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29 M Brooklyn, NY

I’m looking for

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  • Ages 21–29
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  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

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Today – 4:30am
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
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Graduated from masters program
Art / Music / Writing
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Okay)

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My self-summary
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I've just moved from London to New York to promote my second novel. My first one did fine in the UK but nobody in this country bought it. I may only have one more chance. Help me lay siege to the fortress-like hearts of the American people.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Sitting alone in a room for thousands of hours a year. But in a totally glamorous way! Plus the occasional brief book tour.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
"I heard again and again, from women who instinctively prized nothing so much as a well-written profile, was that, as rare as it may be, 'good writing is only a sign of good writing.' Graceful prose does not a gentleman make." - from the New Yorker article about OKCupid, July 4th 2011. So I'm trying to keep this relatively clumsy. Might as well mention here that I am a huge New Yorker magazine fanboy; I once did karaoke with some of the copy editors and it was one of the most star-struck nights of my life.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I've never mastered the "kiss hello". I never will. Often if possible I try to engineer some sort of distraction at the critical moment. So watch out for that.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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John Updike, Ford Madox Ford, William Gibson, Graham Greene, JG Ballard, Michael Chabon, China Mieville, Don DeLillo, Jorge Luis Borges

Days of Heaven, The Philadelphia Story, Blade Runner, Vertigo, The Sweet Smell of Success, Synechdoche New York

Sleater-Kinney, Sonic Youth, PJ Harvey, Burial, 90s New York rap

Damir Doma, Ann Demeulemeester, Rick Owens

The single best mouthful of food I've had in New York was roasted eel at Han Shin Pocha in Flushing
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Two things: a hip flask and foam earplugs. They are the yin yang of my life. A while I visited the Museum of Anatolian Civilisations in Ankara, where I was delighted to see not only a pair of the beaten gold ear plugs with which the Hittites sometimes used to stopper their dead, but also a funerary vessel that looked to me not unlike a hip flask. I certainly hope to be buried with both. (I haven't found many good precedents for this, though. F. Scott Fitzgerald's hip flask, with its adorable inscription from Zelda, ended up in the archives of the University of Alabama, and I don't really see him as an earplugs guy.)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Most of my writing so far is about urban planning, public transport, wild animals that live in cities, and/or sexual jealousy.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
I like my cocktails like I like my dogs: surprisingly effeminate.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
People tend to use this space for some sort of admission about their relationship to this website, so I'll note here that I was quoted in a London Review of Books essay that my friend wrote about it

Oh also last year they were unfavourably reviewing one of my books on the radio and they announced that I "[don't] know much about women." On the other hand, I recently wrote an article for a women's magazine about what men in their 20s think about sex, so I can at least pose as an authority.
You should message me if
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You're happy to let my charming British accent do 90% of the work. (I'm joking, of course.) (I'm not joking.)