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54 Motovun, Croatia Woman


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I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 36–53
  • Located anywhere
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Aug 19
5′ 6″ (1.68m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Other, and very serious about it
Aquarius, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from university
Sales / Marketing
Rather not say
Doesn’t have kids
Likes dogs and dislikes cats
English (Fluently), French (Poorly), German (Poorly)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
As part of my "own Ithaca" I came to Croatia in November 2014, stayed for 88 days, and found a "home" but not love

It would seem the universe agrees with my having found a home because I now find myself serving as the Chief Creative and Strategy Officer (for the time as a volunteer until we fix some operational functions) for an organisation trying to prevent hydrocarbons from being drilling for in the Adriatic and I am back in Croatia until the 5th of October mostly in Istria.

If we missed one another the first time around maybe you are still out there looking for me and we'll meet this next time around. Hope to meet you soon. :) Drop me a line! Oh, and as an American a road trip is something MORE THAN 800 miles round trip. So, if you are within 400 miles of Zadar (where I plan to be based permanently) and I am inspired to see something near where you make your home that means I would LOVE to enjoy a cup of tea, a glass of wine or a lovely Single Malt Scotch and conversation with you.

in the meantime - maybe this is you?

I know you

rarely, but sometimes, your absence is felt keenly – not that I cry, not that I lament

between what was, then lost and the dream, a reality waiting to be – again

I know you, but in this lifetime

I have never looked in your eyes, never tasted your kiss, felt the stroke of your hand across my skin

or the power of your flesh parting mine and merging into oneness

yet, sometimes, I feel you as a sheltering physical presence as I sleep, your breath moves my hair and raises goose flesh

and when I consciously long for you, whoever you are, wherever you live, and cannot find sleep

I imagine you spooned against my back, warm solidity

your arm beneath my neck where, when I wake, a constellation can be made connecting the freckles near my cheek

I know you, the sound of your whispers and laughter, how you read to a child

I can hear your thoughts and nod in affirmation, smile, wonder

Yes, even beneath the turquoise dappled in gold reaching the depths I know you,

I see you stretching out to push the oceans waters past you

crystalline droplets on your naked body as you lay on a stone warmed by the sun man in surf

I know the boy you were, the man you are, will immediately recognise you old or young – once the universe aligns

until then, know this

my heart, it has always been yours

I will wait for you

ten thousand lifetimes if need be rather than compromise, to live with less than what I know is ours alone

this sacred trust I keep


I know you (yes, my real name so you can also Google me) and see if you like how my brain functions - (it might be useful to treat it as something of an owner’s manual). If this effort is off-putting, or you are into games - please move onto the next prospective female in your queue of candidates.

I'd love to get to know you - but I can't if you don't fill out your profile or answer at least some questions, make a little effort I will more than meet you half way!

We should share at least a 75% compatibility match, 60% friend match. Please do not write and attempt to 'talk me up' if we are less than that - you should want someone highly compatible as much as I do! The RIGHT MAN is NOT MARRIED nor seeking a polyamorous relationship, nor does he smoke, and unless you are spiritual or Agnostic I am probably going to drive you crazy over religion - I would caution that self-identifying "Christian men" are most likely to be offended by my Eastern philosophy based views.

You don’t ‘need’ to have a woman in your life but want one again for the balance and stimulation the right one brings with her. You kiss with your eyes as well as your lips, especially if it's the inside of my wrist or the back of my hand! You don’t say ‘I love you’ every moment of every day but ‘say it’ in a thousand little gestures such as brushing a strand of hair out of a woman’s eyes, send flowers for no reason, present a kiss to the top of her head or near her ear, provide a hug even if she has a knife in her hand or is covered with wet mud from gardening.

If you think sending me pictures of your various (ahem) attributes is appropriate - it's not -nor is suggesting as much. I have a very healthy libido and will want your body as much as any other woman might but I want to share our bodies within emotional intimacy.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
"Leaving the room lighter than it was when I came into it."

