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30 Pacific Grove, CA Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 25–35
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Online now!
6′ 3″ (1.91m)
Body Type
Strictly anything
Agnosticism, and somewhat serious about it
Capricorn, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from masters program
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Likes dogs
English (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly), Other (Okay)

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My self-summary
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I'm a poet and professor with a quick wit, a slow fuse, and a constant commitment to curiosity and joy. I'm a Peninsula native (CV/PG), but I lived in Tacoma, Boston, Pittsburgh, Oakland, and SF for 10 years (plus some brief world travels) before coming home to roost in Smallville.

I follow my family's ancestral Scottish motto: "Mean well, speak well, and do well." I'm a pacifist, a romantic, a doubter, a seeker, a horny bastard, a shameless empowerer, a silly puppy, and I will sacrifice everything before doing you harm.

Activity-wise, I love exploring the wilderness (Garland Park?), watching movies ("Homesman" at the Osio?), inappropriating board games (wood for sheep?), supporting friends and family (love mine and I'll love yours), learning, laughing, loving, and living. (And remembering what Ian Malcolm said: "Life finds a way"-- words to live by on OKC.)

Also, let's try some better definitions for those "Details":
-Ethnicity: single malt
-Height: 4'27"
-Relationship Type: Serif
-Pets: lightly at first, then with increasing interest
What I’m doing with my life
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Learning by teaching. Climbing via the rock gym. And hoping for a bike for Christmas and a book contract for Valentine's Day.

I also still want to be a dinosaur when I grow up.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
making people laugh and feel safely empowered by their differences. I'm a liberal/feminist/LGBTQetc-ist/humanist (although Joss said it better []), and the idea that rama lama lama ka dinga da dinga dong just naturally goes together with shoobop sha wadda wadda yippity boom de boom is fine and dandy with me, although I'm still figuring out how bawitdaba da bang a dang diggy diggy diggy fits into the picture.

I also played clarinet for 13 years. Hypothesize what you will.
The first things people usually notice about me
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One of my students last semester said my best attributes are "enthusiasm, compassion, and honesty." And my best friend added "fiercely loyal, sexually liberated, great taste in scotch." What else do you see?
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I'm an omnivore. If it tastes good, I'll eat it; if it doesn't, I'll still probably eat it.

Authors: Robert Hass, John Steinbeck, Norton Juster, Bill Watterson. I'm currently reading Louise Penny and John Jeremiah Sullivan.

Music: Beatles for the up days, Nick Cave for the down days, Bowie for the rest. Also Jack White, RHCP, Girl Talk, Charles Ives, Felix Mendelssohn, Don Ellis, Enter the Haggis, Bela Fleck, GN'R, Chanticleer...

Film: Yes please.

TV: Firefly, M*A*S*H, Doctor Who / Torchwood, The West Wing, Buffy/Angel, Sherlock, Elementary, Coupling, Arrested Development, Middleman, Star Trek, Python, Top Gear, Red Dwarf, BSG, The Walking Dead.

Games: Settlers of Catan, Apples to Apples (& Cards Against Humanity!), The Game of Real Life, billiards, bowling, bocce.

Food: see line 1.

Drink: Scottish beer; dark rum; di Saronno, Glenmorangie Nectar d'Or. Sue me, I'm a liquor snob.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1. The desire, if there are stars, to stare at the stars.
2. Leonard Cohen's voice singing "There is a crack in everything; that's how the light gets in."
3. Hugs that won't let go.
4. Friends & family that won't let go.
5. 8 hours per night.
6. Laughter, particularly in the face of reality.

(Bonus 7: the certainty that, someday, I will be owned by a dog.)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
. I also spend a lot of time thinking around, and under, and over, and beside. Am I trying to preposition you? Perhaps.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
My Friday nights are generally bigger on the inside.
On a typical Sunday morning, however, I am probably clinging by my fingertips to a piece of fake rock, thirty feet off the ground.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I was almost a member of a private Sherlock Holmes club. It was almost brilliant. I can also quote "Crocodile Dundee" more than should be appropriate. I'm a sperm-donor baby. I support feminist porn (e.g. porn made by independent feminist women in which everyone is treated and paid with respect). As you can tell, there aren't many things I like keeping private. To wit:
You should message me if
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you defy expectations and prefer memories to regrets.

Or if you agree with Calvin and Hobbes that "verbing weirds language."

Or if you like this poem called "Prayer" by Galway Kinnell, which, if I ever get a tattoo, will be my tattoo: "Whatever happens. Whatever / 'what is' is is what / I want. Only that. But that."

Or if you wish this prompt said "massage" instead of "message," because I will if you will.

But most especially if the thought of spending any significant portion of your life with jokes like "Instead of lifting weights, I started lifting the dictionary, and now I have amazing definition" doesn't send you screaming for the hills.