I am offering nearly complete transparency and once we decide to move outside of OKC I expect the same of you. As the old New Yorker magazine cartoon once noted 'on the Internet no one knows if you are a dog' a couple of OKC men have tried to present themselves as someone other than who they really are – tsk, tsk. Admittedly a Google search of my name even stunned me as to the number of results – and as a marketing communications professional in the tech space, an entrepreneur and an author I don't expect you to show up with as many results - but, you should show up!
We should share at least a 75% compatibility match, 60% friend match. Please do not write and attempt to 'talk me up' if we are less than that - you should want someone highly compatible as much as I do! What's more, The RIGHT MAN, btw, is NOT MARRIED nor seeking a polyamorous relationship. And, yes, finally despite how swept up Scorpio men (see blog below) can make this Aquarian woman - please don't apply, been there done that far too many times. Unless you are spiritual or Agnostic I am probably going to drive you crazy over religion - fair warning given.
Before we even get started you can Google me as well as read my blog http://teresafritschi.wordpress.com/ (it might be useful to treat it as something of an owner’s manual)
If this is off putting, or you are into games - please move onto the next prospective female in your queue of candidates.
I am NOT YET in Croatia - but am moving quickly forward in forming a business with a peer in the strategic communications space with the intent of providing global counsel to Croatian businesses. Yes, help with my Serbo-Croatian language skills would be most welcome!
I have a wicked laugh (which might be embarrassingly loud to you but is full of joy).
I am a girly-girl who plays in the mud (a ferocious gardener of considerable talent) and still manages to keep her red lipstick on.
I carve beauty out of nothing.
I am very likely the very best kisser you will ever kiss.
I am authentic, passionate and transparent.
I speak my mind and heart.
When I drink (infrequently) my choices are single malt Scotch, small batch gin and very good Champagne and micro-brews in support of spicy food, Red Sox baseball, World Cup Soccer and Scottish Rugby. I like my milk, beer and Champagne ICE cold!
I love the innocence of riding carousel horses (once three different carousels in the single day in January across Paris, and another time three different ones in two New England states).
I am fairly accomplished in the kitchen, but genuinely appreciate side-by-side food prep, I am willing to leave you to the grilling (as long as my steak is still rare in the middle).
I adore white tablecloth and candlelight dinners with tasting menus (by preference), picnics under a canopy of trees in dappled sunlight near open water or freshly steamed lobster and clams at a picnic table equally.
Kids (and their parents) tend to appreciate that I am very Mary Poppins like.
My knees will buckle and I will swoon when your hand reaches my face to cup it as you come to kiss me.
I love sailing, swimming in the ocean in October and May and at dawn - yes, even in the Northern Hemisphere, long distance bike (cycling) rides with stays at country inns and B&B's, in the city small boutique hotels where the staff acknowledge you by name after a single day.
I have NEVER suntanned a day in my life, nor had any cosmetic surgery done so even 16 year olds comment on my skin.
I am quick to cry tears of gratitude, hug, and be generous to personal detriment.
I am a world traveler, a critical thinker, widely read. Think Humanist meets mindful sensualist.
Real art hangs on my walls including my niece and nephews efforts in the kitchen - not reproductions and not posters (definitely not beer signs).
I will be early for my own funeral - that means I respect my time as well as yours, if you make a date with me KEEP IT or let me know in advance that something came up and reschedule - stiff me twice and we are done (this applies to virtual Skype dates too, and no, I am not kidding, and no, sending flowers as a postscript to apologise won't work - your email is very likely on your phone - use it).
If we ever get to the expensive present phase I DO NOT like diamonds - save your money!
Diverse music tastes (pray no gun rack Country, or trash word Rap) including: newly discovered Croatian 2Cellos and Gibonni, Classical Spanish guitar, Baroque, Chamber and Gregorian, opera, Classic Rock (Led Zeppelin, Springsteen, Crosby, Stills, Nash and Young, U2, Cat Stevens, Daughtry) Swing including Benny Goodman, Glenn Miller and Harry James, contemporary Scottish rock, sitar and anything that includes lutes or harpsichords!
