i will wade out
till my thighs are steeped in burning flowers
I will take the sun in my mouth
and leap into the ripe air
Alive
with closed eyes
to dash against darkness
in the sleeping curves of my body
Shall enter fingers of smooth mastery
with chasteness of sea-girls
Will i complete the mystery
of my flesh
I will rise
After a thousand years
lipping
flowers
And set my teeth in the silver of the moon
Cummings, of course:)

Self descriptors being boxes that muddle chemistry and connection aside, here goes...I am a creative, lively woman with interests in body modification, spiritual growth, pleasure, pain, and general hedonism. Although I love animals and have a wonderful, well-behaved chihuahua named Samson, I am an unrepentant omnivore who relishes healthy appetites. I have a Master's in French/English Lit and Women's Studies, (thesis: Subversive Practices in Feminist Performance Art). I've also studied Physical Theater, Circus Arts, Psychic Healing, Tantra, Taoism, Buddhism, Body Piercing, and BDSM, the latter which I also currently teach. I've lived in Paris, France and Melbourne, Australia. I love traveling. "Things" I like: cooking, cars, kink, care, compersion. Basically I am an "omni" person in relationships, and find it difficult to label myself any one thing, the closest is queer poly top femme switch.
Although my leanings be artistic, politics and science turn me on - especially when there is little ego involved.

Physically, I have discreet and meaningful body ink and several piercings. I like looking somewhat "normal", (define that please!), but naked be adorned. I have a body/spirit that desires intense sensation: giving and receiving, the latter which I am currently trying to ameliorate.

I am polyamorous, and I am currently seeking poly minded, kinky, LTR companions/lovers - NOT booty calls, (unless exceptionally talented;). My preference would be for someone(s) who is creative and queer or queer friendly, but I find that chemistry can be perplexing and it is difficult to dictate "love". Having said that, people who can appreciate my extraordinary life, (as ideally I do theirs), will get further than those who judge or idolize it foolishly.

Apparently, I am an ENFP, or only 3% of the population, which makes me special, but a little lonely sometimes, although I have a vast network of friends and loved ones who help lighten that load:)

I am wonderful, wacky, and wise...

Living fully. I am an alternative lifestyles educator who presents loads of classes on kink and bdsm around the country. A kink specialist if you will, or a pleasure artist if you won't;) I write a sex advice column, have a small talk show, was published for the first time last year (in a book) about Psychic Waste Management. My most recent publication came out last April and I and am working on a book on pairing kinky sex with dairy, grain, and sugar free menus and another on my knowledge of kink and transformation.

I have a few relationships that bring me great joy and that I will not sacrifice, although juggling many can be a challenge. Did I mention I adore, (healthy and loving) challenges? Having said that, I don't take relationships lightly and not all of my relationships involve sex.

I am working on more self care and receiving the generosity of others - challenging areas for me.

Since recovering from a wrist injury, I run a couple times a week, bike most places since selling my car, and I go to yoga twice a week. I just started swimming lessons. I almost drowned twice as a child because I jumped into the deep end without knowing how to swim! (a metaphor for my personality at large). I have taken lessons in Chicago but SF begs for more "water sports" - of the oceanic kind;) I am learning to sail! Just finished first round of lessons and am going out sailing as often as I can.

I am also drawn to combined physicality like tantric yogic practices, and esoteric practices like holotropic breathwork, One Taste, NLP, hypnosis, and NVC. Having confessed all that, I must admit, I'm not at all "hippie like"...much more urban with esoteric sophistication.

I love going to events at YBCA, and other cultural excursions around town. I also want to get out of the city more...learn rock or mountain climbing, scuba diving? I love being out in the city during the weekdays, it's like a vacation from the 9-5 world.

Currently, and most importantly, I just found out that I need to find new live/work space in the next couple of months, so that will now take priority in my life!

I will say that my tag line is "never a dull moment!"

Oh, and it's not what you do but how you do it:)

Emotional intelligence
Spontaneity
Criticism
Compassion
Integrity
Sarcasm
Self reliance
Camaradery
Creativity
Laughing at myself

must add the tough with the easy I suppose....

