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My self-summary
I'm Jay (short for Jason), but you came for the main course, not this appetizer. Bon appetit!

Sometimes, I think I'm a bit too quirky for my area. You don't often find me doing a lot of the things most of my peers do. You're like to find me in a library grabbing a new book or chatting up friends on various forums or on a video game. I really like musicals and the opera, and I know how to ballroom dance. I know how to, even if I haven't done it in years. Counts!

I don't really drink unless with friends, and I don't smoke or do drugs. (How insanely boring, right? Gosh!) When it comes to a relationship or even a simple friendship, I like to give everyone a chance regardless of the way they look or act since you never know where you can find the right person. Personality, baby! (No, really...stop laughing. WHY DO YOU MOCK ME SO!? *mock outrage*)

I can be crude at times, tell some off color and awkward jokes, and my humor is known to be on the horrendously cheesy but don't let it fool you. I'm pretty darn romantic despite my silly behavior. Well, in my head I am...haven't had many opportunities to share these thoughts lately. I suppose that's what you get when you worked thirds. No longer!

If you're looking for a guy to challenge your mind with lots of questions, both silly and intelligent, stop reading, go immediately to the message it and start writing! I like to make you think, and I like to challenge your mind as well as BE challenged. Keep me on my toes as much as I do you and we'll get along fine.

I should mention now that I'm a father to a fantastic little girl that goes by the name of Bella. (No, she wasn't named for Twilight.) She lives in Maryland with her mother and comes back and forth every so often, but that doesn't change the fact she's still my girl and we chat everyday via phone or Skype as best we can. She's priority one, always. Believe me, I make sure that when I look for someone to date or fall for, she's not only good for me, but for Bella as well. Can't have any bad eggs, right? They tend to stink up a place.

(Also, if you happen to swing by my profile and decide I'm not your type, don't be surprised to get an icebreaker of sorts from me. If you read it and don't want to carry on a conversation, that's totally fine with me. At least I tried.)
What I’m doing with my life
Boy, what am I NOT doing with my life?

Starting 2016 I've been taking a much longer look at my life and the direction it's going in. I've hired a credit counseling service to help get me off of this debt train so I can work toward a better future. I'm also looking at going back to college to finish the goals I set out for myself years and years ago. I spend too much time messing up myself and my life to have finished, and that doesn't set a good example for my daughter about the value of education, so it's a baby step in the right direction. I've been looking at broadcast media and computer sciences. I really like seeing what people are doing with Twitch and Youtube Gaming, making a successful career out of something they're passionate for. That motivates me to want to do what I love. I'm also working on the idea of a fallback plan of business.

If none of this works, I'm going to fulfill a lifelong dream (that I just made up on the spot) of becoming a stripper for the blind.

For work at the moment I sell office supplies in Mishawaka as well as video games. One of these I love...guess which one.

I'm also trying to rock that 'dad distance' thing. It doesn't work out so well, but it's better than being a nobody to her.
I’m really good at
I'm really good at fixing broken computers and giving advice on what you might need within your price range. If only I'd take my own advice from time to time.

I'm a great person to vent to or come to for help. I'd rather give you an honest thought based on what I see instead of giving you something sugar-coated.

I'm good at making people laugh. Or cry. Usually crying at bad puns. That's the kind of intangible I'm looking for.

I am fantastic at driving. Really, some people out there just scare the hell out of me on the road. Or the sidewalk if intoxicated.

I will wow you with my knowledge of things geeky/nerdy. Or fake it enough to learn as I go.

I'm great at striking up a conversation with anyone, anywhere, any time.
The first things people usually notice about me
I've got some nice brown eyes hidden behind glasses, so you'll have to watch to see them.

I've been trying to change my habits, but I'm still a big guy with more to love right now.

When I talk, my voice can be pretty silly-pitched. I can give you a number of impersonations to make you laugh.

I smell like fresh out-of-the-shower Irish Spring most of the time, or some light cologne when out on the town.

