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  • Ages 40–54
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Last online
Jul 30
5′ 4″ (1.63m)
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My self-summary
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Please note: I no longer respond to messages that don't reference something specific about my profile. I'm not interested in hearing about my eyes or my smile. Please also note that if you're looking for a Christan or a "lady", we're not a good match.

On 4/9 I turned 49. I like the's 7x7, and I like 7's. I had a great day. My son hugged me before school and remembered to say "Happy Birthday". I went back to bed and slept for another hour, then went out.

The owner at my favorite coffee spot treated me to a latte. My friend Judi and I took a walk. I met Judi at the coffee place about two years ago. We walked an unusual route, and at one point she said "I've never walked down this street before," and I sang "I have often walked down this street before", and she joined in. We saw a bench by a tree, and the tree had a sign hanging from it: "Welcome. Please rest." That was cool.
When I got home I checked facebook and email, and there were all kinds of nice messages, and I thought about what a blessing each person in my life is, and how glad I am that they're all there. The only birthday card was from DSHS--well, it was a letter. But in it they explained that the tax refund I got last month did not disqualify me for food stamps, which was a happy surprise.

I went upstairs and baked a vegan, gluten-free coconut cake because I'm on an allergy elimination diet right now, mostly to support my son, who is doing this diet because he has headaches. One of my adult housemates read me some of the responses on a reddit thread, which had us both chuckling. My parents called to sing to me. My daughter got home from school and we talked about her day.

Later, we had a beautiful dinner with the entire household: three adults and five kids. We drank bubble juice and toasted each other, and everyone went around the table and said something nice about me. J said I was the kindest, most patient mother he'd ever met, and one of history's best housemates. (I'm neither particularly kind or patient, but I work on both.) S said I was like his second Mom and he loves me (he's 11; I've been here since he was 5). E said I was like a second Mom to him, which brought a general laugh because I'm his first Mom....lots of nice things were said.

And then I walked my kids to their Dad's house on the next block, and talked a little with him before taking a walk by myself. It was dark by then, and the street was quiet, and the air, cool and soft. And I thought about how much love I have around me and how blessed I've been. Not capital-B blessed, but blessed nonetheless.

And that was pretty much me. On April 9th anyway.
What I’m doing with my life
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Living in community, facilitating life for lots of growing kids, walking, challenging my fear of people, carrying hope for a dying planet, enjoying life.
I’m really good at
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Parenting. I used to be really bad at it. But I've been practicing for like 14 years now, and I think I'm getting the swing of it. At least well enough for most days.

Living with people. I grew up in community, lived in dorms and shared houses, helped develop a cohousing community, and have now lived in a shared household with another family for six years. I've heard from a lot of housemates that I'm their favorite housemate ever -- usually followed by a horror story about their worse housemate ever, so maybe the bar isn't really that high.

Cooking. Not fiddle-foodie-chef good, but chicken soup and pot roast and try out a new recipe once in awhile good.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Favorite ever from all my lifetime books: Little Women, A Little Princess, Stranger in a Strange Land (although it gets stranger over time), Illusions, Writing Down the Bones, The Monster At the End of This Book.

Movies: Really good ones. A Princess Bride, Star Wars, the Avengers. Classics: Dr. Zhivago, Casablanca. Sometimes strange and beautiful ones: Inception. Sometimes little movies nobody's ever heard of: Welcome Home Roxy Carmichael, My Favorite Mister, the Guard. But mostly sci fi and spy stuff and funny. Or a funny sci-fi spy movie. And anything by Joss Whedon. Even Cabin in the Woods, which I saw twice because it made me laugh a lot.

I have lots of favorite shows, but haven't had time to watch any of them over the last few weeks and haven't missed them. Episodes piling up on Netflix and hulu that I plan to watch soon-ish: House of Cards, The Blacklist, Gotham, Marvel's Agents of Shield. Past passions: OMG! BUFFY!, Angel, Firefly. I think you get the drift.

Music? Music. Most of it. My favorite cooking music is a Pandora station based on Billie Holliday, Ella Fitzgerald, Cab Calloway, John Coltrane and Duke Ellington (among others). My favorite workout station is seeded by Black-Eyed Peas and LMFAO. I like alternative music (favorite band right now is Alt-J), classical. I like live music but not bars so much, and can't afford the Symphony often so most of my live music comes from buskers.

Food. Whole grains, fresh organic produce, good cheese (but not a lot of it). Chocolate. Coffee. Tea. Yeah, I eat meat. I like beans. Find a lot of restaurant food is too fat-laden for my tastes, but I do indulge occasionally.
The six things I could never do without
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My household, grownups and kids.
My family-of-origin.
Metro. Or some other public transportation system.
I'd say something food or beverage related, like coffee, but I've been doing little experiments in going without a specific food or beverage for a few weeks and it's been just fine.
Humor, which is really the emotional code for perspective.
Other stuff.
More other stuff.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
What I'm planning to cook on my next cooking night, my kids and my housemates' kids and all their challenges and how to help, how to help people get to a place of physical and emotional well-being, how to keep myself in a place of physical and emotional well-being.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Home with my family.
You should message me if
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You are more compassionate than self-interested.
You are contributing something positive in your daily world, even if it's small.
You have time for a friend.
People are attracted to you because you have a good vibe, not because you have money.
If people aren't toys or shiny objects or even treasured possessions.