My aura of self-command, or so I've been told.

how about my concupiscence, munificence, and opulence?

or so I've been told.

Yikes...

Written on the Body, Jeanette Winterson
Oh the Places You'll Go! Dr Suess
They're Eyes Were Watching God, Zora Neale Hurston
Perfume, Patrick Suskind
Tipping the Velvet, Sarah Waters
The Idiot, Dostoyevsky
Zami, Audre Lorde
The History of Sexuality, Foucault
You're an Animal Viscovitz! Buffo
Dr Tatiana's Sex Advice to All Creation, Dr Tatiana
The Crying of Lot 49, Thomas Pynchon
This Sex Which is Not One, Irigiray
Bend Sinister or Lolita, Vladimir Nabokov
The Erotic Mind, Jack Morin
Come Hither, Gloria Brame
Lesbian Polyfidelity, Celeste West
Stiff, Mary Roach
Opening Up, Tristen Taormino
Sex at Dawn Christopher Ryan
Nympho Nurse's Naughty Sister;)

and many more...

Music varies from Billie Holiday to Lemon Jelly, (little rock or country in general, and new friends tell me I'm Indie). I feel the need to add some new interests when I get the time to research on the computer. I am also interested in Klezmer Music and traditional Punjabi.

Some old favorites and currents include:

Lemon Jelly, (with William Shatner;)
Damien Rice "O"
Magnetic Fields 69 Love Songs
Tricky
Suzanne Vega, (Suzanne Vega)
Eric Satie Gymnopedies
Stravinsky Violin Concertos and Rite of Spring
Antony and the Johnsons
Jens Lekman
Lisa Ekdahl, (love/hate actually)
apparently, I am "Emo"

a few movies:
Death Takes a Holiday
Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind
Le Mepris/Contempt
8 1/2
some like it hot
Ma Vie En Rose
you and me and everyone we know
little miss sunshine
harold and maude
secretary
best in show
don't bother to knock

shows:
soap
arrested development
strangers with candy
six feet under

theatre:
Paula Vogel
Beckett
physical theatre
clowning
contemporary circus

Food:
I love cooking and eating fresh organic food! Dining out is always a pleasure also. I am mostly "paleo"...no grains, dairy or sugar, but am happy to "cheat" in the right place at the right time:)

Easy ways to make me happy:
grass fed steak and greens
sashimi
wine

I specify objects here more than the obvious like air etc; but love, always love...

hitachi magic wand
betty dodson barbell
et312 and attachments
black leather boots
Lippy
Loved Ones, especially Samson

could I do without my phone and the computer?
I like to think so.

interpersonal relationships...chemistry, sex, how the world works, why there are so many ignorant people who don't care about others and don't educate themselves on other ways of being. I am utterly fascinated by the hows and whys of all relationships between people, be they familial, sexual, political, or random.

I am particularly interested in how the brain responds to the body and vice-versa during emotional periods and how to "retrain" the brain through techniques like NLP and hypnotherapy.

I also spend a fair amount of my time trying to determine how to continue a passionate life of work and play and how to help others do the same.

At a play party, traveling, working, or hanging at home.

I need to relax more!

but really, I am not afraid to share my emotions. This can freak people out sometimes.

any of the following resonate:

You know of a great housing (live/work ideal) situation for a woman of my "ilk".

You think you could encourage me to relax because you are genuinely an intelligent, engaging, loving, kinky, smart, warm, generous person who is not afraid of a Toppy woman but also does not see her as a a monolithic conquest or challenge. You are emotionally and physically available. You believe in Sexual Healing. You are at least potentially bisexual. You have day time weekday availability and enjoy taking advantage of it. You are single or poly partnered. You could discuss Age Play as a medium for healing. Today is Your Day! You are infinitely curious and love the idea of new adventures. You are looking for an admittedly novice, but enthusiastic sailing partner.

Complex thinkers who work from the heart and are flexible, reliable, trust worthy, empathic, charming, open minded and indulgent get extra gold stars. Not to mention a willingness and ability to heal and hold when things get tough will go far.