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35 M New York, NY

I’m looking for

  • Guys who like guys
  • Ages 30–45
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Today – 1:55am
5′ 6″ (1.68m)
Body Type
Mostly vegetarian
Graduated from masters program
Art / Music / Writing
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Has dogs

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My self-summary
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Thinker, laugher, culture nerd (both high- and lowbrow), grammar lover, style guru (words, not clothes), dog rescuer, coffee snob, Anglophile, and eater looking for love on an island of misfit toys.

INFJ here; you're one large step ahead of the game if you know what that entails.
What I’m doing with my life
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Former classical musician, current web editor and writer, future career quests to be determined . . .
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
advocating for the Oxford comma.
The first things people usually notice about me
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Big glasses, dark eyes, captivating ginger beard.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Murakami, Ellis, Isherwood, Genet. At Swim, Two Boys.

All Lynch, Titus, The Fall, Girls Will Be Girls, I Am Love, Never Let Me Go, Clue, An Education, The Deep Blue Sea, Mysterious Skin, Wet Hot American Summer, Center Stage, Volver, Derek Jarman's War Requiem

Twin Peaks, Parks and Recreation, Happy Endings, Mad Men, Real Time with Bill Maher, The Comeback, Jeopardy!, Veep, Strangers with Candy, Pushing Daisies, Summer Heights High, Peep Show, Family Tree, Burning Love

Sigur Rós, Mahler, Radiohead, Shostakovich, Portishead, Sibelius, Bat for Lashes, Pärt, The xx, Britten, Son Lux, Debussy, Goldfrapp

Peanut butter, chocolate, figs—preferably all together
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Baby ducks. Kirchner. My next tattoo. Whether my dog is at home reading the latest issue of New York Magazine while I'm at work. What kind of coffee Lee Pace likes. The impossibility of ever living at 12 East 81st Street. Hyacinth Bucket. Sandy Bigelow Patterson.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Consuming Thai food like a vacuum, watching whatever random documentary is on Thirteen, and loving on my English bulldog, Dexter.

Very non-scene, and much prefer a film or conversation in a dive bar to a club. In fact, in two years I'll be able to speak the infamous words of one Liz Lemon: "I'm 37—please don't make me go to Brooklyn."
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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John Mulaney is my celebrity crush. Kristen Schaal is my spirit animal.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You're the dominant, Type A Leslie Knope to my geeky, introverted Ben Wyatt.

Or . . .

You can watch this ten times and laugh every single time at the twisted humor of it all: