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37 Oakland, CA Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 25–40
  • Near me
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Mar 23
5′ 7″ (1.71m)
Body type
Mostly anything
Atheism, and somewhat serious about it
Sagittarius, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from law school
Open relationship
Mostly non-monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Likes dogs and dislikes cats
English (Fluently), Chinese (Okay), French (Poorly), Japanese (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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I'm kind of a nerd. I'm into creative board and card games: Dominion, Battlestar Galactica, Sentinels of the Multiverse. Bonus points if you know what these are.

I can cook well when the occasion calls for it, and I usually cook something quick if it's just me.

I just graduated law school, and am interested in the non-profit sector. Or at least a job that doesn't make the rich richer.

I understand sports and watch them from time to time, but I don't go out of my way to catch a game. Superbowl Sunday and the World Series always creep up on me. Usually I realize it when I notice the streets are empty and there's random cheering from the neighbors. Oh, and the Mission is on fire.

When there are things to be done, I put it on the calendar and follow through. I also make sure I put just regular hanging out time on my calendar, too.

I dance lindy hop, blues, fusion, and balboa. Partner dances. The pic with me and the woman in a dip is from when I won 1st place in a fusion competition last year. I'm also an instructor, DJ, venue host, and event organizer in the dance scene(s).

I'm open/poly/nonmonogamous, and looking for dates with snuggly people.
What I’m doing with my life
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Meeting amazing people, developing established friendships further, and also restoring integrity wherever I can.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
- having amazing, life-changing conversations;
- doing what I say I'm going to do; and
- proper usage of semicolons when making a bullet list.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I don't fit into most people's Asian stereotypes.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Non-fiction books about psychology, sociology, religion, economics.

Music: Blues, Jazz, Swing (for dancing). For non-dancing, I like folk, alt-rock, indie, rock, soul, funk, and generally good music of any genre.

I'm fairly adventurous with what I eat. If I see something on the menu, and I don't know what it is, that's usually what I'll order.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1) Sleep (it makes my days more alert);
2) My amazing friends;
3) The necessities (clothing, food, shelter)... obviously;
4) Well, actually, all I really need are the necessities;
5) And I guess I don't actually need those, either, since I'm gonna eventually die anyway;
6) Did I mention I'm an existentialist?
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
clearing my mind.

I guess that means I spend a lot of time thinking about not thinking. And then I stop thinking about not thinking, and then I'm just not thinking at all. Wow, so zen.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
at my leadership program classroom, until it's over in April.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I've had my navel pierced since I was 18.
You should message me if
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you want a snuggly date with a cuddly person, and real conversation that may just change your life.