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39 M Edmonds, WA

My Details

Last Online
Apr 14
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body Type
Mostly vegetarian
Libra, and it’s fun to think about
Working on university
Relationship Status
Has a kid, but doesn’t want more
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Other (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Oh my.. who am I .. ? I'm a body poet, philosopher and shooting star of creativity who likes tinkering with things and diving into creative projects and community. Dancing ecstatically, contact improvisation and acro-playin and rolling around. Pondering the universe and talking about how dimensions of being interplay with physiology and long discussions about toast while debating zen. I tend to wear my heart on my sleeve and hug a lot.

I'm a student, father to an angel and happy husband to a goddess. My WIFE 'embersouL' and I are both bi ~ open/poly friendly (i'm aka: heteroflexible) and have been together for 8 years. She is and has been a nurse, burlesque and fire dancer, BDSM ~ swinger and ballet teacher as well as an all round award winning badass mom. For the past two years we've been focusing on each other and our daughter and are feeling a little more ready to explore with others. She has a lover and I'm open to sultry playfulness especially dancing.

I originally joined okcupid to find like minded flirtation-ships, sexy play partners and to explore new people separately and/or together. I don't mind being a third or gender bending it. ;)

Since I've joined I'm just fascinated with new people.

I've traveled a chunk and made it around this earthly block, mostly by motorbike. Lived and taught English in Thailand and Taiwan. Dig adventure. I'd much rather go explore temples than lay on a beach, but make time for both.

I find my highest joy through my body movement. Creative articulation through movement inspires me. Dancing is how I pray, cast spells and bring my creative light into the world.

I'm an apocaloptomist ~ The system is rigged and may eventually collapse .. or not.. AND somehow it will all work out anyway. I plan on being part of the solution instead of getting eaten by zombies. If it weren't for nuclear, I'd consider antidisestablishmentarianism, but because of nuclear we have to work with what we have.. even if it sucks. That being said.. our system sucks and we need a new one. I'm open to your politics if your open to mine.

I dream about a gallery showing of all the things I've created from paintings and photos to a lifetime masterpiece that I'm on a mission to manifest.O ..which is part book, part arT, part science project, part re-frame of an archeological story within the mythology of humanity and passing gift to my daughter. It's a tale of it's own.

I'm an open person and figure it only helps those who know what they are looking for.

I'm a person of continual discovery and growth. I have lots of stories and would love to hear yours.

I'm community minded person and could totally live in community housing however my wife is the opposite so we don't. I'm a city boy, she's a country.ish girl. I love the buzz of people, ideas and good easy conversation.

I'm probably the only geek that loves a good game of D&D, but don't play anymore or computer games. I'm too busy being a real life father/wizard/husband/student. Don't get me wrong computer games are awesome, but talking about your level 56 gunner with new 'special' weapons makes me want to get creative, break out the body paint and roll around with the moon.

Other things i dig: firedancing ~ diving ~ motorcycling ~ running ~ traveling ~ alchemy ~ reading ~ thinking a lot ~ dreaming ~ meditating ~ more dancing ~ playing with blindfolds ~ chess ~ rpg's (not computer games) ~ cursive writing ~ spontaneous moments of singing and song (i sing a lot) ~ drumming ~ hiking ~ I like spiraling with my body ~ thinking more ~ there.. consider myself pitched ; )
What I’m doing with my life
Being me, a dad, a husband, a creative mover, dreamer, journaler and artistic creative type. I'm working on a fine blend of Archeology, Nanotechnology, Movement exploration, Fusion research and silly inventions. It may not exist yet, but that isn't stopping me. If it doesn't work.. make badass art out of it and take it to burning man. ; )

I'm facilitate this crazy fun non-sexual blindfolded contact ecstatic dance --> Wombology: Blindfolded Movement Exploration to the masses. I've held these in Seattle, Portland and Oakland with more regular local gigs. Check it out at

I've begun writing a book about the historic use of blindfolds in everything from ancient rituals, neo-tantra, kink, sensory experimentation, martial arts and somatic philosophy ramblings about brain chemistry and neural development.

