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MrIntegrityBC

35 M Puyallup, WA

My Details

Last Online
Today – 5:15pm
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
Indian
Height
5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body Type
Average
Diet
Anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Agnosticism, but not too serious about it
Sign
Capricorn, but it doesn’t matter
Education
Graduated from two-year college
Job
Technology
Income
$80,000–$100,000
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English, Bengali (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
There are two kinds of people in this world; people who live to *have* and people who live to *be*. I'm in the second group.

What I want most is to discover the limits of my potential and grow into the person I'm meant to become. I want to look back someday on a life well lived where I made hard choices, pushed myself, and gave more to the world than I took. How wise can a person become? How virtuous? How learned? How great a source of strength, serenity, and empathy to the people around you? I see life as a journey to answer these questions.

If I wrote to you first, you can be sure that I read your profile and questions very closely. This is because I respect myself, you, my time, and your time.

While we're talking about matching questions: my own choices are actually pretty awesome "drama-queen repellent." So, if our "match" scores are very low or our "enemy" scores are very high, then it's good odds you're about two dozen different flavors of crazy. Sorry if the truth hurts, Crazy Lady!
What I’m doing with my life
I've got a pretty good job doing techie stuff in civil service (your tax dollars at work! Thanks, by the way!). I'm also a National Guard "weekend warrior," and I've started the process of bridging my humble community college education into something more robust.

Someday I see myself either running my own start-up company, investing in other peoples' start-ups, or doing some sort of work that lets me think profound, strategic thoughts and come up with big ideas.
I’m really good at
- My job
- Cooking
- Listening
- Being empathetic
- Choosing restaurants
- Putting strangers at ease and striking up conversation
- Arguing an opposing opinion in a civil, mature, and unemotional way
The first things people usually notice about me
That I'm incredibly polite.

That I'm better looking in person than I am in photos. :-)

That I (mostly) don't have vocalized pauses when I speak (e.g., "like," "um," or "you know"). Because of this, I tend to. Pause. At times when. Most people just. Say "like" or "um." There are. Some people. Who don't. Care for this. That's fine. But. Consider yourself. Warned.

That I'm a very un-Indian Indian guy and a very un-military military guy (by the way, if you've been reading this profile in an Indian accent, please go back and reread it).

That I have the most brutal deadpan when cracking a joke (I'm starting to wonder if I need an "I'm kidding!" indicator light).
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books:
It's easier to name genres than specific titles.
(nonfiction) economics, history, psychology, world affairs/politics, spirituality, technology, philosophy;
(fiction) sci-fi, fantasy, classics, historical fiction;

Movies:
My taste in movies is pretty similar to my taste in fiction.

The good thing is that I can sit through anything (yes, I'll even suffer with a smile through your horrendous, soul-killing Hugh Grant / Ryan Gosling rom-coms). I just can't stand "stupid comedy" (almost anything with Adam Sandler, Rob Schneider, Jim Carrey, or Asheton Kutcher).

I have a strange love of rewatching the best scenes of my favorite movies. Think: stuff like Al Pacino's speech at the end of "Any Given Sunday," Alec Baldwin's speech at the start of "Glengarry Glen Ross," or the action scenes from movies like "Gladiator" or "Crouching Tiger, Hidden Dragon."

TV:
Game of Thrones, Downton Abbey, South Park, Suits, Firefly, The Big Bang Theory, MST3K, Breaking Bad, TEDtalks (ok, not technically "TV"). I don't watch much TV, but I can sit through most anything that's not lowest-common-denominator brainless garbage ("Honey Boo-Boo," "Jersey Shore").

Most of the time, I don't really follow a show as it airs, but, rather, catch up with it via streaming, DVR, or DVD well after. So I couldn't tell you for sure what's going on with most of those shows right now.

If you're really into watching sports, that's fine too, but don't get too frustrated with me if I don't know whether or not your favorite team's goalie is good at hitting touchdowns from behind the three-point line when the bases are loaded...

Music:
I can't imagine caring too much about what kind of music you like. My own tastes are pretty eclectic (the last three ringtones on my phone have been "Layla," "Bittersweet Symphony," and "Sweet Child o' Mine"). If our tastes are really that different, I'm sure that some combination of compromise, tolerance, earplugs, and headphones can help us bridge the gap.

Food:
I LOVE to cook!

Ethnic cuisines? Almost all of them! Particularly: Italian, Mexican, Indian, Thai, Japanese (yay sushi!), Middle Eastern (yay hummus!), African, Chinese (unless it's one of those shady, greasy hole-in-the-wall places), Irish...

I think the only ethnic dishes I can't stand are blood sausage (which tastes like it was harvested from the bottom of a goldfish tank), borscht (which actually tastes the same on its way from your stomach to your mouth as it did on its way from your mouth to your stomach), and gefilte fish (if you've had it, you know...).

