were a possible good match if we both felt these were important values... are motivated to nurture, protect, improve, appreciate and deeply connect our special, wonderful 'relationship bubble'; are passionate, dedicated, bright eyed idealists/ optimists, are spiritually mature but not religious/dogmatic/zealous/political; intuitive, perceptive, open-minded; well traveled, multi-cultural/ internationally minded; philosophical, theoretical, present as well as future minded, not quick to judge; touchy-feely/ pda/kissing-cuddle-slut, lol...but also balanced with rational, intelligent, clear-minded sharp intellect: grounded, articulate, educated, intelligent, life-long learner type, nerdy, honest, self-aware, self-regulated, emotional maturity, loyal, fidelity, competent, self-sufficiency/independence, honorable, unselfish, open-hearted, undamaged (has self-healing/coping tools & skills), resilient, compassionate, good listener, integrity, strength of character, high self esteem/ core values; mindful, aware, conscious, clean & pure living, asks the Big Questions & aspiring to learn, grow, heal, evolve towards Self Knowledge together as life partners.
CATCH ME IF YOU CAN:
My Myer-Briggs personality type is rare...mostly INFP-ENFJ (healer/intuitive/counselor/protector type). I know what personality types work best for me, so will only date those kinds. What's your personality type? It's not everything and balance is key, but it's worth about 20% on my checklist of compatibility eval for our potential as life and playmates. YES, I AM A NERD! Humor me, I'm totally worth it, if you are The One. You can find out by going to my test page here and click on 'take it' where you see my own results. Unfortunately the mobile app doesn't provide access, so you will want to use a real computer. HINT: be yourself and not your work, family or sports/bar personality for this. If you test out with a T, or ST- we probably aren't a match, sorry. If you test out with an F and/ or N, I am definitely interested! Balanced, adaptive, skilled, emotionally heart-mind mature Intuitives and Touchy-Feely types ready for a relationship rule! Key word: Balanced.
I also lean towards other heart-mind balanced, wise, spiritually inclined, idealist/ creative/ left-right brain types who are self-aware, conscious, life-long learner types. We consider ourselves unselfish, generous hearted, kind, thoughtful, introspective relationship philosophers, love things like sci-fi, psychology and nature/ outdoors, healthy clean living. We need to connect and demonstrate our affections through 1. touch 2. verbal affirmations and 3. quality time/shared activities, (Gary Chapman, '5 Styles of Love'). We are wise to what makes for anger & resentment-free loving, (Stosny, Ph.D. 'Love without Hurt), and are about balanced/ holistic personal growth & development, the pursuit of purpose, meaning, happiness, contentment through intimate connection, and the upliftment of humanity in some way, as major themes in our lives together.
MY MR. RIGHT ~ HUGE TURN ON'S:
I want a balanced man who is skilled & confident in his own masculine energy. His presence gives me butterflies and lusty arousal. He understands and appreciates the wisdom of unselfishness and the give & take dance of creating a deeply connected, wonderful, sustained love affair. We love to surprise each other in fun & sexy ways...If he touches me, i might melt. He makes me want to nibble his ear, run my hand gently over... and whisper naughty things. His smile, his eyes, his body, biceps & muscular forearms has me transfixed....He is my hero, protector and playmate whom I adore. We want nothing more than to make each other happy, to protect, appreciate and always be looking for ways to improve the wonderful thing we have together.
In the interest of total upfront honestly/ disclosure, I am not 45yrs! I had to put something down :/ The pics are from March & June 2013. Dates say I look 30's-early 40's, but am a lil older, and I admit I feel insecure about that! I have a huge hang-up about being over 40 and am not interested in men towards 50+. I will share that bit of info about myself when we meet, lol. So, now you know and it's up to you and any hang-ups you have about age yourself. Other than that, this profile is absolutely accurate & true, and I am not into games, lying, fraud or misrepresentation from myself or you. Please be honest & up-front with me also.