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My self-summary
More then 20 years ago, I left New York and retired to the Caribbean, looking for my Tropical Island Paradise. However, New York has always remained my legal home, to which I return periodically. I am willing to relocate.

Yikes! The calendar says I'm in my sixties,
but how can that be true?
I still feel like one of those young hippies,
is the same true for you?

To me, life is an adventure,
so let's make it a shared venture.
Are you willing to take a chance,
and join me in life's dance?

Cold blackened slush drove me from New York City,
I loved it there, so that's a pity;
but living on a on a tropical island is not so bad,
so I have no reason to be sad.

A land with exotic flowers is where I fled,
this island beauty is widespread.
But the sun, sand, and surf,
are also reasons for my mirth.

An island is surrounded by the Sea,
but, no Mermaids are looking for me.
Life can be perfect, that is true,
that is why I'm here looking for you.

Because we are in different locales,
we must start by being pen pals.
A friendship that we can grow,
will never cause us any woe.

Friendship is a kind of love,
it is a gift from heaven above.
And perhaps it becomes romance,
if we only give it a chance.

The fiery cauldron of love melts ice and snow,
so back to New York I am willing to go.
Back to a cold world filled with ice, slush, and snow,
for the one who touches my soul.

The candle-lit dinner completed, the band begins to play our song. Our fingers touch, and we glide onto the dance floor. I hold you close and whisper sweet nothings into your ear. As the music stops, just standing there, melting into each other's arms, feeling the gentle heartbeat and the softness of your flesh. To walk, arm in arm along a deserted moon-lit beach. Then, as we reached the doorstep of our home, we laugh, jump and play like children. We rush up the stairs leading to an outdoor balcony, where our nest overlooking the moon-lit sea awaits us. And then, and then, oh joy, wonder and delight as we move into the mystery of the night.

Yet, each moment we are together is romantic, just because we are together. Whether it be playfully washing dishes together after a meal; cuddling together watching TV; or doing nothing but looking at that special gleam in the other's eye which is silently saying "I am so happy to be with you."

So, how do I summarize myself? How about: My name is Charlie and I'm a really nice, but unconventional, guy who you would enjoy getting to know.

If that is not enough, let me add some basics. I see myself as being eclectic, faithful, intelligent, a free-spirit yet responsible, honest, affectionate, and playfully cheerful. I have a warped sense of humor and can laugh at myself. I thoroughly enjoy life, and live an easy lifestyle. While I am not dogmatically religious, I am very spiritual, and appreciate the beauty and wonder of creation. My puppy-dog will vouch that I am kind, considerate, and friendly.

I believe the key to any relationship is the fearlessly complete, and genuine communication of the mind, heart, body, and soul, which are necessary for love to flower and flourish. This requires nonjudgmental acceptance of who a person is, and if necessary, compassion for the road they have traveled and the mistakes they may have made.

Since I live in the middle of an ocean, our relationship will have to begin as long-distant pen-pals. I will tell you my history, and how I ended up on a tropical island (no pirates were involved). I have had a very interesting life. I am an open book and will answer any questions you have directly and unambiguously. I do not play games with a person.

Starting out as long distance pen-pals is really the safest way to proceed. We both know next to nothing about each other now. I might be Hannibal Lecter or Freddy Krueger, for all you know. But over time our qualities, both positive and negative, will become apparent as we communicate and expose our inner being. While our bodies may not touch, our minds can. We can grow in intimacy, exploring every nook and cranny of each other's mind and soul.

When the time is right, and we feel comfortable, I have the financial means to enable us to meet in person. This could be either a vacation to each others home, or going together on a cruise, either an escorted "Singles Cruise" with separate cabins or not. Only after we met in person, would we decide what the next step would be. Being pen-pals need not be the ultimate destination, it may only be the course we have charted to get there.

But the first step is to contact me and let me know if you're interested. You don't have to say much, just "Hi" will do. As I will explain in our first messages, I AM EXTREMELY SHY and it is unlikely I will reach out to you.
What I’m doing with my life
I'm "retired", but that only means I no longer HAVE to do anything, it doesn't mean I no longer WANT to do anything. It means I have the freedom of choice, my life is not ruled by economic necessity.

I have no biological children of my own, but I am very concerned about what kind of world we are leaving to our children. While I am basically a beach bum, soaking up the sun on a beautiful Caribbean beach, and thoroughly enjoying the good life, I am also writing a book. I describe in the section below: "I Spend A Lot of Time Thinking About."

However, let me tell you about the life I lead, and the one I invite you to share with me.

More then 20 years ago, I left New York and retired to the Caribbean, looking for the Tropical Island Paradise I had always dreamed about. I went to St Croix in the US Virgin Islands. Ten years later, having seen and done everything on that small island, I moved to Cabarete in the Dominican Republic.

