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31 Portland, OR Man


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  • Ages 22–38
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My Details

Last Online
Jan 5
5′ 4″ (1.63m)
Body Type
Graduated from university
Art / Music / Writing
Doesn’t have kids
Has cats
English (Fluently), Japanese (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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First and foremost I'm a writer. I'd be an artist, filmmaker, photographer, or game designer too if I had any skills in those areas. I've always appreciated most forms of art, but gravitated towards writing - probably because it's something I can do on my own whenever I'm feeling particularly creative. It doesn't require expensive equipment, a crew, or knowledge of coding. Plus I've been told I'm good at it, so there's that.

I used to be into fiction more. I still love reading fiction - and would like to get back into writing it someday - but right now I've been focusing on journalism and I think a great piece of reporting can be just as moving as fiction. For example, this piece on the one man who fought Muhammed Ali then disappeared is amazeballs, and I don't give a hoot about boxing ( It's just an insightful, human story with some great prose and an intriguing mystery underlying it.

My interests mostly gravitate towards media - movies, books, TV, video games, comic-books, etc... This isn't to suggest I'm a total recluse, though. I'm equal parts extrovert and introvert. I work from home and after a while cabin fever takes its toll and I need to poke about in the world. I came to the realization that I don't mind staying in for two nights in a row or going out two nights in a row, but I generally don't like to do either of these things for three nights in a row. I've gotta mix it up, ya know?

I also travel a fair amount for work.
What I’m doing with my life
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I'm a journalist in the video game industry. (Edit: which these days means dealing with a loud movement of misogynistic assholes. If you don't know what I'm talking about, consider yourself lucky.)

I think video games get a bad rap in the media and I'd like to change that. I know so many people who are otherwise into creative, artistic fields that think games are just this sort of time-wasting toy about shooting or jumping on stuff, when really that's such a small part of it. It's sort of like how most movies we see ads for are blockbuster action flicks and romantic comedies, but that's only a sliver of what movies are capable of. In the last few months I've played an autobiographical game about undergoing a sex-change operation, another semi-autobiographical piece about dealing with an abusive, alcoholic father, and a game about raising a small child after a disaster.

I'll put it this way: I'm more interested in people than I am games. Games are just an extension of that and how some folks express themselves.

The way I see it is that part of my role in the industry is to be a steward of how the medium comes across and highlight what a range of experiences interactive media can bring. Okay, this is starting to sound way too pretentious - and it's worth noting that I also love stupid Japanese action games about slicing demons and robots - but it never ceases to amaze me how often otherwise brilliant, open-minded people disregard the medium I'm so passionate about.

(On a side note, I feel the need to dispel rumors that my job is just sitting around playing video games all day. Keeping up with that is important, but it's primarily about writing, researching, interviewing, and coming up with something original to say. I love it though, as I have a passion for both games and writing.)
I’m really good at
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Writing, I think. To be honest, I'm fiercely critical of my own work, but people tell me I'm good at it and I've managed to support myself off it for years, so I'm going to assume I've got a knack for it.

My ex g/f of several years (who is also my best friend) recently described me as a "pure soul." I think what she meant was that I'm really, really empathetic. I'm not sure that I think QUITE that highly of myself, but she knows me better than anyone, so I'm going to accept her compliment here.

I think I'm quite funny, too. I've never pursued a career in comedy or anything and I'd like to include more humor in my writing, but I've often been told I'm hilarious.

I also know how to rock the balding with long hair look. [Edit: I've since shaved my head, but I DID rock that look hardcore.]

Also, animals love me. Is that a talent?
The first things people usually notice about me
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Probably my most frequently asked question is "how are you not gay?!" To which I respond: "because certain lady things turn me on. It is what it is."

That or my voice. It's deep. Very deep. I've often been told how incongruous it is with my otherwise smallish frame.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I'm adding video games in here as a category, too. So here goes:

Books: Love & Rockets, The Watchmen, The Thin Man, The Talented Mr. Ripley, Frozen Journey, White Angel, Frankenstein, anything by Ray Bradbury or Tom Bissell.

TV Shows: Freaks & Geeks, Louie, Transparent, Enlightened, Utopia (the BBC show, not the reality show), Friday Night Lights, Game of Thrones, Battlestar Galactica (remake), The Wire, Breaking Bad, Veronica Mars, Party Down, Community, 30 Rock, King of the Hill.

Movies: Before Sunrise / Sunset / Midnight, Moonrise Kingdom, Annie Hall, The Host, Punch-Drunk Love, The Iron Giant, Finding Nemo, Spider-Man 2, The Dark Knight, Raiders of the Lost Ark, Election, Beasts of the Southern Wild, Anvil: The Story of Anvil, Dear Zachary.

Video games: Spelunky, Towerfall, Demon's Souls, Dark Souls, The Walking Dead, Portal (1 & 2), Papo & Yo, Shadow of the Colossus, Ico, Grim Fandango, Psychonauts, Fez, Braid, Zelda series, Metroid, Castlevania.

Music: The Pixies, Neutral Milk Hotel, Serge Gainsbourg, Arctic Monkeys, Sparklehorse, Modest Mouse, Ray Charles, The Rolling Stones, Radiohead, Nirvana, Velvet Underground, Tom Waits, Leonard Cohen, Deftones.

Food: Sushi, waffles, most types of Thai food, and scotch.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1.) Media (games, movies, books, etc...). Is it a copout to roll these into one? Otherwise my list would be boring!
2.) My cat: I friggin' love the little guy. Women I've dated tend to be more jealous of him than any of my lady friends.
3.) My friends: I'm not sure what I did to deserve them, but I'm going to do my best to keep on doing it.
4.) Women. I want to be clear that there's plenty of crossover between this and friends, but I'd never last in the military, an oil rig, or any lady-less place.
5.) Toilet paper. Can you imagine a world without it? I'd sooner die.
6.) Cuddling: #2 is great at that, but I don't think he appreciates it as much as I.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
What to write, if I'm stagnating creatively, what my cat is thinking about (does he get bored? Does he really love me?), whether writing about video games is something I'd like to do forever. If not, how would I break into other avenues like writing games (i.e. not just about them), movies, etc.

Beyond that, I think about my aforementioned hobbies a lot. I love analyzing movies, books, games, etc. It makes me feel inspired to write more.

I also think a lot about how my life would have been different had I been born a woman. I think a ton of misogyny stems from a fundamental lack of understanding about what things are like for people of other genders. As such, I try to understand other people's plights as best I can.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
At a bar with some friends. We'll typically go back to my place or someone else's pad and hang out 'til 6a.m. I fuck up my sleep schedule every weekend doing this.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I'm totally not afraid to watch Phineas & Ferb without kids. That show is damn good!
You should message me if
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You think we'd have fun together. Either in romantic terms or as friends.