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38 San Jose, CA Man


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  • Ages 25–36
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Last online
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5′ 11″ (1.80m)
Body type
Strictly anything
Agnosticism, but not too serious about it
Sagittarius, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from university
Strictly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids
Likes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
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Have you ever seen the guy waiting for the train, listening to his iPod, tapping his foot, bobbing his head and patting his bag quietly in time with a drum beat only he can hear? Yeah, that's probably me...

If you've ever read or seen "High Fidelity" (the book and movie are radically different, but both wonderful), I'm a Rob Gordon-kinda guy, I expect, although hopefully a little easier to relate to. I also don't own a record shop. Or I'm a Tim Beasley from Spaced kinda guy who can't draw. I guess I'm the kind of guy who's almost British, except I just happened to hail from the Midwestern US originally and I live in California now, which I love. (I could, probably, also be called a Ted Mosby, I expect. Although I'm not an architect, sex-type or otherwise.)

The more I think about it, the more I'm probably a John Crichton looking for his Aeryn Sun...

I'm a guy who loves his books (from thrillers to sci-fi/fantasy to social fiction to true crime to graphic novels), who loves, loves, LOVES his music (listening to Biffy Clyro a lot lately, but my ipod can no longer hold all my music on it, so you could say music is my life) and going to concerts, I love going to the movies, I got back into photography a few years back, I love playing poker, I love my two cats... my life's generally pretty good, but I certainly think it'd be better off with that mythical "other half" that people keep talking about.

I try not to take life (or myself) too seriously, but not be too flippant about it either... a fine line to walk, so instead of walking the line, I dance around on both sides of it.

I am a writer, a dreamer, and a rocknrolla...
What I’m doing with my life
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I'm doing a lot of things, having been a journalist, in public relations, a game developer and a bunch of other things in between. I'm back between gigs again. That happens a lot in the games industry. My industry's brutal, but I love it. Although I seem to have stumbled into accidentally founding a games studio with a handful of other guys. We'll see how that works out. I love working in video games - it's fun and cool. And if you don't think so, well, I'm certain you can find old fuddy duddies here on the site somewhere. (Yer damn right I just used "fuddy duddies" in a sentence... I wonder if I'm spelling that right...)

I've begun gym-ing again, 4-5 days a week, an hour a day on the hamster wheel, in an effort to get myself back into better shape. Already lost 70+ pounds. I look pretty good now! (Well, I'm thinner at least. The rest is purely subjective. But beauty is in the eye of the beholder.) All of this means you should be in decent shape too.

I'm still working on writing novels on the side, so if you're not a reader (or at least willing to read every now and then), I'm fairly certain we have a hurdle before us. I self published my first one! Go buy a copy! It's been an adventure. Also, I just finished writing my third one! Three entire novels! I might be addicted to this thing...

I'm part of a pub trivia team that meets once a week, although I'm technically an alternate. Still, I end up going twice a month, generally. And I'm pretty good at it.

I'm also part of a boardgame group that meets once a week. We play games from any level of complexity, from Fluxx to Zombicide, from Arkham Horror to Smash Up, from King of Tokyo to Thunderstone. You're always welcome to join in! We love new people.

I'm also rediscovering my photography skills, now that I've gone pure digital. (Photographing Nine Inch Nails / Jane's Addiction? SO. MUCH. FUN.) It's been a while, but I still like toying around with the camera.

I've got my shit together, I'm on the adventure that is life and I hope to find a partner somewhere near the same.

So what am I doing with my life? Whatever the hell I want to..
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I know lots of odd things. I'm a weird font of trivia so people tend to use me to answer weird questions, especially about movies, music, etc. I also think I'm a pretty good writer. I think I've also got a pretty sharp sense of humor. And I know how to make almost any cat in the world love me. It's a gift.
The first things people usually notice about me
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People seem to say I carry myself with a weird bit of confidence, but it can be a little intimidating at times, or they first notice my smile, knowledgeable but perhaps a little world-weary, or perhaps just sagely. I'm a cynic with a devious grin.

What can I say? Prepare for the worst, hope for the best, make choices, don't look back.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Uh, wow. Let's see what authors and musicians I can list here:

Fury In The Slaughterhouse, Ryan Adams, Boom Boom Satellites, The Afghan Whigs, U2, Nine Inch Nails, My Bloody Valentine, Stereophonics, Jimmy Eat World, The Cure, Jason Mraz, Bloc Party, Mike Doughty, Mogwai, Something Corporate, Jack's Mannequin, The Killers, Third Eye Blind, The Get Up Kids, The Pogues, Sigur Ros, Biffy Clyro, God Is An Astronaut, Josh Ritter, Fightstar...

