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36 San Antonio, TX Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 25–40
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 6:58am
6′ 4″ (1.93m)
Body Type
Mostly other
Leo, but it doesn’t matter
Working on university
Mostly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids
Has dogs and has cats
English (Fluently), German (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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So I had some cheesy self-summary thing in here before, but decided that no self summary is really sufficient, or objective. I mean, the whole point of the thing is to sell yourself, right? I think I'd rather just leave the cheese thing be, and not bother with the selling.

But in the interest of not wasting everyone's time, I'm a full time IT guy, almost 20 years into my career (yeah I started early), part time musician and dj. I'm also trying my hand at some writing as well. The job is just a paycheck. I'm good at what I do and it affords me the ability to, by and large, do what I want to do. My only metric for success in life is the degree to which I'm happy.

Even still, I'm a bit jaded, but I've been told I'm a huge softy. Dichotomies are fun. I'm snarky and have a fairly dry sense of humor.

I was born in Germany (Air Force brat) grew up mostly outside of DC, and bounced around the Northeast for a couple years after high school before kicking off my IT career in Boston.

I've been in Texas since 2003, and having grown up in the military I get itchy feet every couple years. In the 11 years I've been here I've moved 7 times. Apart from a move to Dallas for 18 months, I've spent that whole time in San Antonio. Although, I am starting to wonder if I'm in the right city lol the volume of 80+% matches in Austin is seriously kicking the shit out of San Antonio.

Oh yeah.. I suck at having my picture taken, and I'm way more charming in person than online.

So it's out there and there's no confusion on the subject, I'm about as atheist as they come. It springs from the study of religion and nothing else. I don't hate god anymore than I hate the tooth fairy, and I don't begrudge anyone their religious choices until they begin to have an unwanted effect on anyone outside of that belief system. I have a very low tolerance for hypocrisy; caveat emptor.

"Confession is always weakness. The grave soul keeps its own secrets, and takes its own punishment in silence.
Dorothy Dix

"Isn't it enough to see that a garden is beautiful without having to believe that there are fairies at the bottom of it too?"
Douglas Adams

"To suppress the truth in the name of national security is the surest way to undermine what we claim to be preserving...There is a is a Latin legal maxim—justitia fiat, ruat coelum: Let justice be done though the heavens fall. I would paraphrase it for newspapermen and say: Let the truth be told as we see it though officials claim the disclosure would cause the heavens to collapse upon them."
I.F. Stone

“Life should not be a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in a pretty and well preserved body, but rather to skid in broadside in a cloud of smoke, thoroughly used up, totally worn out, and loudly proclaiming “Wow! What a Ride!”
Hunter S. Thompson

"No sympathy for the devil; keep that in mind. Buy the ticket, take the ride...and if it occasionally gets a little heavier than what you had in mind, well...maybe chalk it off to forced conscious expansion: Tune in, freak out, get beaten."
Hunter S. Thompson

"The pain, so unexpected and undeserved had for some reason cleared away the cobwebs. I realized I didn't hate the cabinet door, I hated my life... My house, my family, my backyard, my power mower. Nothing would ever change; nothing new could ever be expected. It had to end, and it did. now in the dark world where I dwell, ugly things, and surprising things, and sometimes little wondrous things, spill out in me constantly, and I can count on nothing."
Phillip K. Dick "A Scanner Darkly"

"It is perfectly true, as philosophers say, that life must be understood backwards. But they forget the other proposition, that it must be lived forwards. And if one thinks over that proposition it becomes more and more evident that life can never really understood in time simply because at no particular moment can I find the necessary resting place from which to understand it—backwards."
Søren Kierkegaard
What I’m doing with my life
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I'm a network professional for a financial services company. I play in a couple bands and dj on a rare occasion. If all goes to plan, I'll finally go back to school and start working on a degree at UTSA this upcoming Spring or Summer.

Or I'll emigrate to Germany. Which reminds me, I need to check on that whole dual citizenship thing. Thanks for reminding me OKCupid! You're awesome!
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Reading people, over-analysis, information security and network architecture, cooking/grilling, paintball.. ok I'm reasonably good. Need to get my stamina back up a little bit.
And I'm absolutely exceptional at being terrible with money. But hey, it's just money, and you can't take it with you.
Drinking you under the table.
The first things people usually notice about me
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My eyes and my height.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Non-fiction and technical reading, history, politics, splatterpunk, horror, suspense.
The Marketplace series, Anne Rice, Stephen King, Hunter S Thompson, Robert Heinlein, Poppy Z Brite, Venus in Furs, DeSade, Heinlein, etc..
I read Sun Tzu's "The Art of War", Marcus Aurelius's "Meditations" and Robert Greene's "The 48 Laws of Power" once a year

Comedy (the drier the better), dramas, action, sci-fi, musicals, the occasional twisted asian horror flick
Tarantino, Ritchie, Kevin Smith. Almost anything with Robert DeNiro, Ed Norton, Anthony Hopkins, Al Pacino.

True Detective, Criminal Minds, Luther, Lie to Me, The Wire, Game of Thrones, Blacklist, House of Cards, Family Guy, American Dad, Oz, The Tudors, the first couple seasons of Weeds. Anything kinda dry and dark, but with a sense of humor

Mostly anything. Yeah, I know it's a cliche, but I've been playing one instrument or another since childhood, so my musical tastes range from classical to punk to 90's alternative and grunge, etc..

the spicer the better, not a fan of eggplant, avocados and cucumber, aside from that I'm willing to give it a try
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1) insulin (type 1 diabetic)
2) music
3) my pooches
4) debate/discussion
5) the constant cognitive dissonance caused by being a cynic and a hopeless romantic
6) a challenge
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The immortal words of Socrates when he said, "I drank what."

Why a significant plurality of profiles on here have some comment detailing how sarcastic the person. I'm honestly about to start keeping track of how many times I see that lol

I also wonder why there is a prevalence of people unable to discern the difference between there, they're, and their as well as your and you're, wear/where/were ( I don't know how that last one gets all fuckered, and yet it does..)

But mostly I think about ways to advance; what's the next step, what's the next thing I could be doing. What is the thing I'm going to do in life so that after I'm gone, people who never knew me will know I was here. I'm pretty driven, and the curse of it is that I have a hard time being complacent.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
either out at *insert random bar here* , up in Austin at *insert random bar named Elysium here*, or home reading or working in the studio. Maybe blowing shit up in Borderlands. Really kinda depends on my mood, but usually I'm out somewhere.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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If Rustin Cohle and Rob Gordon magically had a love child in some weird, fucked up, Junior kind of way, it would be my spirit animal.

Sometimes I think I'm still 21. And then my body punishes me for it lol but then I'm too stubborn to listen, and the dance plays on
You should message me if
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you feel like it; co-dependents need not apply.
Also, this is a dating site, if you don't have any pictures posted, you can skip over messaging me. If you talk to someone in person, you're both able to see what the other person looks like. The closest analog to that on a website is a simple photo.