At the risk of sounding overly pessimistic, I spend a lot of time
thinking about why I fail at relationships. I've had an account
here for most of the last ten years. I average a meeting about once
every 3 months or so, but I hesitate to call any of them dates
since none of them ended with anything romantic - not even a
I refuse to blame all women for this - the problem must lie in me.
I'm the only consistent factor in all these meetings. That said, I
do fear that the problem might be in the sort of women that I match
highly with - that the sort of women I get along the best with
would have chosen life in a nunnery 800 years ago. Maybe I should
give up and join a monastery. I won't do that of course because
that's the wrong attitude to have when taking such a vow.
I guess I'm not that good at first messages. In my own defense
though most women's profiles suck (and the men's are even worse).
Women complain of getting bombarded by empty messages from guys
(Hey, What's up?), which is understandable (who wants love spam?),
but if your profile
reads like a checklist
off of Dating Cliche's 101 you're part of the problem and have only
yourself to blame for the lack of quality in the messages you
Speaking of religion, while it's important to me I don't like
seeing my faith used as an excuse for bigotry, nor do I endorse the
idea of enforcing religious law in a secular arena. This puts me at
odds with others who are religious, and those who are not hate me
for being religious. I'm screwed either way so I just try to keep
my opinions and beliefs to myself.
I'm terrified of ending up alone. I'm trying to get over that few
and act more "normally" around women but if I can't then this fear