I've recently finished two and a half years in amazing Telluride, Colorado, because I told my mother a few years ago that if she ever had to get chemo again, she wouldn't go through it alone. Not long ago, after two months of doing hospice for my mom, I lost her. Yeah, there's a mom-sized hole in the world. But after three years of making my mother my number-one priority, I am turning to a new priority: the woman I'll spend my life with. I've never really enjoyed dating as much as I've longed to meet my dearest friend. Sometimes I can imagine what it would feel like if you were around.
The Dude Does Not Abide. I am probably not someone you'd call chill and laid-back. I've been told I seem calm and unflappable, but also that I have crackling energy. I have the heart of an artist and entrepreneur, and the left brain, let's say, of a lawyer who was fortunate to get first-class training in critical thinking at a top law school. In sports involving implements I'm an abomination. Did my growing up in Germany, Alabama, and a small-town Colorado, but have an East Coast sensibility. A quick mind and tongue, but an intention as gentle as the Buddha's. I revere irreverence.
Power of Now.I am utterly present to a woman and the poetry of her body -- in conversation, in flagrante delicto, or in silence. I'm learning every day what it really means to pay attention, and what the power of now can do for a relationship.
Yearn. I've traveled to all but one state and to 37 countries, my favorites many times. I could imagine living with you at least part of the year abroad, living a creative and loving and generous life among like-minded sorts, near natural settings within 30 minutes from real skiing.
Heart. I'm curious. As a teenager I identified with Don Juan's classic riff: "For me there is only the traveling on paths that have a heart, or on any path that may have heart. There I travel… and the only worthwhile challenge is to traverse its full length.
"And there I travel looking, looking, breathlessly."
The picture of me that you like most is the one I look most like.
MY BEST FRIEND
You are passionate, confident, open, funny, expressive, active, awake. Curious about the world and everything in it, you're always learning. Maybe you consume books like chocolate, like cotton candy, like chocolate. You have your own life, your own power, and are happy being independent. Your key lessons are largely known to you. You intend to enter into a mutually conscious, ever-growing, fearlessly searching relationship. You are that wonderful combination of smart and kind; you're warm and nurturing to all. Probably you have a real soft spot for animals. You're slenderest (not skinny) and toned and have great legs. You can imagine liking a man picking out flattering clothes for you, with or without your presence. You can email me a scan of an embossed certificate attesting to the absence of major personality disorders.