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  • Ages 20–45
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  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

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Last online
Yesterday – 9:17am
Open relationship
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5' 10" (1.78m)
Body Type
Post grad
Doesn’t have kids
English (Fluently), Japanese (Somewhat), Italian (Somewhat)
My self-summary
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~~~~Relationship Disclosure~~~~~~~
I'm in a committed, long-distance open/poly relationship with a lovely human being (Justbeinghere) who is transparent, honest, communicative, independent and passionate about making new connections with people. I hope that doesn't deter you from writing!

I'm incredibly sarcastic and dead-pan (except when I'm over the top), oh, and I love irony--which is why I'm always serious (I'll let you do the math on this one). When the occasion calls, I can also be professional (don't ask me about estate planning). Turns of phrase, apropos remarks and double entendre are a treat (read: I was a rhetoric major); I believe that conversations are more than just the conveyance of thoughts and desires--they are events, happenings and journeys. (JL Austin, Derrida, Wittgenstein, Cavell, etc.)

I graduated from U. C. Berkeley in 2007. College was the best thing that ever happened to me. After 18 years of living in a community that did not always endorse the equality of love for all human beings, and one that at times frowned upon other creeds, cultures and philosophies, Berkeley was the city/Academy that changed my life. I told myself that I would never move back home.

And--in such a cliche move--I did.

I'm relatively happy with the progress that has been made since those younger years, but I would love [ed. note: need] to meet others who share a passion for compassionate politics, who have a compassionate philosophy, and who are not too jaded by reality just yet--though I'm flexible on the level of jadedness.

Chances are, if you're this awesome I will be driving ~200 miles to hang out with you. I am totally serious.

I absolutely love what I do, but I also love pretending I'm an engineer (yes, I can solder), a lawyer (lawyers are hot, and memorandum can be fun), a teacher (love teachers), a writer (they make the world spin), a scientist, a search and rescue diver, designer, etc...(I've settled on becoming a hard-boiled detective/wizard if none of these professions ever work out).

In my spare time, I enjoy diving (scuba!), social dancing (Waltz, Tango, Quickstep, Cha-Cha, Swing), hiking, backpacking, canyoneering, mountaineering, supporting local restaurants, snowboarding/skiing, snowshoeing, rock climbing, kayaking, mountain biking, reading, tennis, ultimate frisbee, bouldering, ping-pong, awesome boardgames, cooking (Breakfast is my favorite meal to make!), bowling, etc.... if you enjoy something, I probably will too (bonus points if you can beat me).

I'm a voracious reader (devourer) of many mediums and genres (books, graphic novels, reddit, people, films, papers, blogs, video games, websites, journals, magazines, sheet music, etc.). Did you ever read Snow Crash? I'm basically a gargoyle (ubiquitous computing: sign me up). Now, I'm not saying that it's a requirement that all you cool kids [and don't kid yourselves: if you're not dead, you're still a kid] have to be linked in to the metaverse and be able to code your way out of a large, paper bag (don't get me wrong, that would be hot); but, I am looking for someone who is open to learning new things (be they technological, physical, philosophical, metaphorical, nonsensical, etymological, and delicious).

I'm also that guy in the movie theater who laughs--a lot. Real life can already be quite hilarious--how can one not laugh (out loud, heaven forbid!) at a hyper-sensationalized humorous moment? Is everyone in here dead? (Read: Zombies need not apply--though I do secretly love them too).

I realize all that (see above) was largely a massive (and perhaps futile) demonstration of all of the facets that = I. I really do believe that there is no singular being, singular I, singular you; rather, there is only a collection of ever changing personalities, narratives, traits, quirks, and circumstances whose relationship to each other is tenuous at best (Yeats: "The center cannot hold," or better yet: there never was a center), and only by giving some attention to detail, can we really ever begin to truly describe ourselves to one another.

(This is my incredibly arcane way of saying simply: I am a very patient and understanding person who can get along with just about anyone--but at the same time I'm here to meet the people I want to meet--so if you've managed to make it this far, then I will give you the benefit of the doubt that you're not of the mindset that we have some unified and pure spirit/soul or that there is a universal structure of morality [via Bible, God, Odin, etc...]; if so then I want you to know up front: we will most likely never be more than friends or acquaintances.)

If you managed to survive all that--my massive wall of text--without critical damage, I'd say that's a good sign.

Please roll 1d20 to continue. A score of 11+ allows you pass over the massive wall of text unharmed. 10 and below: I strongly suggest returning when more experienced.
What I’m doing with my life
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Graduated from U. C. Berkeley in '07 with a degree in Rhetoric (think philosophy/law/literature with a critical bent--though some would call it critically warped).