I'm also working on an invention which is a modern version of the 1870's Acoustic Turbine with microfusion fueled pulsed plasma thrust. It's experimental and I hope it works.
I’m really good at
~ Creative play and making a better mousetrap.
~ Sticking my foot in my mouth and saying the most awkward things at what seems in opportune times, which can be some of the funniest.
~ Forgetting things and being silly with my daughter. I love to decorate and make everything a magical altar. It can even be a little ocd as I arrange whatever happens to be in front of me into aesthetically pleasing mandala so I can learn to let things go.
~ Lighting and changing it if it needs it.
~ Looking sexy when I Q.tip <-- ear sex (so my wife says)
~ Not getting out as much as I'd like, though I actually do get out a fair amount.
The first things people usually notice about me
I'm blue eyed and big hearted loves to dance.
I often dress casually nice with a tribal twist.
I seem to know people wherever I go.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Between a toddler, inventions and text books I haven't had much time for leisure reading or movies.. I miss both though. Avatar ~ Air Bender = Cartoon fav, Dragon Ball Z, Ghost in the Shell, Hayao Miyazaki, Brazil, Catch 22

As for TV shows ~ I like the idea more than I partake. I'm more interested in people and doing more then watching others do. That said I do like SciFi and .. other .. shows.. ? <-- that I hardly ever watch.

~ Random Rab, Ill-Esha, Spearhead, Marley, Miles Davis, Enya, Enigma, Loreena Mckennitt, Ella Fitzgerald, & good ol Louie, Sublime, Slightly Stoopid, The Cure, Depeche Mode, Pink Floyd, and Black berry pie

~Robert Anton Wilson, Tolkien, Gibson, Arther C. Clark, Gaiman, Douglas Adams and the Egyptian Book of the Dead and a host of other rare ancient spiritual manuscripts.
The six things I could never do without
Cuddles with my goddess and lovely daughter
My archeo and personal journals
Sunsets and waterfalls
Messages and sexiness ;)
Good food and fresh air
More than 6? ~ what can i say.. i'm pro abundance
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Things to decorate, blindfolded games, fusion experiments involving rotating stuff n' sex. Blackberry pie and Jesus toast.
On a typical Friday night I am
Playing with my daughter, dancing, devising some ingenious way of time travel.

I have lots of sexy friends to play with and we know how to throw DOwn! Sometimes we are rolling around with blindfolds and dancing our asses off or out shaking up the town. Never a dull moment to be had though I can easily end up curling up and not getting out. I'm guided by the winds of fate and ride the waves of my own destiny like a boss.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
~ I feel both sides of my gender coin and both sides can be seen given moments. My wife is rockin quite the goddess/god combo herself.
~ i dig sexiwear, lace ~ leather, neotantra ~ kink --> flavA ;)
~ i rarely message anybody or reply. It really has to feel right. I'm not a guy who shoots off dozens of messages.. obviously. <--- I can be a master of the obvious at times.
I’m looking for
  • Everybody
  • Ages 22–45
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex
You should message me if
ALL these IFs!

...if you found my profile interesting, want to play blindfolds just dancing or more. I'm not just here for sexiness, all YOU people fascinate me and I want to know YOU. Ask you about your life and perspectives.

...if you are cool with the fact that I have a wife and child that I love dearly. ...if you feel resonant with co-creating something beautiful .. sexy ..or just kickin it.. friendly ...if you are cozy with poly parallel or perpendicular play and casual connection with caring and loving sexy souls who are busy making a lovely life that interweaves with your play style with minimal drama.

...if you have homeostasis and are looking to try a playful flav o' cupcake ; )

I star folks very rarely and message even less. If I do, it
means I've been pondering you for a while and think your pretty neatO! Star me if you think the same and maybe I'll get back to you. It may take a bit. I confer with my lady ~ trust in truth and it will only help you grow.

If you are local to Seattle it would probably be best if your poly solid in one form or another OR be married to work and honest straight up awesome with my wife. I love my family and am here for good. Bonus point if you think she's hot, however not required.

I'm more of a FWB kinda guy and like to get to know my lover, hang out, curl up, rubbin, lovin and such. ;)

Also I've been singing at open mics more often. So if you know of any just shoot me a line to let me know where that would be GREAT! Bonus if you want to come with. I'm a bit shy about it, but have crafted a few songs over the years and more recently so. I like to jam too! Scat jazzy fun whateverness FTW!!

~ eT