Steven Brust, Jim Butcher, Matthew Reilly, Greg Rucka, Terry Pratchett, Douglas Adams, Walter Jon Williams, William Gibson, Naomi Novik, Barry Eisler, Lee Child, Brad Meltzer, Ian Fleming, Hunter S. Thompson, Emma Bull, Warren Ellis, Grant Morrison, Garth Ennis, Dave Sim, Alan Moore, Frank Miller, Neil Gaiman, Glen Cook... really, I could go on too long, I suppose.

Musically, I guess you can just look at to see what I've been listening to lately...

If you're at a concert at The Fillmore, The Warfield, Slim's, Bimbo's, The Great American Music Hall, Cobb's Comedy Club or any of a dozen other concert halls somewhere in the Bay Area, and you see someone who looks like me, come say hi. It's probably me.

UPDATE: Upcoming concerts I am going to this year include - KONGOS at The Fillmore, Ride at The Warfield, Swervedriver at Great American Music Hall (right now!), This Will Destroy You at Great American Music Hall and U2 at SAP Center.

I'm a gamer who doesn't let his hobby consume his life, but certainly has no plans to give it up. (I saw someone's journal post saying that people playing video games in their 30s are losers. All I could think was: 'Wow, judgmental much?')

Every week, I watch: Castle, Doctor Who, Archer, Agents of S.H.I.E.L.D., Arrow, Flash, The Librarians... (Well, y'know, not EVERY week... just when they're on.) And I still miss 24. (Which returned, albeit briefly...) Also, I've started watching Supernatural when I'm on the treadmill at the gym. I'm in Season 4 as of this typing...

I'm a sucker for Chinese food or a good, GOOD cheesesteak. (So yeah, I'm not a vegetarian. But if you want to be, that's cool too, as long as you respect my right to eat meat, which is murder, tasty tasty murder...)

"'I don't believe in Beatles, I just believe in me.' John Lennon said that. He was the Walrus. I could be the Walrus..."
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My cats.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.


(Also, as of late, game design. What we play, how we play it, why we play it and what new things I can make for people to play.)
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
My Friday nights vary so much, like most people's I'm sure.

Lately I've been driving for Uber, but y'know, your mileage may vary. (/rimshot)

Any pattern you may see is your attempt to impose order upon a chaotic universe. Or, y'know, your mind playing tricks on you.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I have been known to snore from time to time, but I've been told I stop that with a simple poke.

Also, when I'm in the car by myself, and a song I really like comes on, I will sing along and belt that sumbitch at the top of my lungs and not care at all.

Or, I have two small tattoos in easily revealable places that aren't immediately visible, and designed myself with the help of artist friends of mine. (And they're both chock full of personal symbolism.)

Or, conversely, I traveled half way across the world (to Germany!) for a rock concert, where they dedicated a song to me. (And I *totally* met the band after the show.)

Or, I have a fantastic memory for some things and an absolutely terrible memory for others.

Or, I write. A lot. So I'll probably write a fairly long reply to you, should you write me an actual message, and I'm interested. (I'm picky, I know.) If reading is a bad thing for you, you should have already stopped reading. I'm long-winded. I'm aware.
You should message me if
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I'm looking for a female significant other somewhere between the ages of 23-36, without kids, non-smoker, who's not allergic to cats and who digs me for me. In the fantasy life, she'd be brilliant (certainly smarter than me), beautiful, fit and hey, since we're dreaming let's dream big, wealthy. (I feel like it's that list from "Singles." If you know the line I mean, bonus points right away. Gesundheit.)

But really, I just want someone who makes me feel excited. I'm looking for a spark, a connection, a... shared... moment if you will. (Thanks Kevin Smith.)

Most importantly, I want to meet someone who stirs something in me. And I am not a martini. Everything else (except the "can't be allergic to cats") is probably negotiable.

If you're looking for someone to make you a killer mix CD, I do this well. And often.

Really, if you think we might have an interesting conversation, give me a holler. Worth a shot, right? I'm (mostly) harmless. But, I'd like to think, somewhat entertaining and interesting. That's gotta count for something, right?



(In reading this, it's also woefully apparent I need an editor... Editors welcome.)

(P.S. "That phone call from J. Edgar Hoover was for me...")