Received my WFR certification in 2011 in hopes of engaging in volunteer search and rescue or other educational outdoor programs.

Started a paralegal program in 2013. For work. And for fun.

When I'm not at work, I'm at home writing about my experiences outside of the Ivory Tower and attempting to prevent a cultural apocalypse in Northern California (while sometimes baking cakes).
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
While I excel at sleeping on my stomach, if you give me a map with two points I will manage to find the longest possible route from point A to B (but maps are so reductionist, they forget about the place, the space, the movement...).
The first things people usually notice about me
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I write my own speeches and often become lost in my own (nested) parentheticals.

[This usually gets me one of several reactions: people think I'm a bit off (or gay--> see Seinfeld episode 57), that I'm a burned out programmer (partially true), that I'm being pretentious (I'm just having fun--will you please join in?), or they fall madly in love with me (you may jump to the "You should message me if" box if this applies to you)].
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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==Currently Reading==
I have a hard time keeping up with this, so I'll direct you here:
Currently Reading (via Good Reads);

==Favorite TV Shows==
Star Trek, Doctor Who, House of Cards, Sherlock, Arrested Development, Battlestar Galactica, West Wing, Firefly.

==Favorite Tabletop Games==
D&D/DCC/Cthulhu, Eldritch Horror, Carcassonne, Twilight Struggle, Agricola, Fiasco, and nearly anything recommended on SU&SD.

==Favorite Hot Spots==
Berkeley, a library, Mt. Shasta, Mt. Lassen, Castle Crags, Trinity Alps, Hokkaido-Japan, a good coffee shop, Museums, a river trail.

Baroque, Romantic, Techno, Jazz, Funk, Orchestral, Pop, Folk, Blues, Acoustic, A capella, Symphonic, Rock-Opera, to name a few genres.

==Thoughts on Religion, and my own Non-Theism==
I'm cool with any faith that is not fundamentally built upon the notion of existential revenge. Unfortunately, most religions (or at least the practitioners) have a problem with other beliefs that directly contradict their own mythologies; and they are *all* mythologies. If this does not ring true to you, please scroll all the way up and start over.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
NPR (Prairie Home Companion, Fresh Air, This American Life, Car Talk, Wait Wait Don't Tell me), and Dan Savage's weekly podcast.

If you have never heard of the Savage Love podcast, please do yourself (and your future partner(s) in life) a favor and go listen to it.

I'll wait right here...
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.

What's it all for?

How can I make the Doctor proud?

Meta-Dialogue: Are there people who actually get this far and read this?

On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?

Writing Yelp Reviews:
A Taste of Redding;

Editing Wikipedia;

Practicing piano/guitar/ukulele;

Planning out a geocache expedition;

Listening to Dan Carlin's Hardcore History;

I have also been known to dominate the scrabble board over a beer or two (any more than that and lexical homicides start taking place).
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Depending on what sources you follow there are several accounts of Julius Caesar weeping in front of a statue of Alexander the Great. One source says Caesar was age 30 at the time, and had only held a few minor titles in the Republic. Another source puts him a few years older shortly after winning a decisive campaign in the name of Rome:

"Do you think I have not just cause to weep, when I consider that Alexander at my age had conquered so many nations, and I have all this time done nothing that is memorable."

This feeling resonates intensely with me. At times I feel ashamed and arrogant to admit it but honestly it is an energy that motivates and drives me.

I'm also an enthusiastic and devout follower of the cult of GGG
You should message me if
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You believe in the following:

We, as individuals alone, control our fate;

The power of change comes from within--not from the stars, the gods, God, Allah, Krishna, the Flying Spaghetti Monster, etc...;

There is no such thing as Universal Morality--rather, it's all perspective (note: I did not say relative);

Only science should be taught in the science classroom (empiricism, not faith);

The Earth is older than 6,000 years;

Dinosaurs did not co-exist with mankind (contrary to popular belief, Jesus did not ride a T-Rex--though the T-shirt is awesome);

Some of my favorite clients are my same-sex couples; they should be able to marry and raise children and have the same benefits that all the other unhappy/abusive husbands and wives enjoy;

Abstinence is not the answer, education is.


If that did not totally turn you off, I really am open to just about anything:

Want to discuss the finer points of Emersonian Perfectionism?;

The role of the SEC and other regulatory entities and the function of government?;

Hetero-normative dating scripts?;

Film theory, film-noir, tragedies, romance comedies?;

How awesome old video games are?

Great! Let's grab a beer or coffee, talk about insert above and maybe make out!