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45 New York, NY Woman


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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 25–55
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating

My details

Last online
Dec 19, 2014
5′ 6″ (1.68m)
Body type
Full figured
Mostly anything
Not at all
Other, and somewhat serious about it
Gemini, and it’s fun to think about
Dropped out of university
Art / Music / Writing
Rather not say
Seeing Someone
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly)
My self-summary
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Hey people! First thing you should know is that I'm a kinky pervert and a sober human. OK that was two things but fuckit. I'm a rebel, man, and I'll never ever be any good. SO, if you drink to drunkeness, and think that kink is too weird, we are not compatible.

It has become clear, after my receiving a raft of very forward and, frankly, crass messages, that not everyone understands that being into BDSM and openly kinky doesn't mean I am your ready-to-rage submissive sex slut. THAT privilege has to be developed and earned. Being submissive does NOT translate to my doing everything you want me to do from jump. Send me a one-liner about what you want to do to me and you won't dig the response. If I were here to meet random men for merely carnal encounters, I would have said so.

I'm direct like that.

Random sex is easily obtained. Connected energy, lifetime adventure, deep affection and grounded love?

Not so much.

It is THOSE things I seek. Not a quick schtup.


I'm single, and by single I mean not involved with anyone else in a full-time relationship. I have friends with whom I will occasionally have kinky fun, spankings and rope bondage and stuff. It's fun and wonderful...and yet I miss having someone central in my life, and in my heart. That is what I'm seeking. Someone single, temporally & emotionally available, for heart-bonding and adventures.

OK. SO, me me , all about me.

Born and raised in the concrete canyons of NYC, I've also been writing and performing on stage since the age of five. I did a whole lot of commercials, and will bore you to tears with stories about baby elephants and being mistaken, that one time, for a child prostitute after leaving a commercial shoot. I sang on the soundtrack of the movie The Wiz and held a gun to Danny Bonaduce's head in the indie cult classic, America's Deadliest Home Video. Seriously. Look it up.

My one-woman show 69Stories: One Pervert's Tale enjoyed 5 incarnations including three full runs in San Francisco between 1997 and 2004. I was interviewed on "Forum" by Michale Krasny with regard to my Solo Show. By all accounts, I managed to represent wit, fierceness, and the awesomeness of Perverted Peoples to the Public Radio Crowd. My theater work has received critical acclaim and been recognized with several awards, including awards for "Best Local Actress" and "Most Radiant Presence in Shackles", a category created for my solo show and no doubt to be a singular honor!

I commonly and notoriously identify as a slave, masochist, and "Delicate, Trembling Flower of Submission." That last part is somewhat ironical, because I don't often tremble. But I am, in the safety of the right relationship, fierce and submissive.

I am outgoing, sexy, and shy. Constantly curious. And odd. Odder than most, and yet craving the connection with someone for whom a diet of unusual spiritual fodder is the most enticing dish of all.
What I’m doing with my life
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Right now, I'm ass-deep in theater and in being a pervert. I travel all over the US, Europe and Canadia speaking at kink conventions. I also write. Sometimes on my life, often on kink, Leather & BDSM. Sometimes on food. I really am looking to expand my world and incorporate performance and theater and art and awesomeness into my life! Also, red velvet cupcakes. I'm doing that with my life. :-D
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Laughing. Reading. Thinking. Listening. Writing. Inspiring people's laughter. Storytelling. Scrabble. Not doing laundry. Sharing ideas & coalescing the ephemeral.
The first things people usually notice about me
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My smile, laugh and eyes.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Non-fiction science books and science fiction movies are joymakers.
I've read many books, but haven't been reading as much as I love of late because I'm working on writing them. I should just break down and replace that Kindle I broke last year, dammit....

Amarcord by Fellini is a cinematic gem of rare price. I am a Star Wars Freak. But only Episodes IV - VI.

Pretty much any John Woo movie is the shit.

Food? Yes, please. I love everything from good fillet at Ruth's Chris or a leisurely 4 courses at Fleur De Lys to a carnitas burrito at taqueria Can Cun or Pancho Villa to a late-night to kha gai at Osha Thai. Now that I am back home to NY I run all over the LES nomming and noshing Old school Deli food and weeping over a really good slab of nova lox.

Musical tastes are eerily and disturbingly eclectic. Noise metal, New Country and shitty, shitty pop being the exceptions to my "I love everything" rule. If something is written in a minor key, I will probably be all over it. If you can play the hell out of an instrument, more points for you.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My cell-phone.

Kinky Sex.

Sensually pleasing foods.


The performing Arts.

Internet Access.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Stuff. Kinky sex. Oppression & racism. Dreams. Oceans. Living creatures andd how they all became to be as they are. Molly's Cupcakes.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Traveling to some sort of event for perverts somewhere, so I'm often in an airport fucking around and trying to find free WiFi and twittering about how there isn't any.

If I'm NOT traveling, I'm probably holed up in a local coffee house, fucking around online, reading writing or making plans for a late-night assignation.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I think farting is hilarious.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over. are intrigued by what I have to say and want to know more...and you think curvyfat black chicks are fucking hot as hell. And if you are cute, sexy and have an accent you should totally completely message me, because I'm a sucker for accents and at the very least, I'll sit there enthralled by the lilt, cadence and texture of your speech. If you consider yourself kinky, kink-friendly, curious, or supportive of alterna-babes, dominant without being domineering, and not easily intimidated, you should message me.