As an independent woman uninterested in traditional gender roles, I admit that I'm a bit of a feminist cliche, but don't let that deter you... if you are a secure man who doesn't need to beat people up or shoot animals to feel like your testicles are still in tact.
I am an American, from a crazy religious background who is now a determined and unabashed atheist, very independent and self-assured. I have been taking care of myself for a long time, but would ultimately like to find someone for a life-long, devoted relationship. My ideas on life, though influenced by my traditional upbringing, are far from traditional. But I have learned that what it is I likely want are some of the more 'traditional' things in life in an untraditional way. Case in point: I would like a committed, life-long partnership. However, I do not require a marriage certificate, ring or expensive party and white dress to accept that committed partnership. I am very independent, but would ultimately love someone who can remind me that it's okay to not be so independent all the time. But I'm certainly NOT looking for the man who wants me to rely on him, make his babies, and his meals. That said, I'm not opposed to that, but I won't be anyone's slave... except when the time is right ;o)
My independence, because it has kept me from making the wrong decisions in the past, is very well in place. This can be hard for some men to appreciate and accept. But it is who I am. I, like probably most people, don't give up control easily. That said, I still respect a partner's role in my life, and welcome it! I am looking for the man who accepts me for who I am, but also calls me on my bullshit and keeps my perspective greater when it gets narrow at times.
In return, I bring to a relationship lots of fun and energy. People tend to enjoy those aspects and come to rely on me to be the life of the party or to be the group advocate. That's fine: we all have strengths. One of my other strengths is my travel and world knowledge (though, the more you know, the more you know you don't know!).
I am very much a Scarlet O'Hara, looking for my Rhett Butler: a man stronger than me who loves a strong woman with all her fire and passion.
I am Myers-Briggs ENTP.