Expanding my consciousness and spirituality, and sharing the wisdom of several lifetimes and challenging those around me to "not hold the bouquet of flowers too tightly".

Finally, utterly, actively seeking not the perfect man but the man that is perfect for me. Apply here!!!
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
making people seen the glass is half full if it isn't overflowing.

Being a friend and confidante (what's said in this room, stays in this room).

Baking yummies.

Making you feel so vital and dynamic that you will want to spend more time in our bed (or insert other location of choosing) in the morning.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
absolutely my smile! I once rendezvous'd with a business associate I had never met in the international departures terminal of Atlanta Hartsfield simply by saying "and I have a smile that leaves nothing to the imagination". Second would be my eyes, recently told they are "like fishing nets that draw a man in". Third, perhaps, that I use a fountain pen.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Food: Spicy, fresh, local, interesting, 'as healthy as possible without loosing taste' and beautifully prepared. Everything we eat should be a hug for the insides and do as little harm to the planet's eco-systems as possible.

Currently reading: William Dalrymple Return of a King (Battle for Afghanistan, 1839 - 42)

Just finished: Jack Cashill Ron Brown's Body, Diana Galbadon Voyager

Recent reads: The Man Who Quit Money by Mark Sundeen, The Great Arab Conquests by Hugh Kennedy and How the French Invented Love by Marilyn Yalom, White Lama: The Life of Tantric Yogi Theos Bernard, Tibet's Lost Emissary to the New World by Douglas Veenhof, Eugene Oneguine A Romance of Russian Life in Verse by Aleksandr Sergeevich Pushkin, Michael Ondaatje's The English Patient, The Forty Rules of Love: A Novel of Rumi by Elif Shafak, The Agony and The Ecsatsy by Irving Stone, Omar Khayyam by Harold Lamb, Robert Hellenga's The Sixteen Pleasures, usually anything written by Ian Rankin. Always The Economist and The Guardian (for current events), Buddhadharma and Tricycle magazines, gardening and interior design books and shelter magazines.

In the interest of research for my 2nd book, have read all of these and more: Seductress: Women Who Ravished the World and Their Lost Art of Love and Swoon: Great Seducers and Why Women Love Them both by Betsy Prioleau, Grandes Horizontales : The Lives and Legends of Four Nineteenth-Century Courtesans by Virginia Rounding, Simply Irresistible: Unleash Your Inner Siren and Mesmerize Any Man, with Help from the Most Famous--and Infamous--Women in History by Ellen T. White, Courtesans: Money, Sex and Fame in the Nineteenth Century by Katie Hickman and The Circle of Eros: Sexuality in the Work of William Dean Howells
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
A toothbrush
Intellectual stimulation which includes wry humor
A garden (to nurture my soul, to create beauty)
My antique French bed, maybe with you in it?
My bicycle or the open water in which to swim - preferably both
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
that our time on Earth is limited and so many of us seem to have lost sight of functioning from a state of kindness, from a failure to take personal responsibility, of accepting mediocrity and living in the lowest common denominator instead of challenging our brains, spirits and emotions to live in a state of gratitude, abundance and magic.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Typical is like the word 'normal'
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
If you tell me something I will believe you and take your words at face value and without artifice - it never occurs to me to lie so I can't imagine why anyone should lie to me. Value me or lose me it's as simple as that.

Oh, and I have very sexy feet (if it matters at all to you).
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
...we have a compatibility percentage of at least 75%, you have a complete profile with photos where I can actually see your face in addition to any you have on top of a mountain doing whatever ...are not married, and if divorced have gotten through the healing process are respectful of other peoples' time because you have a high personal regard for time (if two minutes to you is actually twenty or more please do not bother). Say please and thank you, write long hand written letters on occasion, pitch in 'just because' and mostly live authentically and passionately every single day of our rather finite time on this Earth.