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101 New York, NY Woman


I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 25–99
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

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Last online
Aug 26, 2014
5′ 8″ (1.73m)
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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I love onions
Really, I really do
Makes my eye water
My mouth waters too
Red onions, yellow onions
White onions and green onions
Even a half-way decent chef knows it
Will bring good flavors out of any dish
When you add an onion to your pot
We bring out the best in others
I mean, the onion does that
Referring to food right?
Peel back my layers
For I am an onion
Come explore
My core

I’m not a real poet. I’m a fake one. But when anyone opens with a poem…they appear to be deep. I’m deep. I want to attract deep people. So eat that poem like its rice and onions. Go on. Find hidden meanings in it and brag to me that you uncovered what I was trying to say. Prove to me how brilliant you are. I will take credit of those concepts that you found buried between the lines, which actually landed there on accident. I will render you a couple of silent head nods as I kick into my le poete stance. You begin to explain to me that you get me. You tell me that you get the whole onion thing. I smile. You smile back thinking ‘she likes me.’ I evaluate all that you’ve deciphered in my poem. You’ve proposed some fresh ideas. I will take the credit. You said the poem takes you to a place of inspiration; a place where you want to have a positive impact on your surroundings. It really does take you there? Would you like to know where it takes me? Onions takes me to my stovetop? What’s for dinner tonight.

It’s not that deep.

But it is.

Some people call me Mecca
While others call me sarge
A few call me boss lady
And that other few call me friend
Some call me by my body
Others call me by my mind
Many call me baby
Just as many want to call me wife
I’m looking for the one
who calls me by name.
I’m not here to fill a position, I’m here to be me. Get to know me.

Now let’s keep it light but a bit schizophrenic:

I love sponge cake. Icing is optional.
I raised my younger brother on Barney & Friends.
I love Christmas music in the summer time.
I’m in love with the saxophone player.
I’m also in love with the right sided piano player.
They both can get it.
I love scallion pancakes from the local Chinese restaurant.
Thai food!
I have a pretty smile and I’m smiling now.
I wear 3 inch heels with my velour suits
I have a best friend but I would like a bester one.
I talk to myself. I answer myself. I love myself.
I heart hot lattes.
I’m a Starbucks chick. I’m a Dunkin Donuts chick. I’m a warm beverage chick.
I detest spelling errors. It’s silly.
And the more annoyed I get with spelling errors
The more I begin to spell words incorrectly myself
Humbling right?
The Shining is my all-time favorite movie.
I like reading self-help books. Although none really help.
I guess I’m just scratching my itch to be a better person.
I enjoy texting, once I’ve established a real relationship with the person.
Saturday mornings and Sunday afternoons make me smile.
I don’t care for breakfast food too much but I can do an IHOP.
I’m a writer who doesn’t have the motivation to write
I need 7 hours of sleep
I spend time listening to Yale lectures on YouTube.
Does that mean that I went to Yale online?
I’m a fiend for schooling.
If you see me in pants, I’m trying something new.
Furry animal phobia.
Message me.
I love Fuze Iced Tea.
I love Bartenura Moscato. I buy them in pairs.
I can’t live without sweet plantains.
I don’t like competition. I just want to be the only winner.
Men make me smile. Men that are in shape make me smile wider.
Black men that are in shape make me smile the widest.
That’s only my preference speaking, but I do not discriminate.
I like long walks. I like long runs.
I make friends easily but I find difficulty retaining them
I don’t lose them; I just outgrow some of them.
So I’ve adopted a seasonal approach to friendship
Is this your season?
I have sex appeal.
I hate swallowing pills.
I used to keep things inside, now I let it all out
I’m now a pro at taking knives out of my back. Betrayal sucks.
This is my favorite smiley face :0)
I haven’t watched the Titanic yet
I like the rain. I like to cuddle. Let’s cuddle in the rain. As we watch Titanic and eat cupcakes.
I’m a leopard print fanatic
I enjoy girls night in, but much rather a night in with my man
I’m a Giants fan and yes I know who the quarterback is. It’s one of the Manning brothers.
Olivia Pope is a badass.
I’ve been horseback riding once. I was alone nursing a lonely heart.
Let’s go pumpkin picking together. I’ve never been. We can go apple picking if you like apples instead.
I want a friend who has a house on a lake, or a friend who knows how to get us to spend a weekend at one.
I like to travel, however cash and time has been tight.
I don’t have a dream car.
I have tons of picture frames all around, with no pictures in it.
I do not collect stamps.
I file my own taxes.
When I wear red lipstick, it’s on.
I collect little magnetic flip flops during my traveling escapades.
Me love pasta.
I can beat you in a word search puzzle any given time of the day.
It’s not fair to cheat on words with friends.
I’ve been likened to Carrie Bradshaw but I don’t know why because I don’t love clothes as much as it may seem.
I don’t play video games.
Good music is medicine to the soul. Good music is also subjective.
I’m a sorority chick who has never pledged.
I’m pretty.
I’m sending Okcupid: Sikuz a message right now.
LOL is not an adequate response.
‘Hey’ is a remedial attempt to start a conversation. First develop your thought and then text me.
If I don’t message back, it’s because I don’t want to waste your time.
So don’t fret if you get the wondering if I received your message or not.
I probably did see it. As soon as you sent it.
I love to go dancing.
Road trips are my thing. 13 hour drive? Give me the wheel.
I always need to have on me: chapstick and vapor rub.
Can’t wait to fall in love again.
I wear non-prescription glasses and I think they are awesome. Don’t care what you think.
Starwars? Ehhhhh no. Oprah? uh hell yeah!
UOENO. Reeeeeally??? Is that where we are at in 2013??? I LOVE IT! LOL.
I’m addicted to the ID channel. Does that make me dangerous?
Dropbox is awesome.
I guess I should be done with the random facts by now, but I’m not. I will however spare you for now…
…or maybe not.
Would you like to know things that people say about me that I disagree with? Here are a few:
You are really nice (definitely not a nice person).
You are moody (I’m not moody, I just get irritated easily)
You are naturally smart (no I’m not, I have to study)
Here are the things that I agree with…
You have a mean face (I do…its hereditary. I tried the plastic smile thingie but it didn’t work for me.
You can be really mean sometimes (it may come across as mean, but it’s more real, unsugar coated then it is mean)
You are like five people in one (yup!)
Okay now I’m done with the random facts. Time for me to cut and paste into my OKCupid profile. Thanks Yankee…84 & Sikuz.
To be continued.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
So you would like to know what I’m doing with my life?
As soon as I figure it out, I will let you know.
That seems kind of shaky right? Like oh no…she has no direction!
But that really isn’t the case.
Currently I know where I am in life.
I know a few places that I would like to be.
So I’m expending energy building a few bridges to get me from here to over there
And hopefully it will be soon that one of these 3-4 bridges work out for me.
Looking to make a career move but it’s been really hard
I feel like I’m experiencing unnecessary pushback
Like it isn’t this hard for other people so is this a sign that I should take another route?
So I’m evaluating my life. A little self-reflecting here and there.
Okay a lot of self-reflecting.
I have a few discouraging days. But overall I’m totally motivated.
Not ready to give up. Not sure I will ever be ready to give up.
I may have to adjust my sights a bit, but giving up is not an option.
Look how I defined my career as “what I’m doing with my life.” That’s wack and a bit shallow since I’m supposed to be such a deep person. The reality of it is that my life has way more components than my career and I’m fully aware of that. However, the career is the topic that I feel most safe disclosing in this forum. Trust me, there are many other layers to me besides work and I will share as much as I can here while leaving much to learn about me. So I’m not shallow after all. Trust me. I’m deeper than your grandmother’s cooking pot.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I’m really good at
…thinking logically rather than emotionally. Making new friends. Gaining trust and confidence of people. I’m a great listener as I pay most attention to what is not being said. I listen best with a pen in my hand. I’m also a good dresser. I like the way that I dress and other people give compliments a lot. Not that I’m validated by others, but a second, third, fourteenth, twentieth opinion on my blouse can always stroke the ego a bit. And believe it or not, I’m not into fashion right now. On a scale from 1-10, my interest is about a 5-6, but I think I’m going to begin stepping up my winter fashion this year. Clothes are my form of expression.
I’m good at communicating verbally. I’m also good at meeting the parents. I’m good at managing schedules, tasks, appointments, meetings, etc. I’m good at forgiving, which is not the same as 2nd chances. I can host a party. I’m good at building resumes…editing documents…writing. At least I like to think so. I’m good at keeping a clean house.
Finally I’m really good at walking away from polluted, dysfunctional relationships without looking back.