There's something about farmer's markets that always puts me in a better mood.

If it's not pretty obvious, I'm VERY much a foodie and also a...drinkie? That is, if something is labeled "Coors," "Lipton," or "Folgers," I'm probably not going to drink it...
The six things I could never do without
Family -- My older brother who lives in the area with his family is my best friend; he's also the father of my baby nephew (16 months old at the time of this writing) who I can't get enough of seeing! Yes, if you're seeing me, you'll probably get to play with the little one at some point. :-)

As long as we're talking about family: Where my profile says "might want kids" -- that can mean "might want kids to be a part of my life" just as much as it means "I'd like to have kids of my own." So, unless your kids are hellions OR you have baby-daddy drama, being a mom is not only OK, it's a PLUS! :-)

Learning -- There's an old saying: "The cure for boredom is curiosity. There is no cure for curiosity." Intelligent people never really get bored.

Friends -- I’m lucky to have a mix of the most big-hearted, intelligent, and interesting friends a man could ever want. I could take a year off from work to catch up with each one of them and it wouldn't be enough. All that's missing is the right lady to share all of these amazing people with!

Health -- I love working out, eating healthy (though not a total purist; I can enjoy things like booze or dessert now and again), and doing right by my mind and body. I do a lot of "fun runs" (5&10Ks), have started getting into hiking, and I see myself getting back into martial arts (it's been about a 10-year layoff, sadly).

Laughter -- It's an excruciating cliché to say that you like humor and laughter on your dating site profile: who doesn't? It's really just a question of whether or not two people find the same things funny. If you find these authors/stand-ups/shows/sites/comics funny, we've got similar humor: MST3K, CyanideAndHappiness, TheOatmeal, StuffWhitePeopleLike, Dave Barry, George Carlin, Mitch Hedberg (R.I.P.)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Family, friends, career, love, truth, politics, science/technology, spirituality...

Whether or not I'm meditating "correctly"...

How to make the things I cook even more delicious...

How to make sure I'll still be able to do chin-ups when I'm 80...

When I'll get around to travelling to all the places I want to see: Malaysia, UK, Estonia, Azerbaijan, Chile, Argentina, South Africa (maybe when I'm a spry 80-year-old chin-up paragon?)...

Why it is that people will judge thirty-something and forty-something men for liking comic books or video games, but don't also judge them for spending an entire Sunday on the couch watching grown men play with a ball...
On a typical Friday night I am
...spending time with family or friends

...running

...reading

...going to bed early to get up early the next day. There's something that's just sublime about the quiet of early weekend mornings!
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
The following are all co-equal in my "most private thing I'm willing to admit" category. None of these things, as it turns out, are particularly private, but they're the "most private things I'm willing to admit":

1.) I own firearms and a pickup truck, but, amazingly enough, don't have "a personal relationship with Jesus." I do realize how challenging it will prove to find someone who's OK with firearms AND ok with the lack of Jesusification.

2.) I'm an unapologetic nerd/geek/whatever you want to call it. If you noticed the sci-fi/fantasy/comic book nature of my entertainment tastes above, then also consider how this is compounded by the fact that I work in technology. No, I don't own costumes or action figures, but I'm still up there in my overall geekiness level. If this is at all unappealing, then don't walk, RUN!

3.) Before I looked closely at your photos, read your matching questions, or read anything else in your profile, I went straight to your "Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food" section hoping to see "Game of Thrones."
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 24–49
  • Located anywhere
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating
You should message me if
You're not a "serial dater": that is, you're on a dating site because you want to find a relationship and not just because you're bored.

You're looking for someone who's got no interest in "in playing the field," but instead is absolutely ready to meet the woman he's meant to spend the rest of his life with.

You like the idea of being with a man who'll never make you compete for his attention with a video game or a sporting event.

Your profile doesn't have some ridiculous cop-out like "I hate writing about myself, so if you want to know anything, just ask." Notice how my profile doesn't have the equivalent male cop-out line of "I like to work hard and play harder!"? Effort is sexy, and clichés are not.

You respect peoples' time, and the words "play it by ear" don't come out of your mouth when you're making plans.

You know what the word "autodidact" means, or you're curious enough that you just now looked it up.

You aren't viscerally afraid of firearms or people who own them.

Your eyes don't glaze over at the utterance of polysyllabic words.

You don't mind the fact that I'm not Christian. Much respect for people of faith, but I'm not going to convert to a belief that holds that my (Hindu) grandma is burning in hell.

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Basically, I'm looking for the last single woman in Western Washington who doesn't have cringe-inducing piercings (gaged ears, tongue, nipple, or anything below the belt), a prescription for happy pills, impenetrable cynicism, or a credit card balance that could pay for a three-week trip to Vienna; My lady has a heart for romance, an appreciation for stability, and a sincere desire for "happily ever after." Are you her?