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36 Redmond, WA Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 24–58
  • Located anywhere
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating

My details

Last online
Today – 4:32am
5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body type
Agnosticism, but not too serious about it
Capricorn, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from two-year college
Strictly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Likes dogs
English (Fluently), Bengali (Okay), Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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There are two kinds of people in this world; people who live to *have* and people who live to *be*. I'm in the second group.

What I want most is to discover the limits of my potential and grow into the person I'm meant to become. I want to look back someday on a life well lived where I made hard choices, pushed myself, and gave more to the world than I took. How wise can a person become? How virtuous? How learned? How great a source of strength, serenity, and empathy to the people around you? I see life as a journey to answer these questions.

If I wrote to you first, you can be sure that I read your profile and questions very closely. This is because I respect myself, you, my time, and your time.


Miscellaneous bits:

1.) The "personality" tab has me about 80-90% right.
2.) Even though I'm an agnostic with an empirical outlook on life, I've got a little bit of intuitive New Agey spiritual "woo woo" to me as well.
3.) I'm skeptical of Myers-Briggs, but, for what it's worth, I consistently test ENTJ.
4.) I have decidedly old-fashioned perspectives on things like monogamy, commitment, and legitimacy.
5.) I'm easy to amuse and hard to offend.
6.) I'm a very calm person with a sense of perspective, so I don't respect high-strung or short-tempered people.
7.) I'm incredibly opinionated, but open to changing my mind in the face of superior facts or logic.
8.) I'm emotionally resilient, emotionally intelligent, and emotionally available.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I've got a pretty good job doing techie stuff in civil service (your tax dollars at work! Thanks, by the way!). I'm also a National Guard "weekend warrior," and I'm bridging my humble community college education into something more robust.

Outside of work and professional pursuits, my time tends to be spent doing things that either better me (exercise, meditation, and journaling are all very important parts of my life) or tickle my inner geek (reading, gaming, or tinkering with technology).
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
- My job
- Cooking
- Being empathetic
- Choosing restaurants
- Putting strangers at ease and striking up conversation
- Arguing an opposing opinion in a civil, mature, and unemotional way
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'm incredibly polite. :-)

I don't have vocalized pauses when I speak (e.g., "like," "um," or "you know"). Because of this, I tend to. Pause. At times when. Most people just. Say "like" or "um." There are. Some people. Who don't. Care for this. That's fine. But. Consider yourself. Warned.

I'm a very un-Indian Indian guy and a very un-military military guy (by the way, if you've been reading this profile in an Indian accent, please go back and reread it).
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Nonfiction: "As a Man Thinketh," "Manufacturing Consent," "Predictably Irrational," "Democracy in America," "Seven Habits of Highly Effective People," "The Road to Serfdom," "Hackers and Painters," "Wherever You Go, There You Are," "The Hero with a Thousand Faces," "Sex, Art, and American Culture"

Many, many more. I'm kind of a non-fiction junkie.

For one thing, lots of comic books / graphic novels (and I am entirely unapologetic about this).
Others --
"The Wind in the Willows," "Atlas Shrugged," "The Hobbit," "Starship Troopers," "Ender's Game," "The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy," "1984," "Siddhartha," "Oliver Twist," "Le Morte d'Arthur," "Dune"

My taste in movies is pretty geeky (action, sci-fi, fantasy, superhero...), but I can sit through anything (yes, I'll even suffer with a smile through your horrendous, soul-killing Hugh Grant / Ryan Gosling rom-coms). I just can't stand "stupid comedy" (almost anything with Adam Sandler, Rob Schneider, Jim Carrey, or Asheton Kutcher).

I have a strange love of rewatching iconic scenes from my favorite movies. Think: Al Pacino's speech at the end of "Any Given Sunday," Alec Baldwin's speech at the start of "Glengarry Glen Ross," or the action scenes from movies like "Gladiator" or "Crouching Tiger, Hidden Dragon."

I've started to become a pretty incorrigible documentary junkie. My favorite, so far, is "Joseph Campbell and the Power of Myth"

Game of Thrones, Firefly, The Big Bang Theory, Suits, Vikings, Avatar: The Last Airbender / Legend of Korra, TEDtalks (ok, not technically "TV"). I can sit through most anything that's not lowest-common-denominator ("Honey Boo-Boo," "Jersey Shore").

If you're really into some form of televised Sportsball, please don't get too frustrated with me if I don't know that your favorite team's goalie is good at hitting touchdowns from behind the three-point line when the bases are loaded...

I can't imagine caring too much about what kind of music you like. If our tastes are really that different, I'm sure that some combination of compromise, tolerance, earplugs, and headphones can help us bridge the gap.

I LOVE to cook, enjoy almost all ethnic cuisines, and am pretty much a card-carrying urban foodie. I love fresh ingredients, independent restaurants, and discovering cutting-edge food trends.

There's also something about farmer's markets that always puts me in a better mood.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Family, friends, health, curiosity, laughter, introspection;
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Career, love, fitness, technology, meditation, neurogenesis...

What kind of world my two-year-old nephew will grow up in...

How to make the things I cook even more delicious...

How to make sure I'll still be able to do chin-ups when I'm 80...

How fun it would be to watch cartoons with Joseph Campbell...

What the "special blend" option means in OK Cupid's search engine and why it keeps switching back to it...

Why it is that people will judge thirty-something and forty-something men for liking comic books or video games, but not also judge them for spending an entire Sunday on the couch watching grown men play with a ball...
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
...visiting my older brother's family and chasing my two-year-old nephew around

...doing something horrendously geeky (gaming, geek tv show / movie, techie stuff, geeky conversation) with an equally geeky friend




...going to bed early to get up early the next day. There's something that's just sublime about the quiet of early weekend mornings!
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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The following are all co-equal in my "most private thing I'm willing to admit" category. None of these things, as it turns out, are particularly private, but they're the "most private things I'm willing to admit":

1.) I own firearms and a pickup truck, but, amazingly enough, don't have "a personal relationship with Jesus."

2.) I'm an unapologetic nerd/geek/whatever you want to call it. If you noticed the sci-fi/fantasy/comic book nature of my entertainment tastes, then also consider how this is compounded by the fact that I work in technology. Then, to make it even worse, I'll share that I play "Magic: The Gathering." If this is at all unappealing, then don't walk; RUN!
You should message me if
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Like me, you're on a dating site because you're looking for a serious, committed, monogamous relationship that has "happily ever after" potential. I'm not a "serial dater" and I hope you aren't either.

You want me to cook you my amazing wild rice, kale, crimini, asiago, and pancetta risotto.

You think getting coffee or tea and taking a long walk together could be a fun first date.

You'd like to go with me on a weekend trip to Cabo San Lucas or New York City sometime this year.

You don't "Vocal Fry" ( ), punctuate spoken conversation with the word "hashtag," sigh or roll your eyes a lot, or otherwise evince a mien of entitled, world-weary ennui.

You know what the word "autodidact" means, or you're curious enough that you just now looked it up.

You aren't viscerally afraid of firearms or people who own them.

You want to have a conversation about Rumi, Meister Eckhart, or Alan Watts. :-)