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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 28–40
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Today – 5:04am
5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body Type
Atheism, and laughing about it
Gemini, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from Ph.D program
Science / Engineering
Strictly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Likes cats
English (Fluently), French (Okay)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I am a non-native species, transplanted after an East Coast childhood and book-learning stint in Boston. I have taken root well in the Bay Area, nourished by its people, environment, culture, and KQED.

I'm a button-down progressive - left of center, trying to be green, pretty conventional in appearance and daily life. More Archie Bunker than Ken Kesey. I am not now nor have ever been in a collective.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Fixing a Mr. Fusion device at work. Hiking, volunteer trail work (unpaid manual labor - awesome!), Bikram yoga (reminiscent of steamy East-Coast summers), some cycling. Doing my bit: Amnesty International, literacy tutoring. Rarely and privately playing the piano.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
* Keeping in touch w/ friends from age 1 until now
* Ordering Indian food sans English translation - NJ upbringing
* Making sweet potato pie, my fallback dessert. Chris Rock piqued my interest
* "Explaining science to people in a simple way" - random friend. I taught a weekend class "Our friend the nucleus: nuclear fission and fusion"
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
* TV: Curb Your Enthusiasm, West Wing, Modern Family, Family Guy, The Office. Yes-Chef Gordon Ramsey. Old school: Golden Girls!
* Books: Willa Cather: My Antonia = best novel ever. Confederacy of Dunces, Angela's Ashes, P J O'Rourke, Erich Fromm, Joseph Campbell
* Movies: Manhattan and other Woody Allen, Coen Bros (True Grit, Big Lebowski), Paper Chase, Caddyshack, Dolemite, Clerks
* Big comedy fan: Bill Hicks, David Cross, Richard Pryor, Patton Oswalt, Lewis Black, Lenny Bruce.
* Music: Magnetic Fields, Belle and Sebastian, old Billy Joel, Jim Croce, Matthew Sweet, Nellie McKay, Regina Spektor, Nanci Griffith, Classical (esp. Beethoven and guitar).
* Noms: East-Bay culinary nirvana: Southeast Asian dinner (when did Chinese become passe?), Souley Vegan's carrot cake, washed down w/ Trappist Belgian beer. Walk don't drive home!
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
* Scalp massager
* Friends: l'amitie est plus dure que l'amour (10th grade wisdom)
* My ride: Corolla baby! Midlife crisis will be an electric Tesla
* Whole wheat donuts - they exist in Oakland and are healthy, right?
* Inessential for organic life: hiking boots, yoga mat, music keyboard, bike

I'm a simple creature: five suffices. OK the last one's a set.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Enjoying life with fidelity to principles. Plus the jokers doing 55 in the left lane on 580. Explain it to me. Eco thingy? Slow foodies? Bitter Russians? NPR coma?
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Hopefully at a concert or city outing, like the Rigoletto or La Traviata simulcasts at AT&T Park. OK they were on Saturdays. Only in SF could an opera cause a traffic jam at the ballpark.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Some winter nights I wear hiking socks in bed - Brrrrr!
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You are careful - meaning full of care. For yourself, those close to you, your work, your world. You share or at least respect some values and interests. I'm not after a clone - I look forward to learning and sharing new things in a relationship.

Perhaps you tire of online dating's search-engine mentality. You get that relationships are partly a skill or art, and not entirely about finding a single perfect object of affection. That a relationship is something you do with someone, not an item you acquire.