Like the Virgin Islands, the Dominican Republic also has beautiful, uncrowded palm tree laden beaches and crystal clear water for swimming, snorkeling, windsurfing, and scuba diving. Cabarete is also one of the kiteboarding capitals of the world. However in addition, the Dominican Republic is large enough to have mountains with cascading Whitewater rivers for rafting, and trails alongside for horseback riding and hiking. During the mating season, I can go to Samana Bay and watch Humpback Whales leap and perform their antics vying for the attention of the females. The natural beauty here is incredible.

The living pace here is much slower and more relaxed than it is in the States. In the morning before going to a beach, 100 yards from my home, I relax in a hammock cooled by a tropical breeze, and sip a drink as I watch the kites of the kiteboarders float and dance in the clear blue sky. If I don't want to walk to the beach, I dive (belly-flop to be exact) into my pool, and my housekeeper serves me lunch at noon. After the sunset the beach clubs, in the center of town, pulsate with a hot Latin beat as people dance the night away.

At night, as I walk along the now deserted beach, I look out to countless stars that arc above a moonlit sea. I sit down on the white sand beach and listen to the waves sing their song, as they come crashing into the shore. Then as I gaze at that wondrous sky, a shooting star blazes across the heavens. And with a reverent awe, I think to myself, what a wonderful world, this is truly paradise.

There is an itsy-bitsy, teeny-weeny (yellow polka dot bikini) problem in my paradise, which explains why I am here on OkCupid. The Dominican Republic is a non-English speaking country. It is nearly impossible to have a serious conversation about life with the local women. At best, they speak broken English and do not know the nuances of the language. The same is true about my mastery of Spanish. Communication is at the heart of any relationship; no communication, no relationship.

However, there is a large community of expatriates here and the cable television has CNN, Fox, HBO and all the sports and Network channels in English. But most of the English-speaking expatriates are men, and the women tend to be under 30 or married. I love my paradise, but I fear, I will have to relocate to find love.
I’m really good at
This calls to mind a silly little ditty my mother would tell me, whenever I was too pleased with myself as a child: "I love myself, I think I'm grand, when I go to the movies I hold my hand, I put my arm around my waist, and when I get fresh, I slap my face."

What I am good at is attempting to make dreams come true for myself and others, in other words, giving a person hope. There is nothing more important than giving someone hope, where they see none. Whether you succeed or not, you've given someone a gift that they will always value. I've got a little personal story about that.

My father was the stage carpenter for the original production of "Man of La Mancha". What is not widely known is that the Kennedy family were major angels (investors) for this show. It was about the redemptive power of idealism, and pursuing a dream. In many ways it was very personal for them. "Man of La Mancha" opened on November 22, 1965; the second anniversary of President John Kennedy's assassination. When his brother Bobby was also assassinated, the show was very slightly and inconspicuously changed. The following quote from Ted's eulogy for Bobby was added to the dialogue: "Some men see things as they are and say why? I dream things that never were and say why not?"

I will not go into it, but the show opened at a critical time for my family, as all my father's dreams were being threatened. Sometimes in the profession theatre, you can go for an extended period of time without a hit. Out of desperation, my father had accepted employment at a second rate "Broadway House", the "ANTA Washington Square Theatre". He did so because there was a new musical, "Man of La Mancha", scheduled to open there, and he could serve the dual roles of "Production Carpenter" and "Head House Carpenter", for this relatively bare-boned show.

Before the official opening , the show was not received very well. It was not located in the "Broadway" theatrical area, so it did not receive a lot of foot-traffic business. In previews, my father had to cover a number of empty seats in the audience because of that. There is nothing more depressing for an actor then looking at a half empty house.

But every night during this time of uncertainty, my father would come home and say "It's a really good show, and I just know it is going to be a hit." At that point, this possibility seemed more of a dream then a reality. But, what is a dream, but a belief and hope for the future. The morning after the show opened, when the reviews came in, I saw the effect of what happens when a dream proves not to be impossible. My father finally knew, that because of this show everything would be fine for his family. As you may know, the show went on to become the longest running musical at that time, and the song "The Impossible Dream" is a standard. Making hope possible for others became one of the guiding principles for my life.

When I was a union officer, I was able to help others in times of crisis due to sickness or disability. Often they came to me when the "system" had denied them, and they had no hope, and their dreams were about to be shattered. In some ways, they would remind me of my father when he did not know how things would turn out. I believe there is no such thing as an impossible dream if one is willing to focus, sacrifice, persevere, and work in order to achieve it. But above all, never give up hope. In helping them, I was also accomplishing my dream, and I felt that, in a way, I was paying homage to my father. My whole attitude was summed up by the following little prayer I had posted behind my desk at work.

I am here only to be truly helpful.
I am here to represent Him Who sent me.
I do not have to worry about what to say or what to do,
because He Who sent me will direct me.
I am content to be wherever He wishes,
knowing He goes there with me.
I will be healed as I let Him teach me to heal.
The first things people usually notice about me
My tranquility. I'm very calm and serene, nothing personally upsets me. I know I control how I see and interpret events. Becoming mad or upset only ruins my day, and does nothing to solve a problem. If another person tried to push my buttons and I react, I know I am giving them exactly what they are looking for. So why react at all.

