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46 F Burlington, VT

My Details

Last Online
Apr 16
5′ 0″ (1.52m)
Body Type
Mostly other
Not at all
Other, and laughing about it
Sagittarius, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from university
Art / Music / Writing
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t want kids
Likes dogs and has cats
English, French (Poorly)

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My self-summary
I'm an actor, writer, solo performer, wedding officiant, climate activist, public speaker, serial creative entrepreneur, and teacher of yoga, writing, and theater. Somehow, it all works.

I'm in a rock-solid open marriage, and looking for friends who are lovers and lovers who are friends.

I'm not a swinger. My presence here isn't about just getting laid willy-nilly (no pun intended) (maybe). I'm looking for genuine connection, real friendship, true caring. Just in a slightly unconventional form.

I'm dang smart, goofy-funny, laser-intense, and super committed to whatever my latest version is of saving the world.

When I'm looking for inspiration around great leadership styles, I tend to swing back and forth between Jean-Luc Picard and Ernest Shackleton. Seems to work. The Borg have been beaten back and none of my people have lost any toes yet!

I like to keep the drama out of my personal life. It's about the communicating, the compassion, the laughing, and remembering that we're all on the same team.

You're bold, brave, reasonably healthy, mostly conscious, generally self-aware, ragingly creative, a great dancer, and an unrepentant sensualist. You won't mind me telling you what I'm thinking and feeling and you'll be pretty open to me asking you the same.

By the way, I don't drink because I'm allergic to alcohol (I KNOW!), not because there's an Issue.

I look forward to meeting you.
What I’m doing with my life
My main money-gigs are working as a wedding officiant, teacher-of-various-things, and co-founder of an award-winning community sustainability game.

I spend a lot of time doing climate-related activism, writing, and public-speaking.

I've self-published a bunch of books including a compendium of my talks and essays, a collection of ecumenical holiday stories, a collection of erotica, a few plays, and a kid's book, which I illustrated with a bunch of Photoshop collages. I LOVE Photoshop!

I've got two cats, but I'm not a crazy cat lady or anything. No kids. Never wanted 'em, never will.

My yoga practice has me getting up at the squinty part of every morning to salute what would be the sun if it rose that early. This means I have a tendency to fall asleep around 3 in the afternoon. But for the right person, I will pound a Red Bull and soldier on into the night!
I’m really good at
Kissing, dancing, writing, making frittatas, listening, cracking up, making large groups of people crack up.

Also seem to have an open pipeline to Planet Idea, and I'm particularly adept at seeing people for their best selves.
The first things people usually notice about me
1) Energy
2) Smarts
3) Energy
4) Passion
5) Energy
6) I'm shorter than I look on stage
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Authors/Books: Neil Gaiman, Terry Pratchett, Barbara Kingsolver, Haruki Murakami, Elizabeth Gilbert, Carl Hiaasen, Christopher Moore. Prefer Anne LaMotte's essays to her fiction. Adore Adam Gopnik. While I'm not a mega-athelete, I love reading about 'em. "Born to Run" and "The Wave" blew my mind.

Movies: Shawshank, The Fisher King, A Midwinter's Tale, All About My Mother, The Imaginarium of Dr. Parnassus, The Lord of the Rings, Stranger Than Fiction, Magnolia, Despicable Me (I want minions), My favorite Mel Brooks would be a toss-up between Young Frankenstein and Blazing Saddles. My favorite Tarantino would be a toss-up between Pulp Fiction and Kill Bill. Pixar: Nemo, Incredibles, Monsters.

I also LOVE Werner Herzog's documentaries! Encounters at the End of the World lives in my forebrain.

TV: Dr. Who, West Wing, Galactica, Fringe, Torchwood (!John Barrowman!), Saving Grace (!Holly Hunter!), Stargate Universe. Also just started rewatching Xena. I love the Grrl Power and the total camp of it. Can you detect a theme here?

Music: Michael Franti, U2, Lost Fingers, Paolo Nutini, Indigo Girls, Amy Winehouse, Ella Fitzgerald, Ray Lamontagne, Neville Brothers, Great Big Sea, Spiritual Rez, Barefoot Truth, Yo-Yo Ma (cellos are SO sexy). Not so fond of opera, country, punk, techno. But exceptions can always be made.

Also have an inexplicable fondness for Van Halen. Diamond Dave just cracks me up.

Food: Most of the time, I try to be a conscious organic/local/omnivore. With chocolate.

Not so fond of coconut, bananas, green peppers, okra, mushrooms, feet (i.e. chicken/pig), and organs - save for foie gras, which I just have to admit knocks my socks off. Other than that, if it's good, I'll try it.
The six things I could never do without
A decent pen.
My laptop.
A sharp knife.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How to save the world.
When I'll be able to get my feet behind my head.
On a typical Friday night I am
Could be friends, theater (performing or watching), movies, music, chilling, food, etc...
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I don't really know. Ask, and see if I answer...
I’m looking for
  • Guys who like girls
  • Ages 27–50
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
You've got something to say. An initial fusillade consisting of: "How R U?" is hardly an inspiring opener.

And a note specifically to the Millennial Dudes out there: Please don't ask me if I like younger guys - or if I have a fondness for a specific body part of younger guys. It's the stupidest question I've ever heard.

I like amazing people. If you are a fully-formed human being who rocks mightily, has an interest in the world, and shows up on time, that's really what I care about.