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36 • Melbourne, Australia • Woman
I’m looking for
- Ages 35–45
- Near me
- Who are single
- For new friends, long-term dating
- Last online
- Today – 3:04am
- 5′ 9″ (1.75m)
- Body type
- Mostly vegetarian
- Atheism, and very serious about it
- Graduated from masters program
- Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
- English (Fluently), Spanish (Okay), Russian (Poorly), Sign Language (Poorly)
As an independent woman uninterested in traditional gender roles, I admit that I'm a bit of a feminist cliche, but don't let that deter you... if you are a secure man who doesn't need to beat people up or shoot animals to feel like your testicles are still intact.
I am an American, from a crazy religious background who is now a determined and unabashed atheist, very independent and self-assured. [I have a wonderful habit of not responding to those who list themselves as almost any religion.] I have been taking care of myself for a long time, but would ultimately like to find someone for a life-long, devoted relationship. My ideas on life, though influenced by my traditional upbringing, are far from traditional. But I have learned that what it is I likely want are some of the more 'traditional' things in life in an untraditional way. Case in point: I would like a committed, life-long partnership. However, I do not require a marriage certificate, ring or expensive party and white dress to accept that committed partnership. I am very independent, but would ultimately love someone who can remind me that it's okay to not be so independent all the time. But I'm certainly NOT looking for the man who needs me to rely on him all the time to make him feel secure, make his babies as my womanly duty, and his meals simply because I have XX. That said, I'm not opposed to that, but I won't be anyone's slave or antiquated partner, his cocktail in hand the moment he gets home. Nope, not me.
My independence, because it has kept me from making the wrong decisions in the past, is very well in place. This can be hard for some men to appreciate and accept. But it is who I am. I, like probably most people, don't give up control easily. That said, I still respect a partner's role in my life, and welcome it! I am looking for the man who accepts me for who I am, but also calls me on my bullshit and keeps my perspective greater when it gets narrow at times.
In return, I bring to a relationship lots of fun and energy. People tend to enjoy those aspects and come to rely on me to be the life of the party or to be the group advocate. That's fine: we all have strengths. One of my other strengths is my travel and world knowledge (though, the more you know, the more you know you don't know!).
I am very much a Scarlet O'Hara, looking for my Rhett Butler: a man stronger than me who loves a strong woman with all her fire and passion.
I am Myers-Briggs ENTP.
Lolita by Vladimir Nabokov
Crime and Punishment by Fyodor Dostoyevsky
The Omnivore's Dilema by Michael Pollan
Anything Wally Lamb, Malcolm Gladwell or Bill Bryson
Books that make me think, laugh, or cry
Documentaries and things with substance, which pretty much rules out Hollywood these days.
Me and You and Everyone We Know, Pride and Prejudice (with Kiera Knightly), Gone with the Wind (best movie ever!), Wall*E, The Goonies, Super Troopers
30 Rock, The Simpsons, and cool things playing on PBS (US public television) like Nova and Frontline. Also, Air Crash Investigation.
Electronic downbeat, fun stuff, classical, Lemon Jelly, Underworld, Kaki King, Michael Jackson & Jackson 5, anything I can dance to that isn't misogynistic. No thank you to (most) country, reggae, reggaeton, dancehall and hardcore rap.
Anything fun: plays, ballet, burlesque anything, comedy (even if it's bad--I like to heckle, though I try not to*), anything different or interesting.
Everything! I love to eat and I love to eat good food! But I'm more on the paleo side of eating, though I am a mostly vegetarian. I say no to grains and dairy, which makes my body so happy. I say yes to vegetables, fruit, and more vegetables. Butter (yes, I know it's dairy) makes everything better, and I'm not afraid of fatty food.
Connection to the world (computer/Internet access)
Books/news/magazines and the information they give
My awesome friends
People in general (I'm an extrovert: I love people)
The ability to communicate (in whatever language)
If you have actually read this far and didn't just look at the pictures, then please message me. Those who are interested in reading tend to be few and far between.
I'm looking for an active person, atheist or not religious, smart and curious-minded, non-smoker and free-thinker, who is kind and flawed, as I know us all to be. I'm hoping you'll be kind, generous and accepting, as I hope to be to you in our future. If that's you, let's meet and see if there's attraction.
*This is a complete and total lie. Few things in life are as fun as heckling.
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