I like to say that "a conversation is the greatest work of art". My friend Garrison says "conversation is like a dance that keeps you on your toes". What I'm looking for most is a woman I can have great conversations with. A woman who is present and engaged when she speaks to someone she likes, and who enjoys learning for learning's sake. Not a passive woman who expects the other person to carry the entire conversation. That's too exhausting! Not a social butterfly either. Because you know what a butterfly does? It flutters. Fluttery is the opposite of present and engaged.
I'm also hoping to meet someone who is on my wavelength as far as life philosophy. How much of your life do you spend trying to GET something? And how much do you spend trying to EXPERIENCE something? For a lot of people, the answers are “too much” and “not enough” respectively. I don’t want to be one of those people. I don’t claim to have arrived yet, but I do claim to be trying. And I’m looking for someone else who is also trying.
Here are a few of my favorite relevant quotes, to give you an idea where I'm coming from:
--"Your love life is a team sport, not a personal accomplishment"
--"A relationship is a terrible place to GET something, but a spectacular place to CO-CREATE something"
--"The world is just perfect the way it is...including my desire to change it".