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My self-summary
American, born in Niagara Falls NY (since so many of you want to know). Yes, the profile picture is current, lots of other pictures provide you with a pretty good idea of who I am (I think anyway).

*** French gents, my plans to be based in Corsica have changed abruptly - sorry. Scots, I have no idea how long I will be 'home' in Edinburgh.

I respect your time and my own so let's get off on the best possible first impression. If you decide to drop me a note please use my name instead of "my dear" or "beautiful" or "Hi" et al, it you don't use my name it tells me you don't care one fig about who I am or that you haven't bothered to read my profile even though you write saying you are intrigued by it. So if you are serious about knowing me please use my name otherwise I will not reply. My name is RIGHT HERE,, and with my name you can Google me to assure yourself that I am a real person. I haven't scared you off then you are exactly the kind of man I will genuinely appreciate.

I'd love to get to know you - but I can't if you don't fill out your profile or answer at least some questions, make a little effort I will more than meet you half way! We should share at least a 75% compatibility match, 60% friend match. Please do not write and attempt to 'talk me up' if we are less than that - you should want someone highly compatible as much as I do! I am seriously NOT interested in being your pen pal, or the girl on Skype video for "chats".

I would caution that self-identifying "Christian men" are most likely to be offended by my Eastern philosophy based views. Please self identify as spiritual, Agnostic, Buddhist or Atheist as I am probably going to drive you crazy over religion otherwise.

The RIGHT MAN is NOT MARRIED nor seeking a polyamorous relationship, nor does he smoke, do drugs, or drink more than modestly (modest, by my definition, is less than a glass of something per day).

Before leaving the United States I sold most of my things and put the balance in storage - I find myself ready for almost anything the universe offers. I would LOVE to enjoy a cup of tea, a glass of wine or a lovely Single Malt Scotch and conversation with you.

You don’t ‘need’ to have a woman in your life but want one again for the balance and stimulation the right one brings with her. You kiss with your eyes as well as your lips, especially if it's the inside of my wrist or the back of my hand! You don’t say ‘I love you’ every moment of every day but ‘say it’ in a thousand little gestures such as brushing a strand of hair out of a woman’s eyes, send flowers for no reason, present a kiss to the top of her head or near her ear, provide a hug even if she has a knife in her hand or is covered with wet mud from gardening.

If you think sending me pictures of your various (ahem) attributes is appropriate - it's not -nor is suggesting as much. I have a very healthy libido and will want your body as much as any other woman might but I want to share our bodies within emotional intimacy.
What I’m doing with my life
"Leaving the room lighter than it was when I came into it."

Expanding my consciousness and spirituality, and sharing the wisdom of several lifetimes and challenging those around me to "not hold the bouquet of flowers too tightly".

Finally, utterly, actively seeking not the perfect man but the man that is perfect for me. Apply here!!!
I’m really good at
making people seen the glass is half full if it isn't overflowing.

Being a friend and confidante (what's said in this room, stays in this room).

Baking yummies.

Making you feel so vital and dynamic that you will want to spend more time in our bed (or insert other location of choosing) in the morning.
The first things people usually notice about me
absolutely my smile! I once rendezvous'd with a business associate I had never met in the international departures terminal of Atlanta Hartsfield simply by saying "and I have a smile that leaves nothing to the imagination". Second would be my eyes, recently told they are "like fishing nets that draw a man in". Third, perhaps, that I use a fountain pen.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Food: Spicy, fresh, local, interesting, 'as healthy as possible without loosing taste' and beautifully prepared. Everything we eat should be a hug for the insides and do as little harm to the planet's eco-systems as possible.

Recent past reads:

Pulitzer Prize winning All the Light We Cannot See by Anthony Doerr
William Dalrymple Return of a King (Battle for Afghanistan, 1839 - 42)
Jack Cashill Ron Brown's Body
Diana Galbadon Voyager
The Man Who Quit Money by Mark Sundeen, The Great Arab Conquests by Hugh Kennedy
How the French Invented Love by Marilyn Yalom
White Lama: The Life of Tantric Yogi Theos Bernard, Tibet's Lost Emissary to the New World by Douglas Veenhof
Eugene Oneguine A Romance of Russian Life in Verse by Aleksandr Sergeevich Pushkin
Michael Ondaatje's The English Patient, (again)
The Forty Rules of Love: A Novel of Rumi by Elif Shafak
The Agony and The Ecsatsy by Irving Stone
Omar Khayyam by Harold Lamb
Robert Hellenga's The Sixteen Pleasures
guiltily, anything written by Ian Rankin
Always The Economist and The Guardian (for current events), Buddhadharma and Tricycle magazines, gardening and interior design books and shelter magazines.

In the interest of research for my 2nd book, have read all of these and more: Seductress: Women Who Ravished the World and Their Lost Art of Love and Swoon: Great Seducers and Why Women Love Them both by Betsy Prioleau, Grandes Horizontales : The Lives and Legends of Four Nineteenth-Century Courtesans by Virginia Rounding, Simply Irresistible: Unleash Your Inner Siren and Mesmerize Any Man, with Help from the Most Famous--and Infamous--Women in History by Ellen T. White, Courtesans: Money, Sex and Fame in the Nineteenth Century by Katie Hickman and The Circle of Eros: Sexuality in the Work of William Dean Howells
The six things I could never do without
No question my own integrity / authenticity / transparency (with the expectation that being such attracts the same)
A toothbrush (obvious), a pumice stone (not so obvious)
Intellectual stimulation which includes wry humor
A garden (to nurture my soul, to create beauty if only in one tiny piece of the world)
My antique French bed, maybe with you in it?, currently in storage
Open water in which to swim, my bicycle preferably both
I spend a lot of time thinking about
that our time on Earth is limited and so many of us seem to have lost sight of functioning from a state of kindness, from a failure to take personal responsibility, of accepting mediocrity and living in the lowest common denominator instead of challenging our brains, spirits and emotions to live in a state of gratitude, abundance and magic.
On a typical Friday night I am
Typical is like the word 'normal'
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
If you tell me something I will believe you and take your words at face value and without artifice - it never occurs to me to lie so I can't imagine why anyone should lie to me. Value me or lose me it's as simple as that.

Oh, and I have very sexy feet (if it matters at all to you).
You should message me if
...we have a compatibility percentage of at least 75%, you have a complete profile with photos where I can actually see your face in addition to any you have on top of a mountain doing whatever, you are ...not married, and if divorced have gotten through the healing process ...respectful of other peoples' time because you have a high personal regard for your own (if two minutes to you is actually twenty or more please do not bother). Say please and thank you, write long hand written letters on occasion, pitch in 'just because' and mostly live authentically and passionately every single day of our rather finite time on this Earth.