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I love how dating comes so easily to certain people. I am absolutely fascinated by how a person can meet someone, there's a mutual attraction, and in no time and without any complication, they begin dating. I've never had that luxury. I've always wanted to experience it. Always wanted to just meet a girl that completely blows my mind within the first few hours of knowing her, and vice-versa, ask her on a date or even jump right to the point and begin a relationship quickly, smoothly, and without any hurdles. Maybe it would last for days, or weeks, years, or even a lifetime - that is not the point. Every relationship I've ever had (and they have been few and brief) has only come about after lots of difficulties. One of us was hesitant to enter into anything, or the attraction wasn't mutual fast enough. I guess I'm just not the kind of guy a girl sees and knows almost instantly she wants to be with. I guess they have to get to know me to be the least bit interested.

I've had two pseudo-relationships in my life. One was long-distance, lasted three months and I do believe with everything I am that I was in love with her, because despite the heart-wrenching and bitter breakup, I still am in love with her. The other isn't even worth mentioning. The girl was beautiful, artistic, redheaded even, but we just weren't compatible...plus I found out she was cheating on me..so..fin.

The girls that tend to develop crushes on me are hardly ever my type, and the girls I fall for either catch on right away, despite my best efforts, and toss me into the "friend" category (it does exist), from which I either never can nor care enough to get out of (or have loss interest in once they decide they want more).

I'm interested and interesting - I'm funny, charming, warm, sweet, confident, sensitive...essentially everything romantic comedies tell a guy he should be to get the hot chick, but only after she's done the football team and feels bad for herself. I even do the badass thing pretty well. I mean, I'm an Actor so I can pull off most anything, but it does me little good. Whatever the gene or pheromone is that women are instantaneously drawn to upon meeting a man - I don't have it. Maybe it's the hair or the smile or my personality which is lacking or just plain not inviting, I don't know.

However, as a note to the exciting, beautiful, confident people out there who have been born with a great head of hair, piercing eyes, shiny teeth and animal magnetism...don't take it for granted.

- J.D. =]