Love Indie and foreign films, particularly French ones where I might expand my use of the language, and those where esoteric philosophy lays as a pearl might, hidden in cinematic gelatin.
I am not every man's dream woman - but the scope of my intellect, reverence for beauty, my independence, and sensuality should make me one man's perfect partner - I could care less about marrying, though I am not so risk averse that I wouldn't say yes if the right guy came along. If we "click" I will honestly give us two months - for you to woo me, and I you, or we should politely move on.
Presumably you are here, as I am, not for just a shag or someone with whom to have virtual sex. We all have histories but yours shouldn't have left you so damaged that I wish to flee from your need to have me in your life as a safety net. (Please, present yourself in "fullness of being" as I am certainly not perfect but I am very comfortable in my own skin.)
For those amongst us undaunted by change, who understand that everything is impermanent, we are offered multiple opportunities each day for growth and reinvention. That each day presents a wide swath of sensual pleasure to enrich our life - from the taste of a beautiful meal, the feel of dew on grass and bare feet, the tenderness or erotic passion of a lover running his hands through the tangle of my naturally curly hair to moonlight kisses as stars streak across the sky. If you are "out here" bridge the gap and help me find you.
If you truly resonate with me after all this then, for me, the right man will also have (much) more than single sentences posted about yourself. You will be curious, kind and highly literate - even if English is not your 1st language (I WILL improve or learn yours least you think this is a one way street of effort.) I doubt that you will never have been married but if that is the case ask yourself what has kept you from making such a leap of faith (in yourself or her). You might be a single content to not have kids of your own but are a fabulous uncle, or a single never married but part time dad. You might be a divorced dad or a widow with or without kids on a full time or cherished part-time basis.
I would LOVE if you were over 6’ in height (so when I put on high heels I still have to look up into your eyes) but as long as you are at least 5'10" (so my head rests on your shoulder) we'll be fine. I don’t care how much hair remains on your head, but I do care what is inside your brain (equally, if not more so, your soul)! You are not a man to sit on your backside with a remote in your hand. You enjoy your work and you are really very good at it (whatever it might be - including digging ditches) but it isn’t the singular definition of who you are. When you don’t have the kids (assuming you are divorced here) your life is a dynamic mix of intellectual, creative and physical pursuits. You should be thoughtful in a thousand tiny ways (I give as good as I get so please don't think this is all about my 'taking' from you), self-deprecating, charming, a strategic thinker capable of making decisions with dry wit, eccentricities and capability to get things done with you own hands – including those associated with sex - and in lieu of hiring a contractor most welcome. You are polite, occasionally wildly romantic (too much of a good thing can overwhelm or be taken for granted), help elderly ladies across the street and hail cabs for them. You can be a great conversationalist who understands the value of companionable silence as well as ‘quietude’ which is different than feeling lonely and sorry for yourself but an exploration of self.
You don’t ‘need’ to have a woman in your life but want one again for the balance and stimulation the right one brings with her. You don’t say ‘I love you’ every moment of every day but ‘say it’ in a thousand little gestures such as brushing a strand of hair out of a woman’s eyes, send flowers for no reason, present a kiss to the top of her head or near her ear, provide a hug even if she has a knife in her hand or is covered with wet mud from gardening. You kiss with your eyes as well as your lips, especially if it's the inside of my wrist or the back of my hand!
If you think sending me pictures of your various (ahem) attributes is appropriate - it's not -nor is suggesting as much. I have a very healthy libido and will want your body as much as any other woman might but I want to share our bodies within emotional intimacy. If you are not my friend first what happens to our conversation when the heady exaltation of falling in love is over? Suggest you read the answers to my questions about sex to see if we operate from the same place just with nuances related to gender.
Gents - full disclosure - OKCupid metrics indicate that Sweden is one of my "hot country's for finding love" - surprisingly the United States, the country of my birth, is not. I am NOT YET IN Sweden but it is more central to where I want to be within six months but we can't find one another if you think I am in Rochester NY! I am perfectly capable and willing to make any country my home WITH YOU without completely bending my life around you. I Hope that makes sense.