What I did not say that I’m good at
Cooking – I’m not bad at it. It’s not to the point where you prefer to order it, but I’m not as confident as I would like to be.
Singing – I can’t sing but I like to sing in the shower. And even there I still do not sound any better.
I’m not good at maintaining long term friendships. It’s hard to say maybe it’s me. but I’m saying it…maybe it is.
While these friendships simply dwindle off, no historical or memorable ending, I rarely attempt to rekindle.
I don’t like conflict. I don’t like confrontation. But I’m not afraid to do either if I feel that I’m being taken advantage of.
I’ll transform like Beetlejuice!
But then I will transform back to me and we can move forward after tying up loose ends that may have came unloose during the discourse.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
It’s either my smile or my lips. It’s more polite for a person to say that you have a nice smile especially when they first meet you. However, I learned that many of them really want to say that you have nice lips. Men and women alike.
I’ve also been told that I have a really mean face when I’m not smiling. Unfortunately, my facial expression is hereditary. I can’t help mean mugging. I try to relax my jaw but my dentist told me that I may have bruxism (a condition of excessive teeth grinding and jaw clenching). I refuse that diagnosis in efforts to avoid him billing my insurance company for a mouth guard that he says I have to wear every day even during the day. Forget it man, I rather look mean.
I’m a bit classy, so people notice that too. I look younger than I am, but I don’t have a baby face, so I would say people notice my youth. I have a missing tooth right in the front and very few people notice that. So when I smile so I sometimes cover my mouth with my right hand. Uh oh. You are done reading my profile huh? I just threw that in there to see if you were reading thoroughly. You must be. So for the record, I have all of my teeth, including the wise ones.
My height is deceiving. I can play my height up or down which works for me. I’m 5’7”1/2. I like to say that I’m a short 5’8 or a tall 5’7. With heels, I’m easily 5’10, however, I tailor my height to my company. I have 1/2 heels for those special occasions.
So you ask what is the 2nd thing people notice about me? I would have to say the booty. Kidding.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Books: To Kill A Mockingbird by Harper Lee, Run by Dean Karnazes, Humility by Andrew Murray, Are you there God, It’s Me Margaret by Judy Blume.
Movies: The Shining, A Few Good Men, To Kill A Mockingbird, Limitless, The Notebook, Seven Pounds, Crash, I love all LifeTime Movies, Precious, The Great Debaters, The Hurt Locker
Shows: Scandal, Any crime story that comes on Investigation Discovery, I dont indulge in Reality TV.
Music: In no particular order – 60’s Classic Oldies, R&B, Hip-Hop, Reggae, Neo Soul, Live Jazz, some Classical, some blues, Gospel, some Rap.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My lip gloss, a cup of tea, my laptop, my "black book", my MetroCard and my smartphone.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Lately I've been doing nada.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
....def have to get to know me to learn "private" things
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