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53 F Zadar, Croatia

My Details

Last Online
Apr 16
5′ 6″ (1.68m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Other, and very serious about it
Aquarius, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from university
Sales / Marketing
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids
Likes dogs and dislikes cats
English (Fluently), French (Poorly), German (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Hi guys, thank you for stopping by.

I'd love to get to know you - but I can't if you don't fill out your profile or answer at least some questions, make a little effort I will more than meet you half way!

Before we even get started you can read my blog (yes, my real name so you can also Google me) and see if you like how my brain functions - (it might be useful to treat it as something of an owner’s manual). If this effort is off putting, or you are into games - please move onto the next prospective female in your queue of candidates.

We should share at least a 75% compatibility match, 60% friend match. Please do not write and attempt to 'talk me up' if we are less than that - you should want someone highly compatible as much as I do! The RIGHT MAN is NOT MARRIED nor seeking a polyamorous relationship, nor does he smoke, and unless you are spiritual or Agnostic I am probably going to drive you crazy over religion - I would caution that self identifying "Christian men" are most likely to be offended by my Eastern philosophy based views.

I am NOT YET in Croatia - but the date of arrival draws closer as the boxes stack up around me! Yes, help with my Croatian language skills would be most welcome!

I have a wicked laugh (which might be embarrassingly loud to you but is full of joy).
I am a girly-girl who plays in the mud (a ferocious gardener of considerable talent) and still manages to keep her red lipstick on.
I carve beauty out of nothing.
I am very likely the very best kisser you will ever kiss.
I am authentic, passionate and transparent.
While I like really good (darker) milk chocolate, my preferred candy treat are Pate de Fruits!
I speak my mind and heart.
When I drink (very infrequently) my choices are single malt Scotch, small batch gin and very good Champagne and micro-brews in support of spicy food, Red Sox baseball, World Cup Soccer and Scottish Rugby. I like my milk, beer and Champagne ICE cold!
I love the innocence of riding carousel horses (once three different carousels in the single day in January across Paris, and another time three different ones in two New England states).
I am fairly accomplished in the kitchen, but genuinely appreciate side-by-side food prep, I am willing to leave you to the grilling (as long as my steak is still rare in the middle).
I adore white tablecloth and candlelight dinners with tasting menus (by preference), picnics under a canopy of trees in dappled sunlight near open water or freshly steamed lobster and clams at a picnic table equally.
Kids (and their parents) tend to appreciate that I am very Mary Poppins like.
My knees will buckle and I will swoon when your hand reaches my face to cup it as you come to kiss me.
I love sailing, swimming in the ocean in October and May and at dawn - yes, even in the Northern Hemisphere, long distance bike (cycling) rides with stays at country inns and B&B's, in the city small boutique hotels where the staff acknowledge you by name after a single day.
I have NEVER suntanned a day in my life, nor had any cosmetic surgery done so even 16 year olds comment on my skin.
I am quick to cry tears of gratitude, hug, and be generous to personal detriment.
I am a world traveler, a critical thinker, widely read; think Humanist meets mindful sensualist.
Real art hangs on my walls including my niece and nephews efforts in the kitchen - not reproductions and not posters (definitely not beer signs).
I will be early for my own funeral - that means I respect my time as well as yours, if you make a date with me KEEP IT or let me know in advance that something came up and reschedule - stiff me twice and we are done (this applies to virtual Skype dates too, and no, I am not kidding, and no, sending flowers as a postscript to apologise won't work - your email is very likely on your phone - use it).

If we ever get to the expensive present phase I DO NOT like diamonds and they are a terrific marketing ploy - save your money!

Diverse music tastes (pray no gun rack Country, or trash word Rap) including: newly discovered Croatian 2Cellos and Gibonni, Classical Spanish guitar, Baroque, Chamber and Gregorian, opera, Classic Rock (Led Zeppelin, Springsteen, Crosby, Stills, Nash and Young, U2, Cat Stevens, Daughtry) Swing including Benny Goodman, Glenn Miller and Harry James, some Techno / club music, contemporary Scottish rock, sitar and anything that includes lutes or harpsichords!

I am not every man's dream woman - but the scope of my intellect, reverence for beauty, my independence, and sensuality should make me one man's perfect partner - I could care less about marrying, though I am not so risk averse that I wouldn't say yes if the right guy came along. If we "click" I will honestly give us two months - for you to woo me, and I you, or we should politely move on.

Presumably you are here, as I am, not for just a shag or someone with whom to have virtual sex. We all have histories but yours shouldn't have left you so damaged that I wish to flee from your need to have me in your life as a safety net. (Please, present yourself in "fullness of being" as I am certainly not perfect but I am very comfortable in my own skin.)

For those amongst us undaunted by change, who understand that everything is impermanent, we are offered multiple opportunities each day for growth and reinvention. That each day presents a wide swath of sensual pleasure to enrich our life - from the taste of a beautiful meal, the feel of dew on grass and bare feet, the tenderness or erotic passion of a lover running his hands through the tangle of my naturally curly hair to moonlight kisses as stars streak across the sky. If you are "out here" bridge the gap and help me find you.

If you truly resonate with me after all this then, for me, the right man will also have (much) more than single sentences posted about yourself. You will be curious, kind and highly literate - even if English is not your 1st language (I WILL improve or learn yours least you think this is a one way street of effort.) I doubt that you will never have been married but if that is the case ask yourself what has kept you from making such a leap of faith (in yourself or her). You might be a single content to not have kids of your own but are a fabulous uncle, or a single never married but part time dad. You might be a divorced dad or a widow with or without kids on a full time or cherished part-time basis.

