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45 Belmont, CA Man


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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 31-55
  • Near me
  • For new friends, short-term dating, casual sex

My details

Last online
Nov 3
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
5' 9" (1.76m)
Body Type
Average build
Atheism and laughing about it
Doesn’t have kids and doesn’t want them
English (Fluently), Dutch (Fluently), French (Fluently), German (Somewhat)
My self-summary
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You stumbled onto another profile in the bay area, so you shouldn't be surprised to see another geek.

As expected I'm a sorta-typical high-tech nerd working for a software company who goes to burning man on a regular basis.

A little less predictable things about me:
- I was born & raised in Belgium, Europe. This may explain some of the quirky things about me, like insisting on mayonnaise on my fries.
- I am married to MistressSFCutie and we are both looking to expand our relationships. This doesn't mean that we are a "package deal", but it does mean that we tell each-other everything. Whether you call that polyamorous /open/swinger/greedy is your call.
- I'm kinky in a nerdy sort of way. Into BSDM, bondage (studying Kinbaku/Shibari), spanking, flogging. My favorite tool is the "Violet Wand" for electrifying play.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Trying to live it to the fullest. I consider myself a "1%-er" in terms of experiences.

I bike, run, code, scuba dive, sky dive, code, hack, think and thinker.

I work in tech. I'm the silent guardian, watchful protector, but mostly cranky janitor.

We've started a podcast. If you want to know what we sound like (or if you prefer the maximal staking option), check out .
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
- Researching things & Building things
- Breaking things & Causing trouble
- Backrubs & Spankings
- Making people laugh or get offended
- Giving people what they need, be it pleasure or pain or anything in between.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
The boyish, mischievous look and the cute butt.

I'm usually called the "instigator", or "villain".
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Oxygen. Touch. Sushi. XKCD. Mental stimulation. The look in a women's eyes when she climaxes.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Pondering life, happiness in all it's forms. Figuring out new ways to blow minds.

Also, I can and will debate anything and anybody on any subject I feel strongly about. I think I got our house on the blacklist of the door-to-door preachers of most religions by now.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
... wondering what "normal" people do.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
As a healthy cisgendered white male, employed in a well-paying job he likes, living in one of the nicest places in the world, in a wonderful relationship, I am aware of my "privilege" and thankful for my good luck.

On the other hand, as a straight guy on a dating site, I should expect a message reply rate of about 0.4% .

All in all, I can't really complain. Let's just see what happens.
You should message me if
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- You want to experience a life less vanilla.
- The match is > 80%. Trust the algorithm. I for one welcome our new robotic overlords.