My favorite, though, is how I've got one hell of a smile going on. Mischief is on display every time.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books - I will read anything. :D Right now I'm finishing The Hunger Games series, and Stephen King's 'Under The Dome'. Tops on the list would have to be The Great Gatsby and Catcher in the Rye. 1984, Animal Farm, Brave New World, The Grapes of Wrath, The Mortal Instuments series is another good read. Also the entirety of The Looking Glass Wars.

Movies - Spaceballs, BASEketball, Repo!, Moulin Rouge, Rent, Made of Honor, Gatsby, Resident Evil. It varies from genre to genre, really.

Musicals - I could go on forever about them, but the favorites are: Moulin Rouge, RENT, Repo! The Genetic Opera, The Book of Mormon, Rocky Horror, Godspell, The Music Man, Dr. Horrible, Avenue Q, Spamalot, and Wicked.

Video Games - Rift, Aion, Guild Wars 2, damn near every console (currently have an Xbox One and PS4, working on the Wii U next) If you put it in front of me, I will try it. And probably fail happily.

TV Shows - Doctor Who. I mean, come ON. What's not to love about a 900+ year old mad man flying around in a blue box through space and time? I don't watch too many other shows unless I'm at work. I don't even have a TV here at home, but that's because I can stream through the wonders of my PC. I'm also a fan of Archer, The Walking Dead, The League, and WWE Monday Night Raw (Yeah, I watch wrestling...yes, I know it's not real.)

Also a subheading under this, I'm a huge fan of all things Rooster Teeth and Achievement Hunter. FunHaus also makes the list.

Music - When you used to spend your nights in a rock radio station, you tend to follow what's on there. That's only a small sample for me. My phone is full of everything from Beethoven to NWA. Vanilla Ice to Skrillex. Imogen Heap to the Rocky Horror Picture Show soundtrack. Gospel to Pop. Punk to Emo. Indie, Scene, Screamo, Country. You name it, I'll give it a whirl!

Food - Italian cuisine. I make a fantastic chicken parmesan on some thin pasta and marinara sauce. I also really enjoy some French Toast. A food that goes great at all hours of the day.
The six things I could never do without
1. My daughter. Priority one. Would you expect anything less?
2. Intimacy. Whatever you want to call it...I'm a person built on being near someone.
3. Creativity. If there weren't people out there using their minds and ambition to dream big, I wouldn't be able to set my sights on getting to that level.
4. Literature. I need something to stimulate my mind as much as my heart.
5. Good music. This is a no-brainer.
6. The Internet. I know, this seems out of place. Why, you ask? Being able to connect with people from overseas, new music, the latest in gadgets...what more can this Web do?
I spend a lot of time thinking about
My future. I've wasted a lot of it, but I won't let it define me. You are never too old to pick back up where you've left off and make something of it.

I also spend a lot of time thinking about my little girl and what she's doing. When she's in another state, it tends to make me wonder. She's a cute kid and full of adventure. How could I not?

I also think about life, and what we do with each action. Not just for ourselves, but everyone. Even just smiling at someone can brighten their day. I try to go out of my way to be kind.
On a typical Friday night I am
On a normal Friday night, I'm probably just getting off work and back home by 9pm. What happens after that is anyone's guess. I'm not used to the idea of having evenings free anymore. Guess we'll have to play it by ear.

Ideally, I'd like to be out doing something enjoyable. Bowling, mini-golf, strolling the mall or taking in a good concert with great people. The activity isn't nearly as important as the people you spend it with.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I once had a contest at my former 'job' as a radio station nighttime sidekick where callers suggested how they were going to torture me. The winner got concert tickets by telling me how they were going to rip up comic books and smash a PS4 in front of me. THE HORROR.

I will run faster than I should away from someone near me with a way, no how.

I still believe in happily ever after. And unicorns.
You should message me if want a workout buddy. Or if you're like me and need one. understand the number 42 and its significance. Nerds and geeks always get a free pass. have a favorite Doctor. actually appreciate proper spelling. know about Geeks Who Drink, or just enjoy pub trivia in general. I'm always looking for new haunts, so to speak. can wow me.'re an actual geek/nerd. find yourself tired of all these ellipses. (Bonus points if you know what an ellipses is.)

...last, but not least, you want to. I'm always glad to talk.

(bonus points are given for red hair and glasses. what...don't look at me like that.)