I'm a bedroom submissive looking to date a bedroom domme (wait, there's more to me than that—honest!) who shares some of my interests, which include movies, books, music, current events, cycling, hiking, travelling, laughing, dining out, socializing with friends, having wide-ranging conversations, and going for romantic walks (yes, it's a cliché, but I really *do* enjoy romantic walks).

I'm looking for a fun, smart, thoughtful, interesting, well-balanced, kind and kinky girlfriend who enjoys taking control in the bedroom but is seeking an egalitarian relationship outside of it. A great sense of humor would be a huge plus.

Although I'm slightly introverted, I often get along best with extroverts, or with introverts who have some extroverted traits.

I prefer to be submissive in sexual contexts, but that fact doesn't define who I am. I'm not submissive outside the bedroom, although I'm usually perceived as polite, sweet, and somewhat shy (but nonetheless sociable).

I enjoy the milder side of BDSM, accompanied with mutual affection and humor. I'm not interested in severe pain and degradation, public humiliation, or group sex, nor am I interested in dangerous, unhygienic, or unethical practices.

Within these limits, I'm game for most activities that a sexually dominant female might enjoy. Although I've never done so, I'd be willing to switch now and then if my partner so desired. I wouldn't be willing to inflict serious pain, but I'd probably be good at the psychological aspects of dominance, even if I'm basically a sub.

I'm a non-smoker and social drinker who tries to eat reasonably well. I prefer women who take decent care of themselves and who dress nicely, or who at least avoid wearing things like sweat pants and fluorescent-coloured shoes (I promise not to wear them either).

I hope no one will take this the wrong way, but I should add that I'm seldom sexually attracted to heavier women (I think we can all appreciate the fact that our sexual desires aren't always based on rational criteria). Naturally, weight isn't a factor in my friendships, only in my romantic relationships.

I won't post a picture of myself on this site, but I can give a brief physical description: tall, thin, clean cut (but not preppy), youthful, boyish, and intellectual looking. If you like that kind of look, you'll like the way I look; if you don't, you won't.

I'm trying to get as much out of each day as possible.

-- taking an interest in those around me

-- having animated and meandering conversations about ideas, books, movies, politics, gossip, and any other topics worth discussing

I suppose people first notice that I'm skinny, polite, and a bit shy. Once we start talking, they probably realize that I'm intellectually curious and a good listener.

Taste in music: I like a wide array, including classical, blues, and punk.

Taste in books: I like literature as well as books about philosophy, history, current events, and religion. I tend to gravitate toward classics.

Favorite movie directors: Bergman, Scorsese, Kurosawa, Kubrick, Renoir, Truffaut, and early Coppola, to name just a few. But I enjoy trashier movies as well, especially if they're funny.

Favorite food: I love almost all Asian cuisines, especially those of East Asia. I also enjoy Mediterranean, Ethiopian, and seafood.

1: friends
2: smart, interesting, intellectually voracious people who can laugh at themselves and at the absurdity in the world, but who still retain a good heart
3: books
4: music
5: movies
6 (tie): newspapers (I'm old fashioned that way) and caffeine

Sex is kind of fun, too. . .

the meaning of life.

I like to go out with friends about two nights a week. We'll often go to a movie followed by dinner and drinks, but sometimes we'll see a play, hear music, go to a pub, or do whatever else seems interesting.

On nights when I don't go out, I'm usually at home with a good book. When I'm dating, I have less "home alone time," but I still make sure to set aside some time to be by myself and recharge.

I think the first few words of my self-summary pretty much cover that ground.

you've read my profile, you haven't been freaked out by the submissive thing, and you think you might be interested in dating.