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24 Victoria, British Columbia, CA Woman


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  • Ages 20–37
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

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5′ 2″ (1.57m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Not at all
Agnosticism, and laughing about it
Cancer, but it doesn’t matter
Working on university
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Mostly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids
Has dogs

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My self-summary
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Profile is a work in construction. In this, at least, it accurately reflects its subject.

I'm looking for kindred spirits to build meaningful connections and relationships with and I'm open to whatever individual shape and texture that that may take and evolve between us (although I'd be especially happy if it included a sensual and sexual spark). My most fundamental values in life are kindness and empathy. I believe in the power of stories -- and I want to hear yours and share mine.
What I’m doing with my life
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Studying psychology part-time by distance. Providing care for my mom, who has multiple chronic health problems and disabilities. Working on my family's organic farm. Cooking and cleaning while listening to an ever increasing number of podcasts. Living in a mutually supportive communal situation with four other adult family members who I'm lucky enough to also count as among my best friends. Volunteering with a crisis chatline. Writing poetry and science fiction/fantasy short stories. Knitting, sewing and generally making all the things. Mostly I’m just trying to constantly learn and grow and become a better person on my way to becoming compost. Oh! And I'm currently seeking a replacement sport or physical activity for karate, which I loved deeply and achieved a black belt in but have recently had to give up for health reasons.... want to take me dancing? Or canoeing? Or hiking?
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Life-long learning and critical thinking. Communication, including and especially really properly listening (despite or possibly partially because of being hard of hearing!). Emotional intelligence and self-awareness. Empathy. A peculiar combination of goofy and dirty puns, social satire, and morbid humour. Procrastinating really productively, especially by falling down gloriously fascinating research rabbit holes. Worrying -- I'm a champion worrier from a long and illustrious line of worriers. Enthusiastic big bear hugs and luxurious cuddling, platonically or romantically. Loving things -- from tv shows to people -- while seeing and freely acknowledging their problems and imperfections. Living intentionally and thoughtfully. I'm not terribly good at brevity, as you may have noticed.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I like a lot of things (and I really like Simon Pegg's definition of being a geek). I keep trying different things in an effort to keep this section from turning into a massive wall of text. Right now I’m attempting to restrict myself to only 10 per category, but I'll probably cheat outrageously. Without further ado:

Books: His Dark Materials, Phillip Pullman (cheating already -- it's a trilogy). The Beauty Myth, Naomi Wolf. The Shock Doctrine, Naomi Klein. Good Omens, Terry Pratchett & Neil Gaiman. Discworld, Terry Pratchett (aaand really seriously cheating -- it's a huge interwoven series of books set in the same universe). He, She and It, Marge Piercy. Prodigal Summer, Barbara Kingsolver. Little Big, John Crowley. The Handmaid’s Tale, Margaret Atwood. Silent Spring, Rachel Carson.

Podcasts: Welcome to Nightvale. Beneath Ceaseless Skies. Clarkesworld. Lightspeed. PodCastle. Strange Horizons. Geek's Guide to the Galaxy. Drabblecast. Canadaland. TED Radio Hour. Some of my current favourite authors from those innumerable science fiction and fantasy podcasts include: Benjanun Sriduangkaew. Yoon Ha Lee. E. Lilly Yu. Seth Dickinson. Ken Liu. Aliette De Bodard. Vandana Singh. An Owomoyela. Elizabeth Bear. Genevieve Valentine.

Movies: Pacific Rim. Harold & Maude. A Knight’s Tale. Alien. Rocky Horror Picture Show. Smoke Signals. Oh Brother Where Art Thou?. Penelope. Stranger than Fiction. MCU and cheesy explosion riddled disaster flicks.

Shows: Leverage. Firefly. Star Trek TNG and Voyager. Sanctuary. Buffy the Vampire Slayer. Eureka. The Musketeers. The Tick. Sleepy Hollow. I'm a sucker for found families, witty dialogue and character development; also geekery and cheese.

Music: A random sampling of songs I listened to a lot in 2014. I take no responsibility for any rapid-genre-changing-induced whiplash.

Food: I have a lot, like a lot a lot, of allergies and try to eat all organic (and I definitely wouldn't want to impose that price tag on my friends), so I'm notoriously difficult to feed (but it's okay! most of my friends have learned not to worry about it when I bring my own food or don't eat with them). I love fresh veggies from the garden; anything and everything involving large quantities of cheese, butter, and salt; apple cobbler; venison roast surrounded by potatoes and carrots; my secret ingredient (no dudes, it's not pot) gluten free brownies; and generally the kind of food that sticks to your ribs.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Setting aside the obvious basic building blocks of organic life: My chosen family and friends. Purpose and meaning in my life and the ability to serve others/make the world a better place in some small way. Good art – in all its myriad forms. Fresh air on my face and dirt beneath my feet. The internet? ‘Kay, I could do without the internet, but I would really, really, not want to.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Everything. Usually all at once. At this very second: This profile. All of the wonderful people I hope to meet through said profile. ;) That NY times article about the Aron intimacy and vulnerability study and those 36 questions. A super queered scifi retelling of The Children of Lir (part of the Irish mythological cycle) that I'm currently working on. The people I love and their lives and how they're doing. An ecopsychology workshop I took last year and several studies about children, schooling, and nature deficit. That most recent Oxfam report.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
It varies. Possibilities include: Studying. Going out to a poetry slam or a coffeehouse with friends. Playing boardgames with fam or friends and knitting. Playing an adorable badass wolf-headed paladin adventuring with a fabulously motley crew (D&D) and knitting. Watching a movie or marathoning a series with fam or friends and knitting... Want to help me substitute cuddling for some percentage of all that knitting? ;)
You should message me if
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You've read this monster of a profile and still want to! And since many of you don't seem to be reading my match questions (which, really, please take the time to!) -- kindly don't message me unless you are actively working to NOT perpetuate sexism, racism, homophobia, transphobia, fatphobia, ableism, classism, and other systems of oppression. Also, at this point in my life, I'm not super interested in long-distance.

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