I would LOVE if you were over 6’ in height (so when I put on high heels I still have to look up into your eyes) but as long as you are at least 5'10" (so my head rests on your shoulder) we'll be fine. I don’t care how much hair remains on your head, but I do care what is inside your brain (equally, if not more so, your soul)! You are not a man to sit on your backside with a remote in your hand. You enjoy your work and you are really very good at it (whatever it might be - including digging ditches) but it isn’t the singular definition of who you are. When you don’t have the kids (assuming you are divorced here) your life is a dynamic mix of intellectual, creative and physical pursuits. You should be thoughtful in a thousand tiny ways (I give as good as I get so please don't think this is all about my 'taking' from you), self-deprecating, charming, a strategic thinker capable of making decisions with dry wit, eccentricities and capability to get things done with you own hands – including those associated with sex - and in lieu of hiring a contractor most welcome. You are polite, occasionally wildly romantic (too much of a good thing can overwhelm or be taken for granted), help elderly ladies across the street and hail cabs for them. You can be a great conversationalist who understands the value of companionable silence as well as ‘quietude’ which is different than feeling lonely and sorry for yourself but an exploration of self.

You don’t ‘need’ to have a woman in your life but want one again for the balance and stimulation the right one brings with her. You kiss with your eyes as well as your lips, especially if it's the inside of my wrist or the back of my hand! You don’t say ‘I love you’ every moment of every day but ‘say it’ in a thousand little gestures such as brushing a strand of hair out of a woman’s eyes, send flowers for no reason, present a kiss to the top of her head or near her ear, provide a hug even if she has a knife in her hand or is covered with wet mud from gardening.

If you think sending me pictures of your various (ahem) attributes is appropriate - it's not -nor is suggesting as much. I have a very healthy libido and will want your body as much as any other woman might but I want to share our bodies within emotional intimacy.
What I’m doing with my life
"Leaving the room lighter than it was when I came into it."

Expanding my consciousness and spirituality

Finally, utterly, actively seeking not the perfect man but the man that is perfect for me. Apply here!!!
I’m really good at
making people seen the glass is half full if it isn't overflowing.

Being a friend and confidante (what's said in this room, stays in this room).

Baking yummies.

Making you feel so vital and dynamic that you will want to spend more time in our bed (or insert other location of choosing) in the morning.
The first things people usually notice about me
absolutely my smile! I once rendezvous'd with a business associate I had never met in the international departures terminal of Atlanta Hartsfield simply by saying "and I have a smile that leaves nothing to the imagination". Second would be my eyes, recently told they are "like fishing nets that draw a man in".
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Food: Spicy, fresh, local, interesting, 'as healthy as possible without loosing taste' and beautifully prepared. Everything we eat should be a hug for the insides and do as little harm to the planet's eco-systems as possible.

Currently reading: The Man Who Quit Money by Mark Sundeen, The Great Arab Conquests by Hugh Kennedy and How the French Invented Love by Marilyn Yalom

Recent reads: White Lama: The Life of Tantric Yogi Theos Bernard, Tibet's Lost Emissary to the New World by Douglas Veenhof, Eugene Oneguine A Romance of Russian Life in Verse by Aleksandr Sergeevich Pushkin, Michael Ondaatje's The English Patient, The Forty Rules of Love: A Novel of Rumi by Elif Shafak, The Agony and The Ecsatsy by Irving Stone, Omar Khayyam by Harold Lamb, Robert Hellenga's The Sixteen Pleasures, usually anything written by Ian Rankin. Always The Economist and The Guardian (for current events), Buddhadharma and Tricycle magazines, gardening and interior design books and shelter magazines.

Just ordered, in the interest of research: Seductress: Women Who Ravished the World and Their Lost Art of Love and Swoon: Great Seducers and Why Women Love Them both by Betsy Prioleau, Grandes Horizontales : The Lives and Legends of Four Nineteenth-Century Courtesans by Virginia Rounding, Simply Irresistible: Unleash Your Inner Siren and Mesmerize Any Man, with Help from the Most Famous--and Infamous--Women in History by Ellen T. White, Courtesans: Money, Sex and Fame in the Nineteenth Century by Katie Hickman and The Circle of Eros: Sexuality in the Work of William Dean Howells
The six things I could never do without
Intellectual stimulation which includes wry humor
A garden to work and play in
My beautiful bed linens and my antique French bed
My bicycle or the open water in which to swim - preferably both
A magical kiss that begins a love story
A toothbrush!
I spend a lot of time thinking about
that our global society seems to have lost sight of being kind, of taking personal responsibility, of accepting mediocrity and living in the lowest common denominator instead of challenging our brains, spirits and emotions. I don't want to 'live lesser' and I don't expect my friends or a lover (or my future husband?) to either.
On a typical Friday night I am
Typical is like the word 'normal' - every day, every night has remarkable potential to be A-M-A-Z-I-N-G and it's up to me (my friends, the special man in my life) to make it so. Let's be a little crazy and creative here (or there)!
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I trust perhaps too easily. If you tell me something I will believe you and take your words at face value and without artifice - it never occurs to me to lie so I can't imagine why anyone should lie to me. That said I have a highly honed sense of intuition which ferrets out the truth like an anti-cloaking device and I will either find out and validate that 6th sense or flee. Value me or lose me it's as simple as that.
I’m looking for
  • Guys who like girls
  • Ages 36–53
  • Located anywhere
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating
You should message me if
...we have a compatibility percentage of at least 75%, you have a complete profile with photos where I can actually see your face in addition to any you have on top of a mountain doing whatever ...are not married, and if divorced have gotten through the healing process are respectful of other peoples' time because you have a high personal regard for time (if two minutes to you is actually twenty or more please do not bother). Say please and thank you, write long hand written letters on occasion, pitch in 'just because' and mostly live authentically and passionately every single day of our rather finite time on this Earth.