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42 M Brooklyn, NY

My Details

Last Online
Jul 22
5′ 11″ (1.80m)
Body Type
Graduated from university
Art / Music / Writing
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Mostly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids
English, Spanish (Poorly), Russian (Poorly), Italian (Poorly), French (Poorly)

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My self-summary
I love food, art, beauty... sybarite is the word. I'll also accept "voluptuary" and "sensualist," "hedonist" on a good day. I've been called a bad boy but I dunno... Can you make a great Hollandaise sauce AND be a bad boy? I do have hope for that someone, etc. etc. But let's face it, odds are long and life is short. If we wind up just having fun (long-time NYer, I know all the fun stuff), awesome. If it turns into something, better. I nuzzle hard. I bike. I look up. I've been told I have "an extraordinarily well-shaped philtrum." I wax rhapsodic a lot, especially in parks. (Just furrow your brow and say "Wow, that's so interesting. I never thought about it that way.") I don't know how much longer I can go on saying "I." I like spirited discussions/disagreements and am turned off by acquiescence. On the other hand, I'm chivalrous and if you hate chivalry I'll be more chivalrous to annoy you. On the other hand I might, on a whim, throw you over my shoulder and carry you to the bed Brando style. Kinky but nothing of the "Ew!/Ow!" variety. Lots of affectionate so if you're a non-touch person, not going to work. And I'm not into messaging back n forth forever no matter how banterable you are. I prefer eye-contact to i-contact.

"It is only shallow people who do not judge by appearances. The true mystery of the world is the visible, not the invisible." -Oscar Wilde


I've had trouble getting across here exactly what I'm looking for. I guess I should just say I ultimately want a loyal monogamish relationship with a deep, affectionate, smart, sex-positive someone. Or if it turns out we're not that then let's just dress up and be explorers.
What I’m doing with my life
I create things that make people clap their hands. I also blog for Huffington Post. And I do other stuff too that I'll tell you about if you're good.
I’m really good at
Cooking, describing things, presomnal cuddling, and I write real good. My friend said don't say you're good at massage because it sounds cheesy/creepy, but I am very, very good at it. Baby.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Films: Baby Doll (1956), Moonstruck, Beyond the Valley of the Dolls, Sweet Smell of Success, ANY Mike Leigh film, Silver Linings Playbook, Wonder Boys, Almost Famous
Books: I'm on a Cormac McCarthy kick.
Music: Talking Heads, Coco Rosie, Billy Holiday, Eartha Kitt, any woman with a weird voice. I'm also big into 50s-60s retro beatnik music, and the old crooners like Perry and Bing.
Food: Yes, we all like food. Here's food that I make: Jamaican, Italian, Thai
The six things I could never do without
I lost everything in an apartment fire 4 years ago so apparently I can do without a lot.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
why the word "skinny" doesn't mean "has a lot of skin."
On a typical Friday night I am
not at a bar. More likely at a burner-type party, a comedy show, a burlesque show, seeing some strange, hidden art thing, or-- Oh who'm I kidding, I'm probably watching Sherlock on Netflix.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I have a Belinda Carlisle song in my iTunes. Also, I don't live on the LES. My handle is the name of a title I twice won.

OK, those are lame but I am a heavy bleeder and a cheap date so if you want to know anything, it's not hard to loosen my lips.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 26–45
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
you've seen more than one old movie
you like to travel and don't mind getting lost
you're a feminist who likes her hair pulled a little
you have beautiful eyes. No really, I love beautiful eyes
your sex drive is on the elevated to insatiable side
you're a free spirit but not cloyingly whimsical
you're tough on the inside, girly on the outside