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Why do girls seem to think that "having been through so much" with their boyfriends is a good thing? Seriously. A couple weeks ago one of my friends calls me, crying and upset, telling me how she's depressed and feels used-up. Apparently her asshole ex boyfriend had, in her words, "used me for sex for 6 months and never loved me," and she felt that she was mentally and emotionally and physically exhausted. She told me she was staying in her room all day, that she wasn't talking to people and she was smoking like crazy. THEN, out of the clear blue, a few days ago she starts dating him again and he's back to being the world's greatest guy!

Her MySpace profile now says "I love my boyfriend Jack to death. We've been through so much it's amazing. If you try to come between that there will be a beatdown."

WHAT THE HELL?!?!

That is the same thing MY ex did. She went and took back her ex after telling me how much she hated him and how he destroyed her. That's why her and I split because she decided she wanted him back, despite the fact he's awaiting a trial for shooting a girl in the head.

Can someone please explain this rationale to me?

Wouldn't it be better to NOT have had to put up with loads of shit? I mean if I had the choice between a happy relationship filled with love and all that with girl A or a rocky, turmoil, infidelity-fest with girl B, it wouldn't be a CHOICE at all!

Listen up, ladies. I can't believe I have to say this to you but, seriously, it's a BAD thing when a guy cheats on you and uses you just for sex. IF you have to put up with his bullshit every day, it is ALSO a bad thing. It's NOT good to be unhappy in a relationship. Just because you've forgiven the rat bastard for fucking your best friend and now you guys are back to doing the no pants dance, DOESN'T mean everything is going to be better now. IT WON'T.

Find a guy who never makes you feel bad and stick with him.

Dayum.