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21 West Hollywood, CA Woman, Trans Woman, Gender Nonconforming, Genderqueer

Woman, Trans Woman, Gender Nonconforming, Genderqueer

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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 18–35
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Jun 9
Homoflexible, Lesbian, Queer, Gay
Hispanic / Latin, White
5′ 9″ (1.75m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Aquarius, but it doesn’t matter
Dropped out of two-year college
Open relationship
Mostly non-monogamous
Doesn’t have kids
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
My Name is Naomi. I'm a transgender, pansexual, polyamorous, anarchist, musical, godless heathen. This is The Proust Questionnaire:

1. What is your idea of perfect happiness?
Being surrounded by people who love and care about me as much as I love and care about them, with some good music and cuddles. Absolute connection and acceptance.

2. What is your greatest fear?
Missing out in life because of fear. Fear is the mind killer.

3. What is the trait you most deplore in yourself?
The ease in which I slip into negative thought loops that produce self destructive anxiety. The callousness in which I can treat people.

4. What is the trait you most deplore in others?
Their tendency to accept beliefs without questioning them and the lack of understanding they give to others.

5. Which living person do you most admire?
My love in Hawaii for her compassion.

6. What is your greatest extravagance?
I'm extremely cheap, but sometimes I just want some good food.

7. What is your current state of mind?
A little bit annoyed and frustrated.

8. What do you consider the most overrated virtue?
Hard work. You should do things well, surely, but life is meant to be enjoyed. Many modern jobs are absolute wastes of effort and exist for no reason at all except as a way for you to "prove" your right to exist.

9. On what occasion do you lie?
If I deem it necessary to help myself or someone else who doesn't deserve to be ratted out, without harming anyone else.

10. What do you most dislike about your appearance?
I don't much like my legs.

11. Which living person do you most despise?
Perhaps my creepy high school film teacher. Anyone who abuses their power in general.

12. What is the quality you most like in a man?
Not afraid or ashamed to be feminine.

13. What is the quality you most like in a woman?
Not held back by bullshit gender expectations.

14. Which words or phrases do you most overuse?
anyways, I dunno, seems like, maybe, oh wow, oh cool

15. What or who is the greatest love of your life?
"What" would be music. So far "who" would be a girl in Hawaii.

16. When and where were you happiest?
Hawaii 2013. That's also when and where I was the saddest.

17. Which talent would you most like to have?
I wish I could sing better.

18. If you could change one thing about yourself, what would it be?
I would be a cis girl.

19. What do you consider your greatest achievement?
Maybe one of my songs. Hard to choose the best one.

20. If you were to die and come back as a person or a thing, what would it be?
A big tree.

21. Where would you most like to live?
Hawaii. Maybe up north like Portland/Seattle, but I've never been.

22. What is your most treasured possession?
My guitar. Or perhaps my bird necklace given to me by my love.

23. What do you regard as the lowest depth of misery?
Total isolation. That trance like state that makes suicide seem doable.

24. What is your favorite occupation?
It might be fun to be a paid musician. I've really enjoyed canvassing for charity groups.

25. What is your most marked characteristic?
I don't know.

26. What do you most value in your friends?

27. Who are your favorite writers?
I really enjoy David Foster Wallace, Albert Camus, Kurt Vonnegut, and Noam Chomsky.

28. Who is your hero of fiction?
Hmmm.... Perhaps Meursault from The Stranger, perhaps Yossarian from Catch 22, or Perhaps BMO from Adventure Time

29. Which historical figure do you most identify with?
Maybe Albert Camus

30. Who are your heroes in real life?
There's quite a few people who inspire me with their kindness. I prefer to keep that to myself :)

31. What are your favorite names?
Julia, Alma, Isabel

32. What is it that you most dislike?
Cruelty. Liars.

33. What is your greatest regret?
Wasting so much of my life trying to be something I'm not.

34. How would you like to die?
Surrounded by loved ones, slow and painlessly.

35. What is your motto?
Just breathe
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I don't even know.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I can make music and stuff.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My voice isn't very feminine.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Books: The Stranger, Catch-22, The Fall, Cat's Cradle, Slaughterhouse Five, Whipping Girl, White Noise, Understanding Power, Operating Manual for Spaceship Earth, A Queer and Pleasant Danger, Calvin and Hobbes

Movies: There Will Be Blood and the rest of Paul Thomas Anderson's Movies, Tarantino's movies, Fargo, Little Miss Sunshine

Shows: Louie, Girls, The Wire, Adventure Time, Silicon Valley

Music (a small selection of favorites): Sufjan Stevens, Radiohead, Elliott Smith, Nick Drake, My Bloody Valentine, Neutral Milk Hotel, tUnE-yArDs, The Beatles, Nirvana, LCD Soundsystem, of Montreal, Pat the Bunny, Frank Ocean, Frankie Rose and the Outs, St Vincent, Tame Impala
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
I could do without any of these things, I just really don't want to:
1. Music
2. Guitar
3. Internet
4. Bicycle
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How to answer this question. I have trouble putting my thoughts into words many times, so to know the answer I'd have to just let my thoughts come soaring out of me stream of consciousness style like I'm doing now, but its hard because i dont really type fast enough for my thoughts. its like my thoughts are all backed up because of one late train then the train behind it gets backed up and its starts this whole chain of events and soon everyone is late and the thoughts just get bored so they leave through the emergency exit before the train ever enters the station and then ive lost the thoughts completely. its like a never ending current or some underwater stream. what if I broke through the ice and got swept up in the current i suppose i could try that but my thoughts just never end they keep coming faster than i can swim or breathe or think or anything and then they dont even make sense and i start to contradict myself because really maybe theres nothing going on in here its just jumbled madness in abstract form and so thats why i dont spend too much time thinking. i just like to let the pure sensations of like wind and soft sheets take me away and theres bliss.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Lately my fridays are spent cuddling with a friend.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I like to be a pet.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
you're cuddly.

Also, you should know, it takes a long time for me to feel comfortable enough with someone to be intimate (or to smoke weed) with. Even if I like you, I'll probably be quite reserved and platonic for a while. Unless I'm drunk I guess, that tends to speed things up. It just makes all social interactions so much easier!

I wonder how many things I can caveat with "unless I'm drunk."