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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 36–50
  • Located anywhere
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Today – 10:42am
6' 1" (1.85m)
Body Type
Other and laughing about it
Post grad
Might want kids
English (Fluently), German (Somewhat), Italian (Somewhat), Spanish (Somewhat)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Life is good. I love sharing good things with other people. Also, 48 is my real age, 6'1" my real height, I am really single, undefeated in being faithful, and I still have all my hair, teeth, and marbles.

I've recently finished two and a half years in amazing Telluride, Colorado, because I told my mother a few years ago that if she ever had to get chemo again, she wouldn't go through it alone. Not long ago, after two months of doing hospice for my mom, I lost her. Yeah, there's a mom-sized hole in the world. But after three years of making my mother my number-one priority, I am turning to a new priority: the woman I'll spend my life with. I've never really enjoyed dating as much as I've longed to meet my dearest friend. Sometimes I can imagine what it would feel like if you were around.

The Dude Does Not Abide. I am probably not someone you'd call chill and laid-back. I've been told I seem calm and unflappable, but also that I have crackling energy. I have the heart of an artist and entrepreneur, and the left brain, let's say, of a lawyer who was fortunate to get first-class training in critical thinking at a top law school. In sports involving implements I'm an abomination. Did my growing up in Germany, Alabama, and a small-town Colorado, but have an East Coast sensibility. A quick mind and tongue, but an intention as gentle as the Buddha's. I revere irreverence.

Power of Now.I am utterly present to a woman and the poetry of her body -- in conversation, in flagrante delicto, or in silence. I'm learning every day what it really means to pay attention, and what the power of now can do for a relationship.

Yearn. I've traveled to all but one state and to 37 countries, my favorites many times. I could imagine living with you at least part of the year abroad, living a creative and loving and generous life among like-minded sorts, near natural settings within 30 minutes from real skiing.

Heart. I'm curious. As a teenager I identified with Don Juan's classic riff: "For me there is only the traveling on paths that have a heart, or on any path that may have heart. There I travel… and the only worthwhile challenge is to traverse its full length.

"And there I travel looking, looking, breathlessly."

The picture of me that you like most is the one I look most like.

You are passionate, confident, open, funny, expressive, active, awake. Curious about the world and everything in it, you're always learning. Maybe you consume books like chocolate, like cotton candy, like chocolate. You have your own life, your own power, and are happy being independent. Your key lessons are largely known to you. You intend to enter into a mutually conscious, ever-growing, fearlessly searching relationship. You are that wonderful combination of smart and kind; you're warm and nurturing to all. Probably you have a real soft spot for animals. You're slenderest (not skinny) and toned and have great legs. You can imagine liking a man picking out flattering clothes for you, with or without your presence. You can email me a scan of an embossed certificate attesting to the absence of major personality disorders.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
In 2011, my mom and I walked across Spain together on the Camino de Santiago, and we kept a blog we called Camino Not Chemo). The travelogue of the trip was well-received, and people thanked me for writing of our last weeks together, so I'm inspired to fulfill my promise to my mom and finish the book so Meryl Streep can play her in the movie.

In 2013 I joined a former client in starting up a company that has developed an algorithm for differential medical diagnosis (like a symptom checker), but closer to a human specialist). Our mission is to reduce suffering, and I'm passionate and committed, determined and in flow.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Strategy, according to the StrengthsFinder
Asking questions. Getting at what matters
Driving a stickshift. In my M3. On curvy mountain roads. While you sort of adorably clutch at the handle on the roof.
Skiing with abandon
Cultivating compassion

Not so good at:

Sports involving implements
Holding my tongue
Relationships involving assumptions
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
In approximate order:

• my profile, since the Internets
• "You look like a WASP." (The cross I bear, but I do carry trace amounts of blood from Cherokee, Blackfoot, and Hebrew tribes)
• "airline pilot's voice"
• lot of fine hair
• dent in nose
• Eyelashes long enough to paint with
• Butt is too hard (my rolfer)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
The Spiritual Discipline of Karaoke I listen to most genres of music, many leather-bound Pandora stations, etc., but I love to listen to and sing the music I also love to dance to. My playlist Songs in the Key of Speeding Tickets skis well: I ski like Jack White plays guitar. In singing I have been mostly a rocker, and all tenor: Heartbreak Hotel and Jailhouse Rock, Johnny B. Goode and Roll Over Beethoven, Jumpin Jack Flash and Sympathy for the Devil, Brown-Eyed Girl and Papa Was a Rollin Stone, How You Like Me Now and Too Close - and yet: Empire State of Mind, Folsom Prison Blues, What'd I Say (Parts 1 & 2), and Seven Nation Army. And lately I'm starting to wonder if I'm ready to tackle some of the great soul singers. (Update: Mustang Sally going very well, Ain't Too Proud to Beg, not so much).

Some literary masters: Beckett (the Trilogy, the plays), Hemingway (the short stories), Garcia Marquez (the novels), Milan Kundera (his literary criticism), the critic Harold Bloom (whose central thesis of an agon among writers, not to mention prophets and religion-makers, has greatly influenced me), Donald Barthelme and Witold Gombrowicz (both wonderfully strange), Kafka, Twain ("Huckleberry Finn," because if you're going to write one book, maybe that should be it), George Saunders, David Mitchell ("Cloud Atlas" - genius), Cormac McCarthy (masterful "Blood Meridian" - high genius).

I love Italian, Thai, Indian, pho. German dishes are comfort food, especially with so many of my German relatives, and Mom, now gone. I prefer to take my Italian in Italy.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Electronics. Because here's why.
Chocolate or cookies with chocolate in them. Yoga. (Sometimes together).
Your delectable legs. Mountains (sometimes together).
Music for to dance and sing
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
what you are like

all my projects

why so many of you think you are "dichotomies"

the unbearable lightness of being
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
. . . in my abode, nice lighting, music playing, writing, or maybe watching a movie, but in any case enjoying the occasional old friend passing through town, with some fava beans and a nice Chianti.

. . . destroying a karaoke stage somewhere in Koreatown, Brooklyn, or Telluride, Boulder, Denver . . .
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I sing a good deal. Not for a living. In my morning shower, though, at karaoke at night, in your shower, maybe in that order. I like to make people do this at the Bohemian Biergarten.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You are confident you won’t find yourself overweeningly concerned -- and certainly not on the first few dates -- about my income, my degree of wealth, my retirement funds, my home equity, or why I “gave up” a prestigious law degree. Read my profile. It’s not what I’m about.

You consider not making baseless assumptions to be a spiritual and relationship best practice, just like karaoke.

The photos you post are of you, and not of a hot friend or someone you found on the Internet.

You do not make it a practice to “ghost” men you’ve spent any meaningful time with.

You will not call me up late at night, a few days after a first date in which you expressed no interest, and propose that, because you are currently ovulating and have been trying to get pregnant via IVF, I should come and inseminate you, even with a proper contract. :) True story.

I am a lot less likely to reach out or respond if you don't have good clear pictures of yourself. I'd like to see your eyes, your smile, and what you look like while standing next to everyday objects like mountains and wine goblets, bicycles and pencils.

. . . you don't mind that I dance like this.

. . . you imagine we could be real friends even if we never decide to date - and especially if we do.