My sense of humor which is goofy, and sees the irony in most things.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I have not lived in the States for more then twenty years, so in many ways any listing I made would be dated.

I am open to any new experience, and will enjoy it to the max at the time I am experiencing it. But on the whole, you can not go wrong with those things that have earned the label "Classic."
The six things I could never do without
Of course, the basic necessaries of life: Clean air, clear water, good wholesome real food, a temperate climate, security and privacy in my own being. The things that are slowly disappearing in the United States today.

The mysterious force of Love that created the Universe, and seems to watch over me and protect me.

My cute little puppy dog who is an endless wellspring of love and affection.

Love and friendship

My computer and internet

Laughter and joyful kidding

Learning new things

A good conversation

The small things that makes life so beautiful
I spend a lot of time thinking about
While I am not dogmatically religious, I am very spiritual. I believe the universe is composed of both material things and a spiritual component (such as the Mind) which can not be directly perceived. Scientific quantum theory says an observer's mind is necessary to force a possibility into an actuality. Hence the need for an observer before the existence of the material universe - A Creator's mind. But other then this, I know nothing.

I have never been able to understand, how beliefs about something we can know nothing about with any certainty, can cause so much pain. What made people believe: "9-11", "suicide bombing", "Jonestown", "Waco", murdering doctors who terminate unwanted pregnancy, and "the Inquisition" were expressions of God's will?

Since I spend so much time thinking about it, I would like to share some of my thoughts with you.

We live in a world dominated by fear. It is being ripped apart, and stands on the brink of destruction, because people attack, and demean others, when their beliefs about God differ. But who has ever seen God, the Creator of this beautiful universe.

Some say "God is a Spirit", "God is Love." But, God reveals Himself differently to each of us. "Stop judging, and you will never be judged. Stop condemning, and you will never be condemned. Forgive, and you will be forgiven." Only this attitude will stop the downward spiral towards destruction and death that the world seems to be on.

I had only been a spectator, sitting on my beach, viewing a world divided by hate and fear. I would watch the images on TV, of all the broken, bloody bodies of small innocent children; and then, as I gazed out my window at local children playing, a cold shudder would go through me, and I would ask: Why God, why? I believe His small inner voice answered me, and told me that, maybe it is time to try to do more than ask. A God who is a Spirit, a God who is Love can act only through us.

Therefore, I am writing a book on the insanity of Religious Conflict. I ask you to join me in bringing it to fruition. If not for ourselves, then for all the innocent children.

Look at a little child, of any race, color, economic status, nationality, or religion. It knows only love, and is easily attached to everyone it meets. A child is innocent, and truly knows God. However, as it grows up, we teach it suspicion, fear, and hate. We teach a child to judge some people as good, and some as bad.

The wisest man who ever lived said we had it reversed, it was we, who had to learn from the children. "Truly I tell you, unless you change and become like little children, you will never get into the kingdom of heaven ... behold, the kingdom of God is within you."

The only way humanity will stop destroying humanity, is if we do our part to stop it. No matter how small and insignificant our part may seem to be, if we do nothing, who will.
On a typical Friday night I am
1) Spending time at home reading, or surfing the internet doing research on my book, or doing the actual writing of it. This is the most responsible, but least fun way to spend a Friday night.

2) Or I will gather with a few of my friends for a quiet Friday night dinner party, and a discussion of what is going on in the world. We should all be delegates to the UN.

3) Sometimes, I will go out with my friends, check out the local entertainment in town, and party hardy. In this way, as difficult as it is, I am helping the local economy.
You should message me if
PLEASE NOTE: I had left OKcupid when it was bought by had a bad habit of making up women they said were "into me", who then disappeared once I subscribed. Here, I was getting "Likes" on days when I had no visitors. I do not like being played for a fool. If you just "like me", I can not be sure if you are a real person or an imaginary being designed to make me join the A-list. If you are real and want to begin a conversation, message me, even if you only say "Hi". I did not remove my profile at the time I left, and only returned to OKcupid recently. That is why OKcupid has me listed as "reply infrequently to responses." If you message me, I will get back to you; if you only "Like me", I will not.

You should message me for most any reason you would like (including but not limited to):

You started to read my profile last night, and wanted to thank me for a good night's sleep.

You work for the Hallmark card company, and you would like to offer me a job writing bad poems.

You think I might be an interesting person to know, and maybe establish some type of relation with. Even if only pen-pals. Who knows what will come of it.

You want to discuss or debate any of the ideas or things expressed in my profile.

Definitely contact me if you think I might find you to be an interesting person, "you think outside the box." I delight in meeting people who are different from me in any aspect. After all, variety is the spice of life.

Even if you are not interested in me personally, I still would welcome any help you would be willing to give me on my book. Any type of critique is helpful.

Thank you for your kind attention in reading all this, I know this profile was too long.