Who am I? I'm personified by provocative paradoxes, dazzled by distinctive disparities, and sucked in by seemingly screwy singularities. In other words, I don't fit any typical type, have strong artistic and analytic sides, steer with heart and mind, and am strongly attracted to others who are similarly diverse.

I can't imagine (and wouldn't want) a life without passion. Passion for my work, my ideals, my music and passion (yea and love) for people. I seek heart and smart (don't you?). Compassion is another of my qualities that I seek in others. I try to live by the golden rule (ideally platinum) and want the same in my friends.

Laughter is also essential. I have a quick and active wit and love to be with people who share this quality (or at least get my jokes). I'm very playful, sometimes silly, and live life with a childlike sense of wonder and delight.

Music is one of my great passions and joys (among many). Its a great counterpoint to my career (which is dominated by analytic, scientific thought). I play a little guitar, harmonica, sing and write the occasional song (usually acoustic bluesy stuff). If you play music or sing, I love to co-create. I'm no pro (hell no!), but pretty soulful for a white guy (or so I'm told).

I love live music (especially blues), being outdoors, and savoring great food (sometimes closing my eyes when I chew) and surprisingly even bars (dive bars + live music = awesome). I've been a 49ers season ticket holder for about 12 years (and praying for less suckage, as only an Atheist can). Although food and drink are some of life's great pleasures, I employ moderation. But remember, even moderation can be carried to excess! And the problem with resisting temptation is that it might not come around again. :) FYI, an update: turns out it does (often), so no problem, resist if that's what's right.

OK, now my personal relationship philosophy. Great relationships grow from strength. They are built upon sharing each others' bounty not filling each others' voids. Also (this is quite important), we have each others' backs. Oh yeah, and we've got to have lots and lots of playful fun. And what am I looking for? I have no expectations yet no limits.

Exploring, learning, teaching, changing, growing. I just can't stop. Oh, and the occasional nap. :)

Wonderfully, continually more friends, love and joy in my life. Inspiring one another, supporting one another, sharing ecstatic great times with one another, helping each other grow and change. My divorce, almost three years ago (from a five year marriage), was a great stimulus for growth. I was assailed with negativity of unimaginable intensity (at least for me, 'cause I'm not that kind of guy). Yet I did not succumb to the dark side :-). I maintained my peace and integrity throughout the fire (with the help of my friends and my music), finding my path to grow stronger, more centered, and happier than ever before (Yeah, and even more loving). And am sharing what I learned with others (we lift up one other). Damn great stuff.

Growing in my music. Maybe that stuff I just mentioned above has something to do with it (nothing inspires creativity more than "interesting" times). Writing more, playing more, and sitting in on friends' gigs more than ever before. Man, I'm having fun.

My career path has been twisty, now on my third career. First, BA in Psych, so naturally, I worked in software for 6 years (intellectually stimulating but dry). Then an MBA but I felt my peers were to focused on $$, so onto an MD and then an ER doc for 7 years (less intellectually stimulating but quite wet). Now four years into a new career that combines it all. Destiny? Its a great mix of tasks; scientific, medical, intellectual, analytical, social, political, planning and execution. I lead with my heart and my head, and am always learning (and always teaching) and that makes me a happy boy.

Friendships, integrity, communication, learning, teaching, being there, change, getting joy from music (it's transcendent for me), wit, humor, passion, my career, analytic thought, amusing myself.

There’s nothing like the wonderful interplay of kissing infused with tenderness and fire. We communicate with each other through our kisses. Unconsciously syncing with each other’s rhythm. Tender and teasing. Playful, passionate and strong. Talking, laughing, smiling, touching each other deeply, making love, making nasty, all through our kisses. We lose ourselves, but we’re all there, together as one.

Hmmmm, maybe kissing too?

Eyes, smile, arms, warmth, playfulness, loquaciousness, salaciousness.

books, movies, music, and food? Anything but uni!

True connection with others, thought, music, passion, giving, great food and drink (does that count as one or two?), warm sun on my skin, humor and laughter, play, kissing, idealism and pragmatism (sometimes a tenuous coexistence), pheromones, new math.

Aural pleasure (giving and receiving, melody and rhythm), friends, politics (I don't and won't disassociate), health care policy (I'll talk your head off about this one if you so desire, I love having a mission, a calling), oh yeah and that other thing too.

Cigarettes, but less and less. Stopped smoking on 9/21/09 and don't expect to turn back 'cause my heart is pure so I have the strength of 1000! 10/16/09 update: Still smoke free, had I dream where I dreamed (in my dream) that I smoked in my dream's dream. But none in RL!

OK, OK, I might actually be "More Spiritual" although OKC labels me as "NOT." Well, when it comes to answering jargon based spiritual questions, such as OKC asks, and adhering to any specific formalized belief system, then by those measures, I am not "More Spiritual." On the other hand, if you look at the way I live my life and the way I connect with others, you just might reach a different conclusion. But, as a native New Yorker, I shy away from "spiritual" terminology and jargon. At the Health and Harmony Festival, a wonderful friend of mine, after she performed on the "Goddess Stage", introduced me to her friends as "the male version of a goddess." I kid you not. She told me later, that was her way of saying that I'm spiritual. So, I might actually be "More Spiritual" but shhhhh, please don't tell anybody.

We may co-inspire. You are smart, compassionate and warm (they're different), passionate (about something), sensual, non-traditional, you've got an edge (with a gooey center), you create (or at least appreciate it in others), can't help but to laugh, live with integrity and think you can handle me.

Too much? Or is